I have a good friend who is a beautiful woman. She has the physcial looks of a Goddess. But she bitterly complains that her looks simply inspire lust not love in men. All of her adult life she says, she has been the object of desire of many men but not really loved by any of them. She has all but given up hope for finding a true love. She is 30,a nice warm person with a good heart and I tell her that it is too soon to give up--that true love is out there for her somewhere. My question is---Do you think I am right? Or is someone who is beautiful doomed to never know real love? Are people who have regular or common looks the real lucky ones? For when they find true love....they can be assured that it is indeed real?
2007-11-07 16:27:45 · 11 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
A lot of men WILL look at her and be physically attracted to her at first. But if a lovely looking woman does not have a personality to go woth those looks the men stay at that lustful level permanently. If she truly has a wonderful personality then she will know after a few dates, whether the man is interested in her and not just seeking to "bed" her. Additionally, if HER behavior, at the initial meeting, is one of "trying to get by on her looks" then that is the message that she's putting out there. Perhaps she needs to have a friend tag along on the first date just to observe her initial behavior and then afterwards, be able to provide POSITIVE and constructive criticism for her. She genuinely MAY be giving off the wrong vibes and is totally unaware that she is doing that.
BB,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-11-08 00:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True beauty is inward. I think she needs to find the right partner who will look at her and who she is as an individual, first, before just searching out the physical beauty. I have known many beautiful women with personalities of a wild banshee. But, in the same token, I understand her frustration. If I were blessed enough to know her, I would get to know the woman inside the outer beauty before I would even concentrate on the other.
2007-11-07 21:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, do not be offended by my response.
And understand that I do not know your beautiful friend and therefore cannot give an intelligent answer.
I suspect that your friend spends too much time on thinking about how beautiful she is and how disappointed she is that someone cannot see past her beauty.
Lust is negative aspect of love.
If she feels that her 'beauty' is creating lust in others then I suggest she reverse that aspect by beginning to love herself.
When she loves herself and stops bitterly complaining about the reactions of others then a true man will come to her.
Plain people, beautiful people and ugly people find true love when they quit thinking of themselves and start thinking about the happiness of others.
2007-11-07 17:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Temple 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Temple had a great answer. My suggested is to introduce her to chat rooms and don't use a web cam. Lets see if she can also project beauty through her words.
BTW, here is a tip for everybody else and it is shown to be correct by the woman here: You should compliment an intelligent woman for her beauty and a beautiful woman for her intelligence. Never fails.
2007-11-07 18:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by ragdefender 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably dating the wrong type of people. She should try to date people who are looking for a relationship based on friendship first before intimacy. Maybe online dating, and don't put in a really good picture of herself.
2007-11-07 16:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a girl who is very beautiful, in the sense of sexually attractive to men, and who probably arouses that sentiment in most men, but in me that sentiment is overcalled by her sweetness, which is emotionally attractive. So she should probably focus on accentuating her sweetness rather than her beauty. But even then she will probably still arouse in most men who are interested in her the former sentiment rather than the latter.
2007-11-07 21:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by sauwelios@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will find true love if she stops looking for someone as physically beautiful as she is, and if she meets someone to whom she is attracted physically, I bet that is not the one.
She should look within to see what she has to offer someone, as a soul mate, then her energy will bring him to her. And he won't look like George Clooney.
that is what my gut is telling me.
Blessings,
Lady M
2007-11-07 16:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Morgana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me a common coyote that it is very difficult for anyone to find real love. But some do and they seem to be the ones that are happy with who they are. Not what society and religion teaches them who they are but who they really are. ~ : )
2007-11-07 16:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think your right, Her beauty attracts those who see only her outside looks, but not for who she is inside. but she should be able to differenciate between someone who is after her for her beauty or for the person inside by the way the treat her and talk to her. attitude should tell her alot. the way they persue her.
2007-11-07 16:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. sometimes, the ugliest or most ordinary person feels the most out of true love.
if not, you'll never know if the guy truly loves you or is it partially l ust.
2007-11-07 18:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋