my boyfriend and i was almost 3 yrs weve known each other since we are 14 yrs old..
what shud i do hes pushng me to do that thing but i cant decide about that matter but hes not pushing me hard its like he just keeps saying it to me! eventhough i told him im not ready yet and he told me its alright he keeps saying it,, i cant stop him..
2007-11-07 12:28:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No, it isn't normal, but it does seem to be more and more common these days.
DO NOT give into this pressure. If he really cared about you, he would respect you. Bottom line, he has no respect for you. I suggest moving on.
NEVER do ANYTHING that you don't feel comfortable with. Sex is a huge thing. It can complicate a relationship, there is the chance of pregnancy (and there is ALWAYS a chance of pregnancy), and many responsibilities and consequences that come along with a sexual relationship.
2007-11-07 12:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same situation as you when I was in highschool. We were together for about the same time. I lost my virginity at 17 to him. My mom always told me the longer you make him wait the more he will respect you. That is so true. I am now 26 an we are married now!!! He is the only person I slept with!!! Do what your heart tells you. I was scared too. What ever you do if you decide to make sure you use protection.
2007-11-07 12:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by mizy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may not be pressuring you hard, but he is pressuring you. He's going to keep wearing away at you until you give in. Being that you are seventeen years old, the choice to have sex with your boyfriend is yours to make, but please consider that love is patient, first and foremost. If your boyfriend is not being patient about his love for you, you may wish to consider if he is worth holding on to. There are plenty of men who will be patient and respectful of you. This doesn't mean such a man will never ask you about having sex, but it does mean he will accept your first answer, and will not ask you again until you give him a reason to do so. Be patient with yourself, and seek out a patient man who will love you and be committed to you. It will be then that sex will have meaning for both you and the man you are with.
2007-11-07 14:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal if it is right for you. If you are not ready you are not ready. Tell him that you are not ready and that you don't want to hear about it again. I am sure that he will be the first to know when you are. Do not let him talk you into anything that you are not ready for. If you do you will regret it.When you do give in make sure to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD.
2007-11-07 13:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready then don't do it, that is all I have to say. Don't let the guy push you, I had a boyfriend that did this to me and I finally told him to leave me alone and dumped him
2007-11-07 12:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by YouKnow 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
is it normal for a person to swallow glass, or drink rocks?
teens shouldn't have sex until 19 i think. because teen sex usually ends up in pregnancy. if you don't want to do it say something. He can't make you do anything if you don't want it. set your foot down, a relationship isn't based on sex. It's about chemestry and love, and if he's more interested in sleeping with you then anything else, he's gotta go for sure!
2007-11-07 12:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rsrsrs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to have sex, dont.
It's not about what's "normal"
its about what YOU want.
At 17 I was having sex with my boyfriend but that's only because I wanted to, if I didn't want to, I wouldnt have, plain and simple.
Do what feels right, not what he's pressuring you to do.
2007-11-07 13:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u don't have to do anything u don't want to do
but i'd say that yes it is normal for a 17 yr old to have sex with her boyfriend, i'd say most seventeen year olds are
2007-11-07 12:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by <3 hEy gOrGeOuS <3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to have it after marriage. Too young to have it the girls are at losing side. Say NO to pre marriage SEX.
2007-11-08 15:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by nude_is_on_the_run 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it shouldnt matter how old you are - if your not ready - its as simple as that, ask him to respect that. Its very good of you to realise that you're not ready
2007-11-07 12:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋