my two month baby cries to be carried , ive been told to just let her cry. How long should i let her cry ?

Answer 1

I feel for you as I had a colicky daughter who cried from the moment I gave birth until she was around 2 years old. There was no health reason for it. In fact, it was her personality. She is 6 now and has a tendency to be over emotional.
But, I think an 8 week old baby is much too young to leave in the crib to "cry it out". Babies cry for reasons. Either they are hungry, want their diaper changed, or they want to be held and rocked.
It is ridiculous to think that a baby with that age can become spoiled from being held too much. They don't even have that thought process yet. It doesn't develop until much later.
Right now all she wants is to be soothed and your job as a parent is to provide it for her. There will come a time, when she is a few months older, where she will become more mobile. It will then be the opposite! She will fight for you to let her down on the floor to explore. Gone will be the days when you can actually hold and rock her. So, enjoy it now while you can!
It is understandable though that sometimes you will need a break from carrying her around. Usually babies who like to be carried enjoy a wind-up baby swing. I don't know if you have tried that yet. Most of the time I was able to get a break from my daughter for at least 10 or 15 minutes while she sat in the swing.
Also investing in a good sling or carrier is a good idea. It will save your arms and shoulders from becoming overstrained.
Other than that, all I have to say is that you should just remember that she will NOT be 2 months old forever. Babies change drastically month to month. This will more than likely be a stage that she will grow out of. Instead of seeing it as a burden, try to enjoy the bonding experience with your daughter.
I wish you both luck!

Answer 2

I am NOT wild with the idea of crying it out. Especially if she is only two months old. Sometimes, when babies have a little gas or tummy aches, being held relieves some of the pain, or so my mother tells me. Is she hungry? Does she keep crying after you pick her up? She just needs to know you are there. Keep in mind she has NO OTHER WAY to communicate with you. Crying at that early of an age always means something. Babies need a lot of affection too at this age! Hope this helps

Answer 3

There are many people that tell you to let them cry, you will spoil a baby by picking them up every time they cry. There are studies that prove the opposite. It is healthy for a baby to know that their needs are going to be met in a timely manner. In my class for preschool, we learned that children learn whether they can trust within the first year of life. A baby left to cry it out all the time learns that their needs are not being met, even if that need is to be held. (I know a lot of people will give thumbs down, but I have read several places, that habits can't be formed for the first 3 months of life.) Now, as a mother, you can't always hold them every second of the day. A sling helps so you have your hands free. The times that it is healthy for your baby to cry it out at that age is when you are mad and have lost your cool. And the time limit, is when you cool down, you can't get out of control to the point where you would harm them. You will realize when your child gets older, and understands the language more and becomes more aware of tantrums, that crying for items, you just ignore, but a 2 month old baby isn't crying for tantrums and letting them cry it out (they can't even start to self soothe till they are 3 months) should only be done when you need a few minutes to regroup.

Answer 4

I wouldn't let my baby cry at any age. Most of the time they are crying for some reason. They are not able to talk and tell you what they want. Just pick up the baby when it cries it will not spoil the baby. I would say don't let her cry, i just seems cruel, my opinion though. :) Mommy of a baby boy

Answer 5

You should NOT let a 2 month old baby "just cry". It is your responsibility as a mother to take care of her needs... this includes her biological and emotional need to be held. It's unreasonable to expect a 2 month old baby to always be content being left alone in a crib, car seat, baby swing, etc. It doesn't work that way. they want to be held as close to Mama as possible. It's good for their development. If you let a baby cry you are neglecting their needs. It's cruel. Period.

Answer 6

Ok, this is just my opinion: the choice is always yours when it comes to your child and allowing them to self sooth or not. Some people are very adimant that you should hold a screaming child to show them comfort, others are of the belief that the child should be able to self sooth. personally i did both. there are times when all they need is just a little comforting to make them happy/calm again. other times they are crying just to cry. this is your child and only you can tell the difference in how she cries, and there is a big difference. so when your child is crying, try to let her cry but listen to how she is crying and listen to the different tone that is coming out. you will know when enough is enough and when to pick that child up or let them cry themselves to sleep. Good luck!

Answer 7

8 weeks is too small to just let her cry. You dont want to start that until she's well into her 3rd month. She needs your constant reassurance to know that she's safe in her own body, and in her new environment.

Get a pouch sling. We make them and sell them on ebay. Just search for them. Theyre life savers, you get two hands, and baby is happy.

Answer 8

touch is the most important thing during the infancy stage, by attending to their needs, they will feel that they are loved and secured.

Answer 9

get a Fisher Price Rainforest Jumperoo

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5420743

and a walker

http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2373425

you can place a throw pillow behind babies back and get her used to keeping herself entertained ...... I would go buy the ten minute rule ...... is she cries longer than ten minutes pick her up ...... of course this is after they have beenfed,changed,burped, checked for dirty diapers again .... and assuming they aren't screaming so hard that they are turning real real red and freaking out .....

Answer 10

yeah you should let her cry it out like that untill shes at least 5 or 6 months! ...