Have YOU ever made an effort to do a good deed for a stranger or friend a day without ulterior motives?

Answer 1

Great question.
If I find myself seeing someone in need, yes I try to help.

I had the strangest thing happen to me today and after this man helped me all the way through it, I will most certainly "pay it forward" more.

I had to go to court today and I sat next to man around my age.
We talked a little, his case was heard and he sat back down, I wasn't sure if he had more court business or what, I really couldn't ask nor did I find it any of my buisness but we were talking about my case.

After sitting there for almost 2 hrs. and the court room still pretty full, the judge asked if there were motions he hadn't called so I stood up. He told me to go to another courtroom so I wouldn't have to sit through the Creditors I guess.

I left and didn't really realize he was behind me.

All I had to do was go to the next courtroom. I went to open the first door and it appeared lock or stuck, so I pulled on it again and when I did, the door hit me in the face at the eyebrow so hard, everyone heard it. I know I was in a state of shock, it hurt so bad, I almost fainted and I swear I saw stars.
I was going around in cirlces (mind you know I'm at a courthouse) when I looked he was right there. I had placed my hand on where the door hit me and blood was everywhere. He got me seated and told me to keep my head back and my hand over it he was going to get some wet paper towels. I was pretty shook up then started crying it hurt that bad. OMG. there were sheriffs, deputies, police, attorneys everywhere. they said they heard it but asked me what happened.
This man was right there with a ton of wet and dry paper towels and he was trying to stay calm to keep me calm and kept giving me fresh ones, because a head wound does bleed a lot. this was my first. After several people looked at it they said call 911 and told me I definately needed stitches.

They called the ambulance and this man told me he would follow us to the hospital to make sure I was ok and take me back to my car.

He was right there just like we had known each other for years. While I was waiting for the Dr. in the ER. on a bed, I'd asked my nurse to get him to come back. He looked at me and started kind of laughing. I said I no...only me. He said, when everyone asked you what happened you should have said ...this is what the judge did to me. We were laughing and trying to make light of it. I said yeah I know, I should have said the judge really went hard on me. We just kept telling jokes about it. What else could I do? It was the strangest thing. what are the odds of getting hurt like that walking into a courtroom? Well my case never got heard !
the dr. came back and gave me 7 stictches, the man said 7! Wow, I knew it was going to be at least 3 to 4.
He took me back to the courthouse for my car and I went to shake his hand to thank him. He was the nicest man who did the nicest thing I've had anyone do for me in such a long time.
But he hugged me and said do you want me to take you and get you some soup, I had not eaten all day and now it was around 2pm. I thanked him again and said I can't wait to just get home and lay down, my head is splitting. I turned down the cat scan at the hospital and asked them if I was worse later could I come back and they said I'd better.

This man had no ulterior motives except to help me. I know he wanted to see how the judge was going to rule on my case, that's why he was right behind me and saw me slam the door into my head.

I honestly don't know how to thank him. It is so rare today for anyone to do this or go out of their way. I wasn't affraid of him, he was in court for a legitamate matter and too many people saw us together maybe that's why. and he never acted out of place. Just kind, curtious, thoughtful and concerned.
Yes, I'm sitting here answering a few questions as my eye is swelling shut, but I've been in bed for the last 8 hours and thought I should get up if only for minute or two to see how I felt.

Because of this incident with me today, I'm going to show more good deeds myself, they are few and far between, I'm usually the one helping someone out, what a wonderful feeling (not the injury) to have a stranger care :)
I felt so safe and I knew I wasn't alone because if he weren't there for me today, I would have been alone and so much more scared. So thank you again if you are out there.

Back to bed.....Great question I just had to share this story it really hit home.

Answer 2

well yes, i never have ulterior motives. What's the point of doing something good for someone, [that you care about or not > as in a complete stranger] and have any other motive but to help them? I don't understand this. Like, what makes a person think of something other then the immediate need of the individual and helping the person or doing a "good deed".... other then just to do it. How does that thought process come about? I don't understand that. ♥

Answer 3

Yes, nearly always! I take great joy in being immediate at a place where my help may be needed.
Not long ago, I was walking home from the grocery and since I always observe everything . . I am so afraid that I will miss something if my awareness is asleep - when I saw a man who kept covering his right side of his face, squinting with the left eye, as if he were looking for something, yet finding it difficult to pinpoint or find. My curiosity gave this tug at me, so I approached him to ask if he was in need of assistance. Then I noticed that his hand was coverinf his right eye even more, so that to help him, I said very gently - let me see, have you hurt your sight? and he allowed me to lower his eye, and I noticed for the very first time that a freshly made scar slid its way down from brow to cheek bone, and I asked him what had happened . . and he said : "is it that ugly, the scar?" And I answered ni, and it will heal quickly with time. Is that, sir, why you cover your right side of your face as you have? For it is exaggerated that you should, the scar is a minor one, and
luckily it has spared your eye!
Then he asked me as if he were a little child - "is it alright for me to get on a bus instead of having to walk all way home? Because I am tired!" And I told him that I did not think anyone would notice, so to ride on the bus, so that he'd reach home and rest a while. And he asked me, "kind lady, would you stay with me until my bus comes, just for the courage . . and I smiled and said that THAT would be fine!
And then all of a sudden we were both smiling, and he was not hiding his face anymore . . and I felt so grateful, I had been given a chance to also feel happy!

Answer 4

Of course. Did you get to read my first answer on the other Q like this? Ulterior motives are hard for me to digest.

Answer 5

Quite often.. this week I'm helping one person.. that's all I have the time or energy for.. His apartment building had a fire... his apartment got mostly water damage (his was under the apartment that first caught so all the water the firemen used went down) So, I'm trying to help him go through and move what he can save.. (most of the furniture is dead however)

Answer 6

Oh of course...
I do plenty like hold a door open for someone carrying packages or just have their hands full with things...
I have given candy to kids or given money to people who stand on street corners...
I have given money to people in line at a grocery store who are paying cash and don't have that last dollar or cents to pay for their food...
Same with a restaurant, I will help someone who doesn't have enough money to pay...
Now, it's all small amounts because I am not rich...
I am disabled and out of work so I can't afford to do all this much...
But if I have the money with me, I will do it...

Answer 7

Do it all the time, Just gave some furniture to a total stranger my neighbor knew. When I was at work, I would take treats in for the guys I worked with all the time...to me, it makes me feel better inside as a person. :}

Answer 8

Yes, as much as I can. I believe I have been tremendously blessed and I think it would be a crime for me to not help and share what I have when it is necessary. What I do for others is between me and me. They need not know where their help came from, nor does anyone else. I know that I did the right thing and that is the only important thing. I don't need the thanks or recognition for helping someone. I just need to know that within myself Idid what I thought was right...!

Answer 9

Yes, absolutely! Someone told me a long time ago that "charity" should start with the ones we have around us, I think is true. Though, I gladly do nice things for the people that I do not know also.

Answer 10

Yes, I always help the weaks and olds without given a second thought.