I havent really wanted sex since i got pregnate and i think my husband thinks im cheating on him but im not and i cant seem to get that in his head??? What do i do now?????
2007-11-07 17:05:17 · 17 answers · asked by Samantha J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any guy should know that lots of things change when their wife gets pregnant; smells, tastes, energy level, etc.
It's our job to support our wife through the process and to be understanding of the changes she and her body is going through.
Anyone who can't or won't do that is just being selfish.
Unless you have given him reasons to suspect you're cheating (and a change in libido during pregnancy doesn't count) then he's just being insecure, selfish and controlling.
If he's truly that ignorant about the changes your body is going through get him some books on the subject and show him my answer to your question.
All that being said, marriage is a two way street and a compromise, so while a reduction in libido is fine, complete abstinence on your part for 10 months is not. If that's the boat you're in, you should find ways to motivate yourself to do it at least a few times a month.
2007-11-07 17:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are pregnant your hormones are all over the place and you are tired, this sometimes really effects your libido. Talk to your husband. If you are tired, try to rest and see if that helps. But if your husband really thinks you are cheating, there is a more important problem that needs to be addressed. Trust is an essential part in a marriage. You need to be able to communicate with your husband and him trust and understand you.
Good Luck!
2007-11-08 01:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him something to read about how women experience a lack of libido and many other things during pregnancy. If he doesn't believe you, maybe he'll belive a doctor or a good pamphlet...
And when to penny drops on what a fool he's been, get him to him make you some tea and apologise. I know its a sensitive time for both the woman and the man, but really, he is being very irrational and hurtful.
2007-11-08 01:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by kinkykiosk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor. Get some professional help. It's not uncommon for a woman to lose interest in sex after having a child. Instinctively you have fulfilled a subconscious duty to procreate. It’s not healthy for you relationship though. Work with him to find that connection that will inspire your sexual interest. Try some new things. Explore your desires privately and then see if you can reconnect with him. Talking to a professional will yield better results than Yahoo answers…
2007-11-08 01:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by GoodNeighbor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drag his *** with you to the doctors so they can explain what happens to a woman (moods, hormones ,etc) and that some just feel the need to get all the sex they can in because when baby comes its going to be a Long dry spell ...
2007-11-08 01:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Myra N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me and my girlfriend had the same problems i always used to think she cheats on me but in the back on my mind i know she wasnt doing anything like that i just used to say stuff to make sure she wasnt but your husband must know in the back of his mind that you really arent cheating on him and you just have to make sure keep telling him you are not cheating on him if the topic ever comes up. If ur husband really thinks you are cheating on him serioulsy than you have a problem
2007-11-08 01:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by xtremespeed66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor and see if he/she has any suggestions for you. Have the doctor explain to your husband the hormonal changes some women go through, so that he will understand better.
Give him lovin' anyway. Just because you love him and want him to be happy.
2007-11-08 01:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to keep reassuring him...Have him take a look at this web site below its Answers to common questions about sex during pregnancy .Here is a line from there
A woman’s desire for sex during pregnancy can fluctuate month-to-month or trimester-to-trimester.
hope this helps
2007-11-08 01:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Heather B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should probably talk to him at night and say,"honey i have had enough sex for now. we are going to have a healthy baby soon. after that we can have sex again. i promise." than that should take his mind off the cheating stuff.
2007-11-08 08:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to keep your husband....get over the..
" I really have not felt like sex since I got preggers".
Stop being so self centered.
Get over it!
A healthy relationship includes sex.
2007-11-08 01:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by sasha1641 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋