I have a terrible situation at home. I have a very sweet boyfriend and he and his parents have invited me to move in with them. My parents don't even care, if that gives you some idea of what I'm dealing with. My boyfriend and I are sexually active, so his parents have said we might as well share a room. We're using safe sex and all that, so I'm not worried about getting pregnant, but I never expected to be living with someone so soon. I love being with him, and I think it's going to be so great, but lots of people have warned me about all kinds of problems we might have. What can I do to give us the best possible chance at happiness together? I really want this to work!
2007-11-07 14:16:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think I have to agree with Candy. His parents sound pretty nice, but do whatever you can to keep them happy and be helpful. And if he's a teenage boy, then, yes, food and sex are the keys to his happiness. Keep going to school, and make some long-term plans. What about college?
2007-11-07 14:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know there are times living at home can be difficult at best. When you are a teenager you are beginning to enjoy some freedom and are able to make some decisions on your own. So it seems your parents know nothing and this can lead to difficult times. Many teens become sexually active at this time as well, and you think the guy you are with is your one and only. However, this is probably not so as you will have more great boy friends over a period of time. Sure you are practicing safe sex, but that does not guarantee you are not going to get pregnant - nothing is 100% safe. So what are you going to do if you get pregnant and your boyfriend and his parents decide to not support you. Do you have a plan in place for this, or even if you do not get pregant but your boyfriend decides he does not want to be with you anymore? At that point your parents could decide they really do not care and you would be without anyone. So living with your boyfriend is not a good idea at your age. Even though your relationship with your parents is not the best it is better then nothing. Stay with your parents, work on making your relationship better, and also start preparing yourself to live on your own. In a couple of years you will be better prepared to take care of yourself as you will have at least you high school completed and maybe a start on college. There is nothing wrong with living with a man nor having sex, but there is a time for both, and now is not the time.
2007-11-08 00:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that things are so bad at home, it is unusual for parents not to care (are you sure that they don't, maybe you have not always been the most co-operative daughter?) but I know that it can happen sometimes. You have some excellent advice in other answers, please read them all, but at the end of the day only you can make the decision. Be very careful because your boyfriend can get into very serious trouble having sexual relations with you at such a young age. You need to establish a contingency plan in case anything goes wrong with your boyfriend; you may not think that it will be a problem but it may well be. So you need to find out if you can go back to your parents if needs be, or to another relative or even to a friend. As others have said, make sure that lines of communication are fully open with his parents, both from his point of view and yours, contribute financially if you can, help around the house as much as is possible (but not to the point of slavery).
Good luck, I think you will need it.
2007-11-08 07:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Running away from one problem isn't going to solve another. Want ever is going on at home you need to deal with it and try to make it work, because living with your boyfriend at the age is 15 isn't a good ideal. Even though you are using protection you could get pregnant and then what. If you can't live with your parents trying find help at school, church, social services, whatever, but in order for best possible able of happiness is to get help for yourself.
2007-11-07 22:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If things at home are that bad and your boyfriend and his parents are happy to support you that i thinks its the best place for you to be. Yes you are very young but if you do move in with your man just make sure you are open and communicate with him. Make sure you stick with the safe sex as im sure you really don't wont a baby just yet. But from what you say, to me it sounds like you"ve got a got head on your shoulders and you are thinking things through not just jumping in with both feet.
2007-11-07 22:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kirilee T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with your boyfriend now sounds pretty neat at this age BUT as hard as it may be to accept this. Moving in with someone is a very adult thing to do, which means you'll have to make some adult decisions. So ask yourself, if you guys get into an argument, Who will back you up? his family will automatically side with him, and that will be a tense situation, and if you breakup, Who will have to move out? Personally i think you are too young to move in together. So my best advice to you is think long and hard about moving in and really think about those questions i asked you?
2007-11-07 23:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Stippy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know too much about your situation. Is he your age? To get along with the parents, be nice to their son, help out around the house, stay out of trouble and keep things neat and quiet. For your young man, I know this sounds pretty cynical, but young guys are generally happy if they have plenty of food and plenty of sex. Keep him well fed, start every morning with a bj and end every night with some serious loving, and he'll be yours forever.
2007-11-07 22:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Candy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know this is hard advice, but I'm doing this to help you. Believe me, it is not going to work. You will have problem after problem, after problem. Stick with your parents, they know what's best. If you ignore them, chances are you will be glad to get back home with them. They love you, though home isn't perfect, but when you leave, you will really appreciate what your parents are doing for you. I hope you return back home and work it out with them.
2007-11-07 22:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by WonderGirl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you are too young to do this, his parents are too liberal, it may sound good right now, but you should volunteer to help with housework, wash dishes etc. get a job and contribute to household expenses, are you not following your parents house rules and have a curfew? Is it because you want yourown way all the time? My opinion this will not work, you are too young..talk to teacher or some other person that you trust.
2007-11-07 22:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by ceealice 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i am with wondergirl here!
you are young, and it wont last, if it ends, you're Stuck there!
stay home-- at least a while longer hun, or you will wind up in a bad place in life
2007-11-07 22:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋