In your opinion is 21 too young to have a child, if you are in a happy relationship but not married, yet plan on getting married in the next few years. and almost done with college, own a house and 2 cars?? thanks for everyones opinion!
2007-11-07 12:34:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
No i dont think so.....i had my son at 19 and turned 20 a month later and im also married.....it all depends on if your stable and have that support you need to raise a child......it sound like you doin good right now.......but live life while you can.........remember tomorrow is not gauranteed.....good luck
2007-11-07 12:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.Green 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as far as I can tell there's no reason to have a baby at 21. It sounds like you've got a pretty good life right now. If you are in college and in a committed relationship and are financially secure in owning a home and 2 cars -- why not get married when you feel like getting married and have a baby some time after that. You have so many years ahead of you to enjoy as a happily young and married couple. It's not that I think you necessarily need to get married first but, why not enjoy your lives together as two young adults that are in love? Once you have a baby -- believe me-- it will never be the same. I love my kids and I wouldn't trade having them for anything in the world. However, you can also have a great time being a twenty-something year old and enjoy all the freedom and fun that is available to you. Once you have a child you will be very busy in totally different ways and your focus will completely change. You will not have free time again and you will not be free again to do as you choose. I absolutely advise you to wait a few years.
2007-11-07 12:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has anything to do with being 21. I do think you should finish school first. I am 27 and still trying to finish school. It can be a real challenge to go to school and care for a child at the same time. You also might as well wait until you are married. Why not get married and then have a baby?
2007-11-07 12:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me -yes, 21 is much to early to have a baby. I have a question to ask you? What is the hurry? Once you have a child, you are a parent for ever more.
In my opinion, you need time to find yourself and enjoy the time of your youth. I always told my kids that you are only young once in your life. After that you have to be a grown up. Please don't rush into anything as serious as having a child.
I am happy that you have so many positive thing in your life right now, but to me your youth is a time of exploration and adventure.
Do me a favor and talk to people who are married - ask them if they regret getting married when they did? Would they have waited and why would they have waited. Ask people who have been married for various lengths of time. It might be interesting to get these peoples perspective on marriage.
This is just my opinion, you must be happy with your decision. Just don't rush into anything!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-07 12:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think so!!! some people mature at alot earlier then others and some people never grow up!! depends more if your mentally, emotionally and financially ready to have a baby. im 21 tomorrow and my lil girl Aaliyah is nearly 5 months young!!! although she wasnt planned she certainly is the best thing that has or could ever happen to me!!! i have finally found my purpose in life!!! i've known girls that have had babies as young as 15 thats too young!!! Each to their own!
2007-11-07 12:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that 21 is too young, i am 21 and TTC I have been married for 18 months and think that maybe you should wait until you are married before you start trying, but its whenever you feel ready.
2007-11-07 14:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 21, got pregnant at 22, and had the baby at 23.
As long as you are ready for the responsibility of a baby, then go for it!
2007-11-07 12:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it is not to young. You see like you are mature enough for it so if thats what you want go for it. I was 14 when I got pregnant and yes I was to young but you grow up fast. About a week after I had him you couldn't tell I was only 15. He is 3 now and he changed my life for the better.
2007-11-07 16:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by zaviersmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so because I am on the same boat as you! And eager to test on Friday because of the symptoms I have been having! Except I am 22..but I am also almost done with school, leasing a small house, good job and have one car. Now, me and my boyfriend of 5 years want a baby!
2007-11-07 12:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by ms ambitious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn;t go to college or anything, I got pregnant at the age 20. After having a baby it changes everything. I couldn't do anything I wanted to do since I am single mom and I always home with him that the I am 26 now and haven't been married yet.
2007-11-07 12:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Proud mom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋