hi friends' i m soo confused, my hubby likes to watch blue films ,sex pic and video on net he do this almost whole night even i faught for this soo many times but he dont change this . we were marrid from 3 years . but he attracted towards these things. Idont know what tto do pls healp me..............
2007-11-07 22:52:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yahoo copied the question but I answered on the other one. When men act out like that, it is no longer about love and respect..
2007-11-07 23:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear alot of "this is harmless" crap... let me tell you about some people I know... one couple (if you want to call them that, he's a jerk!), her husband sits online and chats to women after work... shuts the door, ignores his wife and kids (5 of them)... this all started w/ porn... eventually, the porn was not enough... he wanted to see women naked on cam! and wanted to be able to talk to them! so he spends most of his time after work in the chat rooms and talking to his lady friends on messenger... =(... another man (I call him a boy) started watching the porn online... then, he started up in the chat rooms, looking for teens to talk to! and I am not talking 17 year olds...I am talking about 15 year olds that he would chat with and watch on cam! His wife eventually divorced him... they had 3 kids... then, later on, she found yet another man addicted to porn! so, she divorced him, too, plus some other crap was goin' on...she found out he was still married (filed taxes w/ someone else years earlier when living together was common law marraige)... 1 of her sons had died but she still had the 2 kids... then, there are many men out there who want to act out what they see in the porn... threesomes, swinging/swapping, etc... so you see, it is harmful, not harmless! porn makes spouses feel like crap because these people have huge you know whats, sigh =(... I also want to say that I dumped a dude for this before I met my husband... I had 2 girls to think about, and he was too busy thinking about porn when he was not with me! see, women like me need a man who is totally devoted... so, I dumped him... then, there is the story of my brother, who watches porn in front of his own daughter!!! while she is awake!!! so, there you have it... the horror stories... if I am making you really think, good! since computers came out w/ internet, porn has become so common, it's sad! and it's not right! you don't know wht else your husband is into when you are not around... do you want to live life wondering if you are good enough? I didn't think so... basically, he has a problem, and if I were you, I'd tell him if he didn't stop, it's divorce... but, that's me... we have kids... and I don't want to teach them that it's ok to play w/ yourself all day looking at porn! good luck... may you do what's right...
2007-11-07 23:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad habit sounds more like porn addiction - google it - there are lots of sites geared towards helping people break out of it... assuming he's willing to work with you on this
2007-11-07 22:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by akathepurplecow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that you should speak to your husband and tell him that his addiction bothers you. If he enjoys this then try and incorparate this into your sex life. You could find you are having better orgasms than ever and he would be happy. Try it and see.
2007-11-07 22:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lot of men love to look at porn unfortunately. Not sure what you can do, start watching your own and see how he likes it hehe. I don't know honestly what you can do other then telling him it bothers you, men are stupid sometimes and sometimes they don't care what we want.
2007-11-07 22:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So long as he is not acting out on it it's pretty harmless. He'll get tired of it eventually as most of the scenes are just so repetitious.
2007-11-07 22:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you ever tried and talk to him? tell him how much it bothers you get mad tell him to stop it there isn't much you can do try marriage counseling it works.. good luck.
2007-11-07 23:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
show him something more interesting than films and pics in the bedroom!
2007-11-07 22:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Altheea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First take him to a psychiatrist.
2007-11-07 22:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by The Tribune 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
join him. do it as a couple. maybe he is just looking for some excitement.
2007-11-07 22:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋