In September of 2006 when I was 13 I was raped by a much older man in my own home and ended up pregnant. I kept my baby throught it all and love her in spite of its hard ships and she was born right after I turned 14. Over the summer I started dating a close friend and we ended up having sex a few times then I told him I didnt want to do it anymore that I felt were too young. He got mad and broke up with me. Just today I learned as a result of our sexual relations I am five weeks pregnant. I cant handle having two babies at the age of 15 and I really just wander what i should do. I feel like because I was stupid I am now paying. I can barely handle one and I do this alone. My dad is always gone and my mom works late nights and is asleep in the day so I am alone at rasing my baby and my 6 year old sister. I just am at a dead end and really hurting for some nice advice now. What should I do about this?
2007-11-07 12:53:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was using birth control pills (my older sister made me use them in exchange for her silence) and he always used a condom. So in spite of pills and condoms somehow I still got pregnant
2007-11-07 13:09:58 · update #1
I would consider giving that baby up for adoption. It would be best for the baby and for you. There are a lot of people out there that cannot have their own and would love to have yours. You can get information on this from your doctor or from planned parenthood. They can tell you who to contact if you decide to do this. Were those birth control pills prescribed for you or for your sister. If they were not yours that is how you ended up pregnant. They give them to you based on your body and someone else's pills might not work for you. If you did not take them long enough before you had sex they also would not work. I would think that you need to go to the doctor for some that are for you. Have you told your parents yet? Do not feel like you are stupid but be sure to learn from your mistake. We all make them and we just have to learn from them. Never make the same mistake twice. Good luck honey.
2007-11-07 14:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a tough situation for a 14 year old, my heart goes out to you. The first thing you have to do is tell your parents. I know it will be difficult, but you can't change the circumstances. Then you'll need to decide what you want to do about this pregnancy, you have several options. You can get an abortion, you can keep the baby, or you can have the baby and put it up for adoption. Only you can make the decision, good luck. :) If you don't think you can handle another child, I think adoption is a wonderful option. There are lots of wonderful people out there who can't have children of thier own, I'm sure your baby would find a loving home.
Please don't let this happen to you again, you're so young and you've been through enough already. Once you've made your decision, make sure that you never have unprotected sex again, not until you're older, in a stable relationship and both ready for more kids. Look into the pill, and other contraceptive methods. Please don't let yourself get pressured into sex if you're not ready. If a guy really cares about you, he'll wait until you're ready.
2007-11-07 13:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by lapis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to say. It is a very sad situation because you are a baby yourself.(not to be rude, promise) You do have options other than keeping the baby. One in which is having an abortion, which would not be my personal choose, you can have the baby and put the baby up for adoption or keep the baby. It's really up to you, don't ever let someone make your mind up for you. Listen to your heart and talk to your parents about it they might be able to help a little bit. In the mean time keep your head up and keep smiling, but don't forget it is o.k. to cry. Oh yeah stop having sex or use protection.
Good Luck My Friend :)
2007-11-07 13:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you...I was in a similer situation. But, aside from you i did not have any consiquences. However, if i were in you situation i would have not kept the child. I honestly support abbortion but, for all the right reasons. Think about it this way if you would have done it the first time around, it would make you more cautions and aware of the risks you can take by exposing yourself to an active sexual life..
2007-11-09 07:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a extremely hard situation.. if i was in your situation i would unfortunately have to have a abortion. i don't agree with them most of the time but sometimes we have to do things we don't agree with to make are life better.or even abortion isnt the way you wish to go .. you could go though with the pregnancy and give it up for adoption. the only thing with that is that you may have a hard time letting go once you have it. it may not have been born but it lived with you for 9 months so it is still hard. You don't need that much pressure on ur shoulders. i am 15 and if i was in your situation i would have a hard time living.
i give you ALOT of credit with keeping the first one and raising you younger sister. but do what you think is best . and p.s get on birth control . the stuff works like magic!
2007-11-07 13:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do the obvious: abstain or use birth control. You have some choices. You can keep the baby and be in for a wild ride or you can give the baby up for adoption to a family that would love him/her. You need to talk to your parents and see what their take on it is.
2007-11-07 13:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by seatonrsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!!!I FEEL WHERE U R!!I HAV A COUPLE OF FRIENDS THAT TEEN PARENTS.......MY HONEST OPINION IS THAT U SHOULD GO FOR ADOPTION, IT IS A HARD STEP IN LIFE BUT YOU R ONLY 14!!! U R GONNA MISS OUT ALOT. AT LEAST HAVE THE BABY ND FROM THERE U'LL C HOW U FEEL.........I'M SORRY ABOUT THIS BT AT THE SAME TIME U SHOULD'VE USED PROTRECTION, BT WUTEVA IS 2 LATE NOW JST DO WUTEVA U FEEL IS RITE.U KN GET A MILLION OF ADVICES FROM DIFFERENT PPL BT AT THE END U R DA 1 CARRYIN THIS BABY, ND U R THE ONE THAT WILL HAV 2 CHOOSE....................................
2007-11-07 13:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by issi270 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seems to have Migraine because of the fact many females human beings do in being pregnant. in the experience that your blood assessments and eyes are ordinary and no indications of an infection then it somewhat is the main possible reason. inspite of the undeniable fact that get your self considered and examined by potential of your medical expert or obstetrician.
2016-09-28 13:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by thieme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
glad to haer that you are one of the smarter teens in today's society using contraception. sorry to hear about the rape as well. if you really need help, even if your mum is asleep. just ask. she should be able to support you [when your having problems i mean not financially] as she is your mother and she should be someone that you can always depend on.
2007-11-07 13:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by trace s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck ! my heart goes out 2 u.if u cant hadle it put it up for adpotion or to an relative that wants ababy to take care of until u get old anough 2 take care of the baby
2007-11-07 13:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by kyrah aka babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋