She constantly whinges and complains and goes on and cries. She does not listen just complains. I have a headache from her. What can I do?
2007-11-07 21:52:24 · 6 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take a painkiller.
A deep breath.
Politely but firmly tell her she has 10 minutes to tell you everything that's currently wrong, then you get 10 minutes to whinge about anything you need to. Then you're going to have a nice conversation about ANYTHING OTHER THAN WHINGING.
If that doesn't work, reevaluate the friendship.
Which does not mean end it, just get a little distance so the complaining doesn't drive you as mental as often.
Good luck.
2007-11-07 21:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Callisto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have habits or things about us that irritate other people. Her voice, she can do nothing about. Just accept it. Her whining is another story. You could, as a friend suggest that people are beginning not to take her seriously because she is always complaining about something. Try to help her to learn to be grateful for the things that she has. Tell her that one day, when she really has a problem, no one will believe her if she continues to act this way. Tell her that everyone loves people that smile, not people that complain all of the time. She really needs your help.
Before you say any of this reassure her that what you are getting ready to tell her is for her own benefit, and that you would not say anything at all if she were not your friend.
Your only other option is to avoid her, and stop being her friend.
2007-11-08 06:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's not her voice, but what she says. There is probably nothing you can do to help her. It's something she will have to sort out.
I am thankful for everything others do for me. Someone went to school to learn how to program yahoo answers. Al Gore invented the internet, someoneone invented language. It's all for me.
So you see, the world really does seem to revolve around me when I consider all that others do to make life better.
Can your girlfriend even make a single sheet of toilet paper?
If your girlfriend constantly talks about others, get a new girlfriend.
2007-11-08 06:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Gershon b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT tell her politely
I have a friend EXACTLY like that so I just told her 1 day that I hate her and I told her to g-e-t l-o-s-t and stop hanging out w/ me
Get the fact into her head using whatever means possible and only if she realises her mistakes u can forgive her
2007-11-08 07:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by varshanum1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if you really care about me and dont want me to keel over with the pain of my migraine or partially deafen myself, stop talking right now.
2007-11-08 05:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by saudamini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she is making you seek with her attitude and ask her i she can change it. Remember to be polite with your approach.
2007-11-08 05:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋