I know that I can't change my husband, but how I deal with his persistant personality? If anything goes wrong, it's my fault...and I'll even admit when I'm wrong so I don't feel that's the issue. He tells everyone I'm controlling and I wear the pants, but I only have control when he's not around. If I make even a simple decision with out running it by him first he gets angry. But everytime I run something by him he says "Do whatever you want, you're going to anyways". It's always been that way, but I'm not like that either. It's like he just made it up on his own!! And with the kids, if they misbehave it's because I'm not doing something right, and he even controls the way they're disiplined! How do I deal with this, and find a common ground?
2007-11-07 20:44:30 · 7 answers · asked by TMama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is one of those people that has to blame everything that happens on someone else, and you are the closest to him. You have two choices. Either let it go, or suggest marriage counseling. If he has been doing this all of his life, I really doubt that anything is going to change drastically. Some people just hate to be wrong.
2007-11-07 20:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear i know how annoying that is especially when u aren't the fault. Wat u got to do is sit down with ur man and tell him frankly what bothers u in all ways that includes of what he does' so he can know that he's disappointing u. You also hav to learn that man are babies, treat him gently whether ur fault or not, he needs special attention just as a baby, so why don't u try that before jumping into conclusions about him. It will not take a day or week to make things right but put in effort, goog things always come in a long period of time and have faith in urself. Show ur man he can rule as all men think they r high.
2007-11-07 20:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling so you can communicate in a healthy way. It takes two to argue and when one of you wins, nobody really wins.
2007-11-07 22:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's got some control issues. I'd recommend councelling. If he doesn't want to go, then go by yourself.
2007-11-07 20:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mnementh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, actually, he is using his wits against you...
Its not easy to find a solution to such a problem... still you can give it a try...
2007-11-07 22:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by VIKAS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like to hear his side of the story because what you are saying makes no sense
2007-11-07 20:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you ARE doing everything wrong...
2007-11-07 20:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Holden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋