Okay, she says she is hot-natured... well, I am too. But it's chilly now that it's November. Yet she insists on keeping a window open. I wish it to stay closed - anyone would. How can she not be cold? And she only lives in the room about 3/7 days - only at night. (She's gone all day.) I live in the room as a college student would. Shouldn't I have the say on that window (even though it's near her bed) since I actually LIVE in the room? She's living more as a guest. I think she's wasting her money on the room.
2007-11-07 16:48:00 · 10 answers · asked by Beletje_vos AM + VT 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has a fan. If that is turned on, I'll get cold.
2007-11-07 17:02:37 · update #1
Yes... she is overweight. O_o
2007-11-07 17:22:17 · update #2
It's no fun living with someone that gives you temperature grief. I wonder if she has problems breathing when she lies down? Sometimes people with extra weight have that problem. Does she sleep with just 1 pillow? It the head of her bed is raised up with extra pillows - that might help her if that is even part of the problem. She might feel like she is smothering from not breathing properly.
The fan just mignt not be doing the job that she is hoping that it will to bring fresh air to her. An air filter (like the Oreck ones) might be a good solution because they clean everything out of the air and make it easier to breathe. Only problem with them, they are kind of expensive for college students (unless someone has parents with extra cash). There are similar type ones that are less costly - I do not know if they are as effective.
It might be good if you can get her to tell you how she feels - that makes her want to have the window open. If breathing is the problem - it can make people feel very claustrophobic... (almost panic stricken). Guess it's because we all know if we quit breathing... we are dead! We are told that lots when we are little! Some families seem to think it is imperative to keep their bed room windows open so maybe it is just family ties (and brain washing...lol).
Another question... how many blankets does she use on her bed? No point to opening the window and then piling quilts & blankets on.
And another question... is her face red - at least part of the time (& especially after she exerts herself physically). Maybe she needs to get her blood pressure & colesterol checked. Even really young people can have problems with those & they sometimes can make people feel as if they are too hot. A friend of mine has problems that she inherited from her Dad. When he had a mild heart attack & the Dr. found high colesterol in him... the Dr. insisted that the 3 kids get tested. Just Suzanne (who eats the healthiest & exercises, etc.) had it.... ironic huh?
Do check into your rights as a tennant and look around before you jump out of the room. Who was there first? It sounds as if you are in a dorm but usually there are lots of private rooms near all the universities too and of course then rules are usually different then. Moving is annoying too and usually costs.
2007-11-07 18:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Zippity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggest she gets a fan. Heck, you can go to Wal-Mart and get a fan for $5-$10.
You can always nail the window shut when she is not there. haha
The fan idea would probably be the best thing.
If she gives you grief, just tell her that getting sick or a sore throat is a lot easier with cold air coming in the room.
2007-11-08 00:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by WOOD_II 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair, but these are the consequences of having a roommate. You guys will disagree on lots of things. She is paying rent and so are you. Find another place with a better roommate.. Try and talk to her in a nice way and maybe you guys can come to an agreement. If not then see if you can move out.
Good Luck.
2007-11-08 01:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... if she's not even in the room most of the time, then what's the issue? close the window on your own and insist that it stay that way when she returns. involve an r.a. if you need to, but you do have your rights. also, many campuses have policies against students technically living in a dorm but actually living elsewhere. check what yours is; this is possible leverage against her.
2007-11-08 00:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dutch Girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Roommates can be quite difficult, but try to find a compromise. Perhaps if you keep the heat at a lower temperature, then your roommate won't feel the need to open the window.
2007-11-08 13:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Piss her off and remove her bed during the day and put in a treadmile. She will comeback and see it and probably be gone within the next 12 hours. then you will have the room to yourself and as cold or hot as you want it.
2007-11-08 01:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are exactly like this...
I also have the added problem of him snoring...
The snoring is so loud he sounds like a bear in a cave...
I have told him this for years now...
We have tried all kinds of throat and nose sprays and humidifiers, and vaporizers and ointments and oils and Vick's vaporub, tea tree oil, and bandages on the nose...
None of them ever help the snoring...
I also get too cold and not as an inconvenience...
If I get too cold it brings pain to my leg nerves...
I need a couple of blankets to be on me so I can sleep and stay warm...
I usually leave the room and sleep on the sofa...
Not exactly comfortable, but it gets me away from his loud snoring...
He also likes 2 fans on in our bedroom...
One is on his side by the bed and one is on my side by the bed...
I like the fan in summer...
But I am with you about it being on in winter...
He will even use the Air Conditioner to cool the house off before bed even in winter...
And yes, he is way overweight...
He has allergies and sleep apnea...
If I can hear him sleep with his sinus problems and snoring,
I at least know he is alive...
On the other hand he gasps for air in his sleep...
So often if I do not hear him, I will go wake him to make sure he is alive...
It is a miserable problem, especially since we bought one of those sleep number beds at $2,000.00 dollars and it is doing us NO good...
It does not help him or me sleep better...
It does not take away snoring and we never feel rested when we get up...
I don't even get to stay in there since it is a king size bed...
I almost always need to move to get away from the snoring and the cold...
But he pays the bills and I can't since I am out of work...
He has to get up early to go to work and I don't...
So I end up sleeping in the daytime...
I feel for you with the cold problem...
At least with roomates you can ask or get the other to leave...
Or you can move...
Have your new roomate fill out a questionaire before agreeing to live with her...
2007-11-08 10:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have almost the same exact problem. I have been doing things to adjust my comfort with the air when she falls asleep. Normally fat people, like our roommates, will not take the effort to get up and adjust something when they are out cold.
Fat people are lazy so yep just do it that way bc she will never see it your way...
2007-11-08 02:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by now watch this. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be that she's fat and has all the extra skin to keep her warm. Is she fat?
2007-11-08 01:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Voss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about your feelings but don't say anything to hurt her. :)
2007-11-08 05:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋