and then learned to love the one they married. please mention how old are you ?
2007-11-07 18:54:36 · 11 answers · asked by Mike S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My goodness... I have a friend RIGHT now who did the same thing! He loves this other woman DEEPLY but married the girl he was with bc he didn't want to leave her bc it would hurt her. And now, he's misearable... Even though I told him he would be...
Marriage can only work if both parties are open and honest. But this doesn't stop with each other... you HAVE to be honest with yourself too! You need to take a step back and ask urself if vowing the REST of your life to someone when ur in love with someone else is something YOU can live with!
You also have to figure out if you're in love with that person or just in pure LUST. Both have similar feelings but only one lives happily ever after! You should never settle for less than what you really want out of life!
BEST OF LUCK
2007-11-07 19:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by txtoasty82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend was in the same situation, he married this chick, only cuz she let him do whatever he wanted, and there families pressured him, but anyway we have a son together, and he went through with the marriage and was miserable. he didn't care about the girl, which hurt her more after marrying him, to a lot of girls getting married and having a wedding is a big deal. we ended up getting back together and hes happier then ever. If you marry someone that you are not in love with and you love someone else, its wrong for both of you. the person you married could be out there finding someone who truly loves them, and you could be with the person you truly love. you could learn to love the one you married, but it would never be the same. theres obviously a reason why you would marry this person, but theres also a reason you don't love them as much as the other person.
2007-11-08 03:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband was in love with someone else when he married me, the fact was he was 25 and she was a 13 year old girl (they never did anything before she got to age 16, not that I am justifying his actions) and he should never have married me because as soon as she hit age 16 they started an affair. The fact that he is now my ex husband goes to show he never fell in love with me.
2007-11-08 12:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not suggest this. I would also not do it. You will live the rest of your life regretful of what could have been. You deserve to be happy. How do you learn to love someone? I think that you learn to tolerate someone. It is hard enough for some people to stay married to the people that they love a chose for themselves. Could not image doing with someone that I did not love.
2007-11-08 03:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes have and i still love the person in the past but i also love my husband the other man and i could have never made it but we are still good friends it was just never meant to be for us and we each are happy with the people we are with it is hard thing to do but it was for the best i am currently 39 and i have known the other man since i was 18 and it just seemed that our lives are and would be much better apart and as friends plus the old saying you never forget your first true live its absolutely true and difficult
2007-11-08 10:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by JENNIFER H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep! we both did, he is 38, i am 39 and we both ended up divorced! guess what... we are now back together as living a very happy life together!!!! we didnt learn to love the one we were married to, and didnt find each other again for several years, but here we are now, and couldnt be happier! life is wonderful!
2007-11-08 04:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not the one but a friend..
she liked someone but she is in a fixed marriage..
they have been married for already about 2 and a half year now... in their early days i mean the first week probably together my friend would confront me and tell me that he miss him(the guy she wants and not er husband) and as days went by when her husband had to travel and will stay abroad for about 2 months she even rejoice but as days pass she starts to miss her husband and finally loves him.. you know.. they already have a child now.. a very cute child.. my friend is so happy now.. and they love each other so much..
hope this helps
2007-11-08 04:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u marry someone and love someone else, u will live a life of hell, and it will always end badly, because the person u marry will be able to feel it and it will come out in your actions and behavior. its something u won't be able to hide.
2007-11-08 06:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard people say that they love someone while they are in love with someone else, which I think is not possible.
2007-11-12 03:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the night before my wedding i had two dates, each with different girls, i told each girl come to the wedding towmarrow and 1 hour before the wedding i will tell you if i am marrying you or the other one, on the day of the wedding i chose sheryill over britany
2007-11-08 03:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋