when can i have other one?

Question

my nearly 5 months old baby boy, he's my first child..my husband & i want have other one sooner...should i wait?

Answer 1

Whenever you feel that you all are ready, physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially (not saying that you are not, but you must be positive that you are). Everyone is different. Some people like having there children close together so they can raise them all together. And they can all move out the house together when they get older too. LOL My parents had their first three 5 years apart and the last two were 3 years apart. They loved it and I don't think they would have it any other way. I also had my children 5 years apart. If you have them further apart, then the younger one has someone to look up to and the older one can be more independent, and wont need as much. Although they should still receive the same amount of attention. It helps by letting the older child contribute. Like I have my daughter (6), go get a diaper, and help me wash up her brother (1). It all depends on how you feel though. Whatever one you think you would prefer, is the best decision for you.

Answer 2

If you feel that you are truly ready then whenever you want! My boys are 12 months apart (birthdays 10 days apart) and we recently had a joint 1st and 2nd birthday party for them which was a real blast - and great that we didn't have to do two parties this year! It wasn't planned this way, I had gone back to the gym when my son was 3 months old to try to lose the baby weight and wondered why I wasn't losing it - I was pregnant again! I wasn't ready to have another one yet and worried about how I'd cope through the whole pregnancy. It was very hard at first, juggling the demands of a newborn and toddler who had just turned one, but now I wouldn't have it any other way. They were both born in October so all the hand-me-down clothes that my youngest gets are in season and not exactly old either! They play really well together and hopefully will grow up best mates. Sure it means double the nappies, formula, baby food etc. for a while but hey, I was already doing all the baby things with my first so why not do it all at once! I suppose for your own health it may be better to wait and let things go back to normal, but if you look after yourself and try to keep as fit and healthy as you can you should be fine. I put on a lot of weight being pregnant for nearly 2 years but have been walking it off all year - I bought a twin stroller and just go every day, the boys love it and I am nearly back to normal.
Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

I have a cousin, that got pregnant when her baby was 3 months old. It was an accident. But you can def. get pregnant now. I have heard that it is better for your body to wait at least a year, but if you think you can handle it, and can afford it, then go for it! The older child will adjust to the baby better since they are so close together. Diapers will be over with faster. If you and your husband are both in agreement, and you have no health issues that would make it dangerous, have that baby.

Answer 4

You can start trying as soon as you want to, but remember that your body is still recovering from the last pregnancy. Its a huge toll on your body to have two pregnancies and births within such a short time.

My physiotherapist recommends at least 2 years between pregnancies for everything internal to get back to its correct position. But I think 12mths before trying again would be wise.

I recommend speaking to your doctor or midwife to find out if it is in your best interests to have another so soon.
I personally couldn't imagine having them that close. It is such hard work to have two babies in nappies let alone being pregnant while caring for a baby. Think long and hard before jumping into anything

Answer 5

The theory is that a healthy woman can have a baby every year..which is the best excuse I ever heard of for developing hypochondria! The fact is that it takes your body between one and two years to really recover from pregnancy, but if you feel well enough and you have a chat with your doctor or practise nurse to confirm your good health, then there is no reason why you should wait.

Answer 6

My first two were 17 months apart, then there was a 3 yr space, then 17 months apart, then 5 years , then 4 years.

I think having 2 close together is cool.If it was a c section I would let your body recover awhile longer before having another... but the choice is yours so if its your hearts desire do it.

Answer 7

You can have one whenever you are ready! As trying does take time sometimes! They say that average woman needs a year to heal all the way! But If YOU & your husband are ready for another one then go for it plenty of people get pregnant as soon as it was humanly possible after having a baby and they are just fine! My Aunt went for her 6 week appointment after having her baby and she was already pregnant!

Answer 8

my children are 10 months and 3 weeks apart, both boys, and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. It kinda sux being pregnant for nearly 2 yrs in a row. I had the same midwife deliver both boys at the same hospital, but she didn't remember me, I didn't expect her to though.

Answer 9

well if you feel ready go for it. They say its best to wait 12mos give your body time to recooperate. I did get pregnat when my son was 6 mos so they were 16 mos apart. This we did not plan and personally I would never plan my kids that close on purpose. They are now 3 and 4!

Answer 10

You should wait until your son is a year or two old so that your body has time to fully heal, inside and out, from this pregnancy before you try to have another one. I know that it isn't always possible to wait that long but it is recomended.