Could he be cheating?

Question

Maybe I'm just paranoid, but it's 12:30am and he's still not home..... he is a reporter who was covering a story that did not make the news, kinda fishy..... especially since he is usually done work by 6ish. He's been having "late" hockey games lately, where he will leave around 9ish and get home sometime after I've fallen asleep..... We had plans to see my parents this long weekend a few hours away, now :"he has to work?" so I'm going it alone..... He's never intimate with me anymore - I throw on lingerie and he doesn't notice!! This all totally sounds like he could be cheating, and my heart just breaks thinking of all this, I'm in tears and can't fall asleep... I just can't believe he would do something like this to me... We live together and I am 20 weeks pregnant. Are my pregnancy hormones getting the best of me?

No phone calls to let me know where he is.... yesterday he said he could be home as late as 11... well its nearly two hours past that now

He doesn't own a cell phone...

I don't consider myself to be too needy at all, I give him time every week to play hockey, to take his guitar lessons, to watch football with the boys, etc. Yeah it kinda sucks for me because I am new to this town and have zero friends (everyone at work is atleast 20 yrs older!)... I'm just looking for a phone call or something to show he does care and isn't doing anything awful.... I don't have a ring on my finger and that's the least I can ask - the only form of committment I have....

And you can call me stupid for getting into this, but the pregnancy wasn't planned, I don't believe in abortion - heck two years ago I was told I may never be able to have kids, the most devastating news ever! Regarldess this chid will be a miracle, I'd prefer two parents to raise him/her... but I will not stand for cheating under any circumstances.

Answer 1

I am sure you have told him to call you no matter what or how late it is..

The truth is that you need to find out.......It has nothing to do with you being pregnant. He is being totally inconsiderate more so that he knows your pregnant and he is not making sure you don't worry...

Answer 2

It definitely sounds like he's cheating and your pregnancy hormones are not getting the best of you. Either that or he has some other secret life. Use condoms if you do sleep with him to protect you and your unborn child. Listen to your intution and all the details you listed. Most of the time your intuition is right. And why doesn't he have a cell phone. You should always have a way to contact him at all times especially if you're pregnant. Maybe he doesn't want to be contacted. Don't take this lightly. I am married to a Dog too (temporarily). My son is 2 yrs and daughter is 2mths. I had plenty of unanswered questions with my first child and regret not divorcing him even though I love and don't regret my daughter. good luck and try to relax and not stress yourself too much. just know what you have to do and get some sleep.

Answer 3

Check his cell phone bill I think he's cheating too.
Sorry, most people own cell phones now adays at least the people I know do and then what I said above would be an excellent way to gauge. You can check your own reg phone bill too as well you'd be amazed at how many people trip up and do dumb things. Check through the car or his pants pockets or drawers for any receipts (that's how my ex brother in law caught my ex sister in law he found hotel receipts). But the thing is your intuition does not lie. I had a feeling that my ex husband was cheating because he was exibiting some of the classic signs and guess what, indeed he was shacking up with another female which he went on to marry and have a couple of kids with.
Now I'm a full time single working mom. But guess what, I am better now that I lost the loser and can make better decisions for both me and my daughter. We are doing just fine. And making life even better, he regrets giving me physical custody of her because now he rarely gets to see her (we are military). But I don't feel sorry for him at all.
So at the end of the day I'd say cut the dead weight and get on with your life your going to be just fine without him.

Answer 4

For your sake..I really hope not. Maybe he is trying to get all the fun and alone time that he can before you guys have your baby. Maybe he is aware that after its born, hes going to be responsible for alot more then he is now, and he wont be able to go out at night. Maybe it has more to do with the fact that youre having a baby then that hes cheating. Atleast..I hope this is the case! Good luck and stay strong for your child.

Answer 5

I hope I am wrong but it sounds like he is doing what he should'nt be doing. My daughter is about to have her baby and her b/f has been going out EVERY night since the sex life went kinda down, which goes with being pregnant. She has caught him in lies and his lies continue EVERY NIGHT!!
If I were you, I would TELL him that I was going to my parents and tail him to see just where he is going while YOU are SUPPOSED to be gone. He's up to NO GOOD. My 1st husband did the exact same thing and he was cheating on me the ENTIRE 9 years we were married. I found that out after the divorce. I am sorry for you.
Good Luck

Answer 6

I'm afraid your imagination could be getting the best of you. He's a reporter (his lively hood) and he needs a little time to himself (with the boys). I want you to ask yourself a question please. Have you noticed yourself to be a little more controlling or needy? You're pregnant (get it?) your hormones are running a muck and if you don't get a grip your health and the babies health could suffer. If you want to worry about anything worry about the baby you're caring. May God bless you and your baby! Try not to worry about you and him so much as for the sex thing some men find it hard to have sex when there wife is pregnant for fear of hurting the baby. Truly!

Answer 7

Lots of guys cheat on pregnant woman.Its because guys like woman who are sexuality attractive and they don't think pregnant woman are (I'm not saying that's right but that's the way some people think)
Have a "snoop" around for clues if you find some thing... well then you'll know he's cheating.oh and good luck :)

Answer 8

Maybe you should try to calm down and don't invite any false thought yet, usually pregnant women are very emotional and insecure coz of your condition. Just give him the benefit of the doubt for you not to hurt yourself by thinking negative things about him, i wish he was not like that when you we're not infanticipating so you could compare.

Just pray and when he arrives don't nag, wait and see what he's gonna do. Cheer up and smile, remember that you have your child in your womb.

Answer 9

first calm down. second make a plan. for example follow him after work or have someone follow him that is trustworthy and poke around and see where he goes. When you know for sure he is not going to catch you search his wallet, briefcase and see if there are any clues........honestly it does not sound to good but, you must always give the benefit till you have concrete proof..thus the snooping and tailing good luck

Answer 10

Ask him.

If you don't talk to him and let him know how you're feeling, how is he supposed to address any issues?

Also, you're pregnant. Guys won't say it, but sometimes it freaks them out a bit and they need their space for a while to sort out their feelings. Putting on lingerie may just be pressuring him a bit to deal with those feelings before he's ready.

My advice? Talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. He doesn't know. He doesn't read minds.