This does NOT pertain to my boyfriend... BUT... While talking with the girls tonight we've discovered that through all of our past experiences that only about 1 in 20 guys (no kidding) seriously takes the time to satisfy the girl they are banging. Now before you answer seriously think about how many of the girls you've slept with actually said, "Wow... that was the best", "Wow... you are a God in bed", "I've never gotten it that good before"... because if you didn't hear that... you are one of the 19/20 who sucked. We just don't want to make you feel bad. So... tell me. Why not take a little extra time and figure out what makes us tick?
2007-11-07 11:41:39 · 7 answers · asked by Jake B 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
1st off i agree that i think too many guys are too busy just worried about getting theirs and not soo worried about their partner especially if it is like a one night stand
2nd, i think that there is too much pressure on us guys to get the job done and women never get the blame
3rd i think that women faking or lying is a bad thing cause you may spare his feelings at the moment but then he will never please you casue he thinks he is doing fine - then you go and complain about your guy
4th, women dont speak up enough...this is a two way street
5th, and lastly, i think men are expected to provide everything while women can do things to help th guy help her reach orgasm as well...communicate to the guy, tell him what you like, tell him what you dont like, whaqt he does "right", what he does "wrong"
actually one more thing is that a lot of guys feel inadequate down there and need confidence there..soo much is made of size that that is on our mind too much and not reassured by their partner enough.
2007-11-07 13:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - Society gives girls a 'guilt-trip' for being sexual so most girls are uncomfortable discussing technique or taking an active role with a new (or existing) boy. Much safer to lay back and let him do the work (then complain about him afterwards).
2 - Female arousal is very different than a guys arousal. Guys are very visual, girls are not. Jump right on a guys junk and start rubbing and he's totally good. Girls don't react the same (and often complain about the guys going straight for the parts.)
The most important sex organ for a girl is her mind, and there is not a lot of feedback.
My wife and I have often noted that her arousal is like a cat. It sits there ignoring you. Eventually it will acknowledge your efforts and respond, but there is a lot of "I don't notice you." , "I don't care what you do.", "I'm just sitting here." that we have to get through before she sits up and takes notice.
2007-11-07 12:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Grumpy Mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a two way street honey, girls can also be lousy in bed. Starfish & loosy goosey are some good examples. While Im the first to admit, even bad sex is good as it all has the same end result, you arent going to think "wow that was fantastic love, take 10 points."
2007-11-07 11:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is that women alway whant us ( guys ) to do all the work but you should take some time out and see if you trun him on or not maybe he is rushing for a reason ( you )
2007-11-07 12:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by bigg mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jake B, im sorry that 5 points just got wasted....
2007-11-07 11:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly dear, it is boys, not men, to whom you refer. To boys, a vagina is so much better than a fist...they lose control. Try a man sometime...you'll see.
2007-11-07 12:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but i bet that you girls never mentioned to the guy what he was doing wrong, just complained to your friends
2007-11-07 11:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by swenjj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋