My girl's parents do not accept me to marry her cos my mum is christian and I am muslim?

Question

I am Muslim and my wife to be is muslim too.

We love each other very much but my wife to be have told her parents about me and they do not want me to marry her because My mum is Christian and they not accept me to marry her. My mum have seen her and my mum say If I am happy with her then I can marry her but Wife to be 's parents do not want me to marry her...

My wife to be's parents have never met me and never talk to me and only hear wife to be's strory about me.

How can I tell her's parents without seeing me? I mean go to their house or gift to them or what?

I know Islam say respect all faith and Islam is forgiving and loving.

Answer 1

You're Muslim, that's all that matters! You'll raise THEIR grandchildren that way too. If you're Muslim, it was probably because you chose to be which should count for something, I don't know how their customs of how to respect elders for their culture, but I know it's not cool to judge

Answer 2

Depends. Muslim parents vary all over the world. Most of them, however, will accept this situation with the hope that the husband will eventually convert his wife. In many Muslim cultures, however, the same does not go for Muslim women, who can only marry Muslim men. This may seem sexist, on the surface, but there is actually a practical reason for this: men have power in most societies (arguably even ours). This makes it less likely a woman could successfully convert their spouse, so many Muslim parents forbid it. p.s. The fact that so many people here outright said "No" just goes to show how ignorant most of us really are about Islam. I have evidence it isn't true, however, because my best friend had to convert to Islam to marry his Muslim wife. Her brothers, on the other hand, all married Christian and Hindu wives. Interesting.

Answer 3

So let me get this straight your mom/mum is christian but some how even though you are Muslim and your wife to be is Muslim the fact that your mom is christian is effecting the way your wife to Be's parents feel about you marrying their daughter? I think her parents are being overbearing. If you love each other and you believe the same i think there is no reason why you shouldn't be together. It sounds like her parents are not in your wife to Be's life as much as they would like. I think you sound like someone who wants to do the right thing even though her parents are being very difficult. I would ask them with all do respect and tell them that you plan to stick by your ways if that is how you feel, I would tell them how well you plan to take care of your wife to be, if her parents can not accept that and she still wants to marry you, I would marry her anyway. My dads mom didn't want my dad to marry my mom he had a wedding without his parents and i am proud that my dad had enough guts to marry my mom anyway. My parents have been married for 25 years.

Answer 4

Remind them of the saying in Islam "you can take spouses amongst you from the people of the Book" That means that you can marry a Jew and a Christian...so your Dad married a Christian and you were raised a Muslim...point that out to them when they confront you about it.

Answer 5

Meet her parents, let them get to know you, and tell them your intentions toward their daughter. You may change their mind, you might not. Ultimately, the decision to marry is up to you and your wife to be.

Answer 6

My best answer would be that the girl and her parents and you and your parents embrace the same religion, christian or muslim. There is no much difference between these two religions excepting that Muslims don't consider Jesus to be the son of god. But that small affair need not prevent you from loving the girl. God understands. I can narrate to you a borrowed anecdote:
There was this girl in Switzerland who fell in love with an Arab muslim boy called Khaled. On the insistance of the parents of the girl, Khaled had no choice but to be converted to chritianity. You know love blinded Khaled. The christian priest converted him inside the church with the following conversion preocedure:
" Khaled out, Peter in"
" Khaled out, Peter in"
"Khaled out, Peter in". Thrice.
Khaled, now Peter and his wife lived happily thereafter and they had many many children. Unlike Eve, this woman was not tempted by Satan.
Once when the woman was again pregnant, she wanted to eat fish and she conveyed her desire to Peter. The loving Peter went out to buy chicken. On his way he met a friend whom he had not met for years. Naturally they went to a bar to celeberate their meeting. After few drinks Peter said good night to his friend and started going in the direction of his residence. On the way Peter remebered that he has to buy fish for his wife. It was then too late in the night. All shops were already closed. Luckily for him there was one shop open. Since there was no fish in the shop, he bought a chicken
When his wife realized that he has brought chicken but not fish for her, the cool and calm Peter took the chicken in his hands and said:
"Chicken out, Fish in"
"Chicken out, Fish in"
"Chicken out, Fish in"
Peter, the good old Khaled and his ever loving wife ate the fish, the good old chicken, with all the merry in the world.
They lived for many many years thereafter and had many many children too.
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Answer 7

They are bigoted people. I would do what I wanted. Who are they to say that she cannot marry you. Your mothers religion should not matter. They should want their daughter to be happy. If you are what makes her happy then they need to get over it. Good luck.

Answer 8

Your girl friend and you are Muslims - Community-wise.
there should be no problem.
Try to convince the Girl's parents.
If they don't agree , what else can you do.?
You either give up or get married without their consent,
subject to your girl friend and yourself are majors.
tmuthiah

Answer 9

***** tha thers nothing tha can stand in the way of love marry her make urselves happy she should b thinkin about maken herself happy not her parents

Answer 10

Good luck keeping performing good acts and see how far it takes you.