hi friends' i m soo confused, my hubby likes to watch blue films ,sex pic and video on net he do this almost whole night even i faught for this soo many times but he dont change this . we were marrid from 3 years . but he attracted towards these things. Idont know what tto do pls help me..............
2007-11-07 22:53:07 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have told him it is disgusting , even he apologise but after some days he do the same thing
2007-11-07 23:06:28 · update #1
i often watch with him, he dont show intrest in me but he loves me this is i m 100%sure
2007-11-07 23:10:54 · update #2
I hear alot of "this is harmless" crap... let me tell you about some people I know... one couple (if you want to call them that, he's a jerk!), her husband sits online and chats to women after work... shuts the door, ignores his wife and kids (5 of them)... this all started w/ porn... eventually, the porn was not enough... he wanted to see women naked on cam! and wanted to be able to talk to them! so he spends most of his time after work in the chat rooms and talking to his lady friends on messenger... =(... another man (I call him a boy) started watching the porn online... then, he started up in the chat rooms, looking for teens to talk to! and I am not talking 17 year olds...I am talking about 15 year olds that he would chat with and watch on cam! His wife eventually divorced him... they had 3 kids... then, later on, she found yet another man addicted to porn! so, she divorced him, too, plus some other crap was goin' on...she found out he was still married (filed taxes w/ someone else years earlier when living together was common law marraige)... 1 of her sons had died but she still had the 2 kids... then, there are many men out there who want to act out what they see in the porn... threesomes, swinging/swapping, etc... so you see, it is harmful, not harmless! porn makes spouses feel like crap because these people have huge you know whats, sigh =(... I also want to say that I dumped a dude for this before I met my husband... I had 2 girls to think about, and he was too busy thinking about porn when he was not with me! see, women like me need a man who is totally devoted... so, I dumped him... then, there is the story of my brother, who watches porn in front of his own daughter!!! while she is awake!!! so, there you have it... the horror stories... if I am making you really think, good! since computers came out w/ internet, porn has become so common, it's sad! and it's not right! you don't know wht else your husband is into when you are not around... do you want to live life wondering if you are good enough? I didn't think so... basically, he has a problem, and if I were you, I'd tell him if he didn't stop, it's divorce... but, that's me... we have kids... and I don't want to teach them that it's ok to play w/ yourself all day looking at porn! good luck... may you do what's right... alot of men these days say, "at least I am not out cheating"...well, porn is cheating... you'd rather look at those women/men than your wife/husband... marraige vow is to forsake all others... ALL! looking upon another naked person is lusting and is a sin people! good grief, I just want to slap some people silly! ugh... but if your husband didn't quit, I'd divorce... life is too short to live like this...!
2007-11-07 23:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ticks me off is that men really think this is reality. That woman want to take it in the back door and to swallow his juices. I fight with my husband over the same things. We hardly ever make love but we do have sex everyday, sometimes a couple times a day. I no longer love him because he has made me feel cheap. I just go outside of my body while doing the deed and will be leaving him in three more years when our child graduates. Show all of these answers to your husband. If they don't get through to him then nothing will.
Maybe you should watch some male porn and then make comments like Oh baby that looks like our mechanic and "I wish he were my plumber"! Make him think that you are associating these men with real live people and he may get jealous and agree to stop watching the smut if you will..
2007-11-07 23:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Watching the movies is harmless unless he's also doing something that could be illegal ie child porn . Before the net magazines, strip clubs, videos etc were the norm but most men tried to be discreet about it. There's so much sex on the net that no one seems to hide it anymore.
If he's spending all his time on the net and ignoring you then it can cause problems. Talk to him about it and instead of asking him to give it up entirely ask him to limit his use. If he's going to have a relationship with his computer more then you eventually you won't have one.
hope it all works out
2007-11-07 23:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to make a choice. If it bothers you that much, then tell him seriously no whinning (he'll shut you off in a heart beat) . If he doesn't listen go out with your friends, you need to keep your self esteen up. If it gets real bad, don't pay the bill, let it get shut off. Stop doing things for him if he can't respect your feelings. Always protect your self. Stuff like that can break a marriage cause the girl, feels inadaquate to whats being view. Don't stoop to that, Try to get him out of the house, rekindle the fire (with out the movies)
2007-11-07 23:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by dolly c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad habit sounds more like porn addiction - google it - there are lots of sites geared towards helping people break out of it... assuming he's willing to work with you on this
2016-04-03 01:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a Christian I'd have to tell you to pray for him. That's the best you can do. This is a spirit that's got a hold of him and it's a tight one. God can get help! If you want someone to pray with you about it or help you in prayer then email me. I'll help. We don't have to know each other or talk to pray together.
2007-11-07 22:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by WWJD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porno can be addictive, especially for males. It's unusual for a male to prefer watching electronic digits over "handeling the real thing" physically. Your hubby may also be a "voyeur". Males, especially young adults seem to be pre occupied with their penis. Fantasy may be driving this urge of his to view others in action. Physical sex is the first to die out in a relationship. Talk to him with an OPEN mind about this. He may have hidden "needs/fantasies" that once exposed to you, the two of you can "play" at. Sex is in the head, the body is just flesh. Remember, catch his attention & you will control his desires!
2007-11-07 23:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does he make love to you afterwards? Some men do use porn as some kind of prelude to sex with their partner and see no wrong in it. n saying that, it can be degrading for you. My advice would to tell him that it offends you as a woman and he may need help. What he may see as innocent can be seen as wrong by you. Some couples like to watch porn before making love, but if one partner is uncomfortable with it, you need to tell him it disgusts you.
2007-11-07 22:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by No! I'm NOT Elton John 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, obviously not a great situation, but better virtual sex than extra marital.
Don't fight him on the 'training' films, tell him he has to stop by 11pm and come to bed for some practice. ;-)
BTW: You might read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husband" for a list of 'effective' convincing methods.
2007-11-07 23:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him to get help or get out of your marriage. Wait 6 - 9 months, then look for some nice gentleman who will be good to you.
2007-11-07 22:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋