I'd like to have many kids with different men, how do I phrase it positively?

Question

After thinking through the responses to my question -

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I would like to know how to phrase it more positively that won't get me such a negative reaction.

Just because I want to have lots of kids doesn't mean I want to raise them all - I would be happy to put some or all up for adoption. Also, I would be happy for the fathers to have custody, or to perhaps have a group relationship going. I would also be happy if I found one man to stay with - provided he let me bear children to other men (I would allow/encourage him to have children to other women as well - it's only fair)

I'm not doing it for the welfare, I'm doing it because I don't want to be an evolutionary dead-end. I want my genes to have the best chance of surviving. That may be selfish, but the goal of life is to reproduce itself.

Answer 1

How do you expect to get positive responses to this question when you yourself admit that your motives are selfish?

It's not that selfishness is inherently bad. However, your proposal can only serve to harm the rest of us living in a society with you. I fail to see why we should be motivated to provide you with approval for such actions.

Answer 2

The only way to "appear" less selfish would be to state your goal in a compromised fashion. Say you want to be a surrogate mother for single men who wish to have families but are unable to afford a wife. I will bet you will get many offers.
My personal belief is that many men will accept your goal and will enjoy having the same situation as a single mom. But you will never get away from the harassment and jeering that judgemental people heap on. Feel secure that Jesus would not judge you, but would remind you that there will be a day of judgement. If your intent is to give life to men who otherwise would be unfullfilled then who knows what God would say. My belief is that if you love your children, you will be better than many women. And if you love the men you serve, you will be better than many women. And if you lead a life of service, you will be better than many women. And if you keep some moral compass you will be better than many women. And if you put your children first, you will be better than many women. So who can judge you if you do these things?
But if you simply sleep around and do not love and care for your children, then that may be judged differently by God.

To my friends here "judge ye not, least ye shall be judged"

Answer 3

WOW! Well to be honest cutie it sounds like you just like having babies and like having sex, but dont like to be the one to raise them all. it also sounds like some of the kids you have had are worth more to you over some of the others because some you are raising and others you are willing to give up so easily. These types of comments are getting or resulting in a negative reaction cutie! I am a soldier in Iraq right now and women like you are great to men in my position here thousands of miles away from any females, but really sweetie you must stop and think of the toll that having multiple children has on your body. I am not knocking you for what you feel is right or for what you think or opinion is, I am just simply making a third party statement. If you are looking for a way to think or address your situation positively, that is the most difficult situation I have had to find a positive way of looking at it. U could find a serrogate mothers program where they pay you to have children for them, and/or find families that are not able to have children and thats where you come in. At least at that point your motives are positive in nature and are helping others and this could help others to stop viewing you as selfish. Good luck with your baby boom mission and keep your us soldiers in mind! :)

Answer 4

Pardon me for comparing your matter to someone i know. She Had 8 daughters with 8 men,which she married to 3 of them. She take care only 7 of her daughters. As sisters,they have no resemblance and they are teenagers. Youngest is 14years old. They hated each others and cursed they mother for this arrangement. Since they lived in countryside with middle class lifestyles. They became the joke of they villagers as daughter's of not good woman.They did questions they mother for her having many daughters from different men. She can't answer them with logically accepted by them.Last two years,her 4th daughter commited suicied,leaving a note saying she hated her mother and regard her as dirty woman.She was hated and humilated by her boyfriend family after knowning about her mother.
It was sad story and i was there seeing my bestfriend dead body with frustrated and very sad face hang in her bedroom. That may be her mother opinion for having many children from many of her lover.
Life have been advanced,more educated people and more new thinkers. But family of future spouse out of 1000 only 1 can except such of my late bestfriend's family life.
I can only suggest,please think how your future children gona face such life that they have to carry on living for the rest of they life. I know pretty well it was the worst life that she (my late bestfriend) failed to mend as for her future.
Your decision today,partly pole for your children to hold as where to stand in the future.
I am motherless,was adopted when i was 2days old. I know from my late father,she don't want to care for me. What have i done to hurt her? she don't even care for my father who loved her.To me she is worst then the dirtiest women on earth.
Please spread the love of nature with the love of human. Mother love is the best given love for human. My adopted mother had two children but she is now most respected granny of 15 grandchildren.

Answer 5

If everyone had compulsory DNA testing the results would shock a lot of people .Sleeping around is the body's way of making sure you get strong healthy genes to improve your DNA line .Try and get hold of a copy of sperm wars by robin baker this gives you a rough outline of the strategy your thinking about .published by fourth estate limited London in 1996 no idea if its still in print but your idea is more common than you think .

Answer 6

i really hope you wrote this question to get yourself attention because if by any sick chance you are serious you want locking up. there are couples all over the world trying for children and you plan to have them just to give them away like a toy youve bought just to say you once owned it.
Aside from that, there must be thousands of children out there looking for a good home because theyve had parents dying or having serious problems, and you want to chuck yours into the system just because you dont really want them at all, did it occur to you for 1 second to think about them?? ever??
As for finding a man, i hope no man is ever crazyenough to agree to what you want, youre sick and i think it would be better for this planet if you DIDNT have children because quite frankly your genes arent the kind the rest of us want to think about our children and grandchildren living with

the only way to get what you want without bad (ie HUMAN) reaction would be turning tricks to gtet what your after and rankly this would be too good for you.

Answer 7

Your trying to shed some good in this "positively" stupid question? All I see is a baby maker that wants to collect government funds for a living. Your sick! There's no man alive, ( well, a good man ) who would want to share a life with you like this! What kind of cult are you a part of?

Answer 8

God created woman to provide comfort to her man, beget children through him only and rear them up as a mother !
For her these titled are given "virgin bride, dutiful wife, loving mother.At every stage she serves others only decently and morally.
If such a woman longs to become a 'surrogate mother' to diverse persons' sperms,what a fall it would be.
Neither God ,nor men would approve of it!

Answer 9

The most shocking part of what you said would definitely have to be the part about consciously having children to not even bother to raise them. wow... instead of posting on yahoo, i would be seeking professional help if i were you.

Answer 10

There isn't a way to phrase it positively unless you care to be an egg donor for all those couples who can't have kids.