15 pregnant?

Question

i am 15 years old 21 week and 3 days my parents no of course they were upset. they clame they cant financially support the child .u can see its to late for an abortion the father wont talk to me and i cant get no contact with him he is 20 years old my parents wanted me to abort and i am kind of running out of options so please if u got any ideas please help i would appreciate it thanks alot

Answer 1

It amazes me that you seem to think that your parents should support the child that YOU chose to have. Yes, you may not have expected to get pregnant, but you chose to have sex, therefore choosing the risk of pregnancy, and you lost. How can you expect your parents to raise a child that YOU decided to have. And did you expect a 20 year old man who was sleeping with a 15 year old GIRL to be around when something like this happened? If you did, you surely are naive.

I suggest you give this baby a chance at life by putting it up for adoption. Yes, it may be hard, but you can not be selfish, and seeing as you are unable to raise this child, then please give it to a family who will. After you have this baby, DO NOT HAVE sex until you are married and ready for a family.

Answer 2

You should have thought about all of this before you had sex.

Life is difficult enough at 15 that I cannot imagine having been pregnant at your age. I am sorry that you are going through this at such an early age....you need to figure out what is going to be best for your child and yourself in the long run.

You are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you- if your parents will not or cannot help you then I really feel like you should consider adoption. Raising a child is a lot of work when there are 2 people in a committed relationship (who have careers) with a network of relatives to help. I cannot imagine you doing this alone and if your parents can;t help financially then are they willing to help watch your baby while you finish school or work to earn money to support you abd your baby? How will you feel staying home with your baby when all of your friends are going to the Prom? Being a mother changes you in ways you cannot imagine. Your life will be all about that baby and providing for him/her. It can be wonderful and the best thing that ever happened to you BUT at your age I worry that if you did find a way to work this out then you will resent the baby and that won't be wonderful for either of you.

I truly hope that since you are so far along that you are taking care of yourself and getting pre-natal care. I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 3

I to was 15 when i got pregnant and i know exactly what u r going through.I know your parents may want u to get an abortion but it is not there call.Only you an make this decision you have to think about how your life is going to change.I myself donot believe in abortion every child is a blessing no matter how it got here or how old u may be.So i would say no to the abortion your parents don't have to live with this decision u do.Now about your childs father,i also went through that same thing.I know right now u may be hurt but it will get better i promise.So just let him have his time to his self and let him think about this i am sure this is a lot for him to.Sometimes we as women in situations like this expect the men to just jump in and except this but sometimes it takes them time to deal with it I know u r thinking that u had to except and deal with this to regardless wether u were ready r not and u r also thinking tha by him being 20 that he should just know what to do,but u will soon learn age has nothing to do with it because men can 20 or 50 but thet never really grow up.So i say u make your own decisions and u deal with it the best way u know how.Sorry this answer is so long but i know exactly were u r coming from.I will not lie 2 you being a teen mom is very hard but the outcome at the end is rewarding so do your best and raise your child.

P.S. do not drop out of school keep going never let anyome tell u that because u have a baby at a young age that the outcome of your life is limited because it is not .Reach for the sky and go as far as u want to go in life.It wa nice answering your question.e-mail me at any time if u want to talk.my email adressis [e-mail]

Answer 4

I was in the same situation. Do you want to keep this baby? if not then go for adoption. If you do, there are many things that will help you support your baby. My parents were the same way, and even tho they could afford to help me, i didn't want them to, and they didn't either. The father was around, but being a single parent its easier to get help. Def graduate school, early if possible, if you have other family that can babysit for you then take it, after you graduate you can legally move out of your parents house. Also after the baby is born you can apply for medicaid and be considered your own family, if you have no income your baby will be accepted. just make sure its after the baby is born that way it doesn't go off your parents income. also there is wic, that will also help. You are legally on your parents insurance until you are 19, so i wouldn't worry about that. I personally wouldn't live off the state, but for a few years while you are getting your school out of the way, i don't see anything wrong with it. You can get a job. and then start making it on your own. I hope this helps, like i said i was in the same situation 15 and everything, so if you have anymore questions feel free to email me.

Answer 5

Well it's a bit late to 'do anything' now. Firstly you and your parents can take the father to court and he'll have to pay child support until the baby turns 18.

Have you considered adoption? There are many families out there who can't have children for themselves.

At least you've got your parents support. Don't give up on your education either.

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Answer 6

Adoption.
You could either get a closed adoption where you can just give up your baby and not even give the adoptive parents yourname.
Or you can opt for an open adoption, where you are given the chance to choose the adoptive parents, and you can maintain regular contact with your child. What ever choice you make, I wish you and your unborn baby the best of luck
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Answer 7

Abortion is now out of the question since you are 21 weeks. You either need to start thinking about taking the father to court for support of the baby and getting on food stamps and WIC if possible. (Depends on the household income) Or you need to seriously think about adoption.

Answer 8

why would u be sleeping around with a 20 year old guy. he should be in ajil for statutory rape. i dont wanna be ruse to you but why would u risk yourself sleepin with a man half your age who dont even care about you and get pregant? its a good thing your parents arent fiancially stable because maybe that'll teach you that once u have a baby, your on your own. its either you alone, or you and your partner. i am pro choice. i belive in abortions but since u wated soo late adoption is the best choice for you. until then i hope you learned a valuable lesson from tis and next time wait til ur married next time u get pregnant

Answer 9

Adoption is the only other option if you don't want to keep the child. If you want to keep it then you can go after the father for child support.

Also I am 14 with a 4 month old. If you need to talk my email is [e-mail]

Answer 10

i got pregnant when i was 15 too my birthdays tomorrow so i'll be 16 in april when i have my baby & my bf will be 21 by then too. there are plent of help you can get like the medical cards to pay for ur hospital and medical things and other things too. but its up to you, if you feel adoption is an option. if you need to talk my email is: roseland_k115@yahoo