why is being around a baby sometimes uneasy for me?

Question

sometimes i'm fine other times i'm uneasy when i'm around my friends new baby. and i have another friend who's having a baby next month. i don't know how i'm going to see her. i would like to meet her baby. when i had to take my friend who already has hers to the hospital during labor that made me feel better for awhile. then seeing the happy family together starting getting to me. i miscarried last year from a rape. i don't know what this is.

and why do i think having one of my own will make me feel better

Answer 1

you feel like this because deep down inside you want a baby. it makes you feel uneased because other people are happy together as a family while theres a really empty part of you that you hide from yourself. Only you can stop this from happening. I dont know how old you are, but it seems like those are the same feelings i had after being mollested by a guy at my church and also miscarrying my baby. I was 15 at the time. I felt uneased also when around people with babys and their babies themselves. I wanted a baby. So when i got pregnant again and had it I felt alot better. Maybe because i was experiencing what they were. I never have that feeling anymore. I hope this helps you out some. Good Luck! :^)

Answer 2

im sorry you went through that. i think maybe your scared to have children because they make you uneasy or maybe it's just the opposite, you want a baby. maybe it reminds you of your miscarriage or the rape and obviously that would make you uneasy. i grew up in a very broken home and when i see happy families it makes me uneasy because i've always wanted one. i can even get uneasy from a show or commercial of a happy family because i grew up in such a screwed up home. i think i just wanted one so bad that it still gets to me even now and probably always will. how would you feel if you were pregnant right now? this is a question only you can answer. try to think of why it makes you uneasy. what do you think during these uneasy moments? what are you thinking of? do you feel sad, emotional, or out of place? once you figure these out then maybe you can figure out your answer. also, think of your dreams and see what they say to you. i believe dreams tell us alot about ourselves. do you ever want a family of your own? why? when? if you said yes and chose a certain time, then why did you pick the time you did? try to come up with questions of your own, it may help you find your answer. good luck!

Answer 3

You should talk to someone...rape is hard enough to deal with but ending up pregnant and then miscarrying is even harder! It's understandable though, seeing babies probably makes you think of your miscarriage which makes you think about the rape. Having a baby just because you want someone to love and someone to love you back is not fair, you really need to see a therapist.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences. Losing a baby is difficult, no matter how it was concieved. That being said, I think you want a baby because of your feelings of loss...loss for your child, and loss for your sense of security. You need to get some therapy and deal with all these feelings. Get yourself back to being emotionally healthy.

Please don't do anything rash and go out and get pregnant. It will not fill that void that you have. You shouldn't have a child until you deal with all these unhappy memories and make peace with them. God bless you.

Answer 5

hi this was to a post that you answered, I am very sorry you got raped as it was not consensual, you should still see yourself as a virgin, and love yourself, don't let that get you down, keep going girl, please just take it one day at a time, stay positive. You are worth everything and you deserve a good life.