Does it make you wonder where some parents went wrong?
2007-11-07 13:56:50 · 17 answers · asked by ncgirl 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I raised my daughter to be caring and thoughtful but somewhere along the way she got lost and I don't think it's always fair to blame the parents. We did our very best for this girl and later found out her birth mother was an addict and incarcerated when she gave birth to our daughter. Unfortunately, she ended up in the same situation. We help her when she needs help and she says she doesn't want to be this way but she goes right back to the hell she calls life.. I apologize for ranting (again)
2007-11-07 14:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I did. But honestly some parents just don't care. Sometimes I think that people should have to pass some kind of competency test before being allowed to have children. I would hate to give the government that much control though. But there are a lot of kids out there that are abused and neglected. I know of one couple with two children that live with one set of the grandparents. The grandparents and the mother are at home all the time with the kids yet do not attempt to try to *teach* these kids anything. This is to me a form of neglect. These children will always fall behind mentally due to being mostly ignored. I could rant about this all night........
2007-11-08 00:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two wonderful children who are adults now. I always told them if you do it you are responsible for it. Whatever that would have been. Manners cost nothing and people remember you for it. What you give out you get back. All that stuff. I think the problem nowadays is parents are so busy working that daycares are doing the bulk of the job. Why do some of these people have kids when they don't have time for them ? Also, in the old days a swat now and then didn't do us or them any harm. Even animals swat their young to put them in line. Not the answer to everything though, I know that but I can sure think of a few kids that could use a good swift kick in the BUTT to smarten them up!!
2007-11-07 22:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ncgrl, I scrolled through the questions here in Senior Citizens this morning, and your question struck me as a little leading or maybe discordant.....because I tried to imagine someone answering that they had raised their children to be indecent and uncaring.
I have often wondered how people become uncaring and why they do horrible things. We humans have been talking about this topic for eons. Look at the Bible stories about Cain and Abel, or Joseph and his brothers.
I believe that most kids are resilient, that it is the combination of having caring parents and other adults along with a kid's temprement and experience that produces caring decent people or not. I've seen some horrible abuse and neglect; and wondered how the kids survived to function at all in society.
Neither of my daughters are perfect angels; but they are caring and we have all learned from our mistakes together. I wish all kids could have parents and other adults who would care for them.
2007-11-08 07:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far my kids are good, decent, caring and mostly well mannered kids. I guess they aren't really kids anymore though. There are still many kids out there who even at a young age are good, decent and caring people. I think many times the parents do all they can, but it's ultimately up to the child to decide how they want to act.
2007-11-08 01:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people seem to thing the problem with the children today is that both parent work, and leave the parenting of their children to day cares, and perhaps they are right, however my wife and I both had full time jobs, and both of our children were Decent caring people, our daughter was killed in a car wreak 10 years ago. but our Son is still the nicest person you will ever meet.
Our son went to public school and graduated with honors. including college.
our daughter started out very hyper, and my wife worked nights, so that she could home school her.
and in that time we had 23 foster children off and on, 6 or 7 at a time.
my wife is a fantastic person, and deserves all of the credit for this.
about all that I did was watch them, from the time I got off from work, and fix dinner for them, and then put them to bed.
2007-11-07 23:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did but once they are adults they will go their own way despite whatever you do.
Adult kids can be decent and caring but all too often the values you tried to instill in them get washed away when they enter into adult life and come across the pressures and problems that come with it.
2007-11-08 02:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I tried very hard to raise my daughter to be decent and caring and she is. I feel really bad for parents who's children are not that way, they must be very disappointed in their kids.
2007-11-07 22:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I raised my kids to be respecful carring and decent toward everybody and they are just doing that Each weekj I receive compliments how my children had been well raised
2007-11-07 22:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by lala 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course. I don't know much about what other parents have done wrong. I do not believe it is always the parents fault when their kids mess up.
2007-11-07 22:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by snow ball 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋