If you havent read my first question then it proubly wont make since. So yah. Well, i didnt get to some of the peoples answers onhere in time so i just sat in my room waitin. When he came up there he whooped my bare butt wif a freakin belt, and now i got like bruises cause he was so mad. Im not one to complain but i swear it still hurts and it been a whole day. I couldnt even sit down in any of my classes, and got in trouble.
By the way..
im a 14 year old guy.
2007-11-07 13:17:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sorry... he is my dad.
2007-11-07 13:34:27 · update #1
OK, so I didn't read the first question, but anyone placing their hands on you, whether they are a parent or not, if they are leaving bruises behind, you need to tell someone, do you have an aunt or uncle that you can talk to, or a teacher at school? Anyone?
2007-11-07 13:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and you should report it. Talk to a grown up about it, a counselour at school, a teacher, a friend's parent. You need to find help. There must be an abuse hotline where you live. I'd say you search for it over the internet or in the guidebook. Once you can get the abuse out of the way considering doing therapy to help you overcome these terrible things you're going through. Remember, this is not your fault. Good luck to you, I wish you peace.
2007-11-07 21:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by dRew 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show the bruises to a teacher, administrator, minister, or any other adult that you trust. Tell them what is going on. Someone, It CAN be you, needs to contact Child Protective Services. This CAN be done anonymously. They will ask for a name, but will not disclose it to anyone involved. I know this for a fact because I have done it in the past for people I know.
If you tell a Teacher or Doctor, they are required by law to report the abuse. Meanwhile, get pictures of the abuse as well. Document, document, document. Keep a journal of what happens when.
2007-11-07 21:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by darfy1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is...
I mean...okay...
What/who are you "waiting" for?
Why is your butt bare??? You mean you got nothing on??
So was your dad doing something to you or something?
This is really confusing but this is how I see it based on what I read.
This is how it seemed like to me.
14-year-old boy naked (or maybe half-naked) his room, waiting for someone (maybe dad?). Dad comes in and whacks his naked son's butt with a belt in anger.
Sounds like sexual and physical abuse to me.
14-year-olds are old enough not to be disciplined by getting whopped on the butt by a belt.
Maybe if you explained better? I'm sure I didn't get it right because if I did, something is VERY wrong with your dad...
2007-11-10 05:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by ohhcharm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tomorrow you need to go school talk to a school counselor about your problems and see if you and your dad need to work this out but this is abuse and they might remove from your house and you will be in foster care and being beat with a belt isn't right this is the only way it will stop so young man get the help you need and good luck and the cussing and swearing needs to stop i think you also are having issues with losing your mother and who wouldn't
2007-11-07 21:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read your first question or anything, but, it does sound like abuse. I used to get like...a belt "whipping" when I was young when I did bad stuff or whatever, but I don't know your situation. Sorry that it happened & everything, maybe you should tell someone if it gets worse
-This coming from a 14 yr. old girl lol
2007-11-07 21:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey-x 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok well you telling her to fu*ck off wont get you nowhere just ignore the ***** i know it would be hard but it isnt as hard as his belt on your ***, If the hitting gets worse especially if he starts using his fists you need to tell a teacher at school that you know will listen, maybe he needs to learn that punishing kids aint just all about hitting them, next time tell him to take your playstation or something away for a week!!!!
If you are ever really afraid for your saftey run to a police station and explain to them whats going on and how scared you are!!!
My father used to smash my head against windows and choke me i know how it feels!!!
I hope this helps!!!!
Good luck
2007-11-07 21:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by TrickyNikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends what his gf said that made you swear at her. if she was being rude directly to u then u should of sed something to ur dad. i think hes mad becos he thinks u ruined his chances. if he does it again speak to a counselor but if its the only times hes done it . just say to him dad im sory about what i sed to her i didnt mean it, but u really hurt me. if ur afraid of him or if he has a really bad temper i think u just need to apologize even though u may not think its ur fault. alot of parents still use belts on their kids. if he ever hurts you like punches u or slaps u then he might have anger issues and u should speak to someone.
2007-11-07 21:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by 11999922 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read your original post, but I think this is abuse. You are a little old for spanking, and smacking your bare butt with something is physically painful and also intended to humiliate you emotionally.
2007-11-07 21:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, it's not abuse.
So what if it is? Do you want to call the cops and be taken away? You will go to a group home and be raised by the state. You don't want that.
Suck it up, deal with the new girlfriend, maybe it'll get better.
You don't give him a reason to hit you he won't...right?
You'll be alright. Good luck!
2007-11-07 21:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by Wine and Window Guy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋