I've been dating this girl for a month now and am into her. should i tell her that i like to do this on occasion? I don't want to lose her, but i want to be honest to her as well
2007-11-07 21:40:30 · 6 answers · asked by MK 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
MK.. my intials too..
I say this with all honesty.. I am from the old world the 50's.. and I was married for 14 years.. and HE never told me,, I dearly loved him ... and he me.. I would find, underwear or lipstick.. and I would ask about it.. and he would lie to me, and say.. o, it must be ur's.. I knew it wasn't..
so what did I think???
He was cheating on me...
I didn't find this until after we were married several years.. but he had crossdressed for many many years.. It eat on me. my soul, my love, his lying to me..
He had his stuff hid .. in a big tool box..
One day, I needed a hammer.. while he was at work.. and I got the BIGGEST shock of my life..
If only he had been honest with me from the begining.. from the first date or the first week the first month.. I could of stayed..
I would of had a choice to stay or leave..? but the way he handled it.. he didn't tell me afraid I wouldn't stay.. he got his worse FEAR..
I left and divorced him.. I felt that .. our marriage had been a total lie..
he let me think it was another women and we argued many times over it.. ..I asked questions in the 14 years.. and he never admitted anything..
so yes..... tell her now.. and give her the choice.. !!!!
if she is not judgemental she will stay..
if she is.... you don't want her anyway.. good luck my friend. I still love him today.. and would of stayed.. it is all about how u hand the situation... ????
2007-11-07 22:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until you are really comfortable with her, and maybe introduce when you are involved sexually:
perhaps ask her if you could wear some of her clothes? (She may be a different size, of course)
I'm not suggesting that crossdressing is a sexual thing for you, but this might be an easy way to introduce the concept to her. It's extremely common for straight men to like to wear women's clothes, and she may have come across this before, with other partners.
Overall, getting closer to someone is something to do bit by bit, somewhat like a flower unravelling its petals: you don't see the full beauty from the moment a bud starts to open.
Good luck! Rob
2007-11-08 05:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Rob E 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her for her sake and for the sake of your pleasure. It would not be fair to tell her at a later date.She will be hurt and feel like you don't trust her because you did not tell her at the beginning. The sooner you tell her the better or worse your situation will be. It is better to find out now what she thinks, and you can move on with or without her.
Good luck my friend
2007-11-08 06:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Steve O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife HATES my panty/pantyhose fetish. HATES IT! If we didn't have kids, she would be gone!!! From what I've seen on Yahoo Answers, the overwhelming majority of woman hate it too. The chances of this girl being one of the few who accept it is somewhere between remote and fat chance, panty boy!
So, IF you insist on telling her then ... assume that you're going to lose her. What is more, assume that she'll tell her friends.
2007-11-08 19:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Just_One_Man's_Opinion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A month is a little soon to divulge your secret. Wait and see how serious this relationship gets. If she is truly the one, then come out and tell her.
Don't rush it.
2007-11-08 07:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kammi S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessary. she might not accept it, and soon all her family and friends will know you a guy who dresses like a woman.
Secondly, since you dont want to lose her QUIT crossdressing for her...and be the man she wants you to be.
2007-11-08 05:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by 2face 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋