im not doing it now but i think it will be coming pretty soon and i want to be a little prepaired. im using protection and im old enuf so pls help how bad does it hurt? is there any way to lessen the pain? thy
2007-11-07 10:46:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
how would u break it to a boyfriend that u have never done it b4?
2007-11-07 10:50:32 · update #1
It hurt quite a bit for me actually. The guy I was with my first time asked me before we started if I was a virgin, I was so embarressed but it was written all over my face, so I had to say yes. He said he'd go easy then. You've gotta relax!!! If you tense up you muscles in your vagina and uterus it will hurt more. I tried to relax, but it still hurt. He asked a few times if I was ok (which was really sweet) and he just went really slowly. The next time was a totally different story. It was great, and you can loosen up even more and really start to enjoy yourself and even start experimenting. If the guy knows its your first time, and he's your boyfriend, it's gonna be soooo much easier. Don't stress, just relax, and you'll be totally fine.
2007-11-07 10:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be adequately lubricated, either by natural means or a personal lubricant, and take your time. If you can't at least use a tampon you might be in for a rough time.
I hope you are old enough to be considering this big step, and will be using birth control. Believe it or not, it will probably be more comfortable for you if he uses a condom (lubricated, of course), and of course you will be protected against STDs.
By the way, the first time is not a horrible experience for all women at all. And the right time is different for everyone.
2007-11-07 10:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
use a lot of lube, relax and take your time...
be sure that you are ready...
when you kno it's the right time and right moment then thats when you do it...
you may say your old enough, but trust me unless your ready to take any responsibility for a thing such a sex and yes is a responsibility b/c you have to stay on your game to be as safe as possible then go for it...
sex is more to handle than some females think until they are too late to learn that...it's not all about how good it feels and pleasing your partner!
2007-11-07 11:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥betti cupcake♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not much you can do to lessen the pain,
it acually doesnt hurt that bad.
and when it does hurt, your usually just soar the next
couple days, not right away.
you could take some ib profen or anything like that
to keep it away a little.
2007-11-07 10:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It took me almost a month to actually get anywhere inside my girl. Before i get the head in she'd be complaining about the pain.
So what i did was use my fingers.. At that time she couldnt fit 2 fingers, it was a bit much for her, so i worked her up to that, then we tried again. We actually got to do it after that but it was still pain for her, and i still couldnt i get all of it in (two fingers isnt near my girth). But it got better for her over time.
Just tell the guy you never done it before. If you're going to do it it shouldnt be hard to tell him. And theres nothing shameful about it, especially since you're a girl.
Oh ya and since you're using condoms dont forget to get water based lubricant for latex condoms. I find the lube that comes on them dries out fast and soak up everything else sometimes i dont know why, but if you got extra lube it will be very very helpful for you.
2007-11-07 11:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by chig 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I can suggest is to tell your lover to be very gentle and take it slow. The hurt really isn't bad as they might lead you to believe. Tensing up during might make it a Lil more uncomfortable. Try and relax and take your time.
2007-11-07 10:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by laura seeks the Kwisatz Haderach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didn't tell my first he was my first when i should have because he will believe you've done it b4 and he won't go easy on you and tell him that might spark a convo in ur relationship and when people tell you you shouldn't do it's not worth it it's your life you make the mistakes or achive the best in life my first time didn't hurt me why i don't know but one day you might look back at it like i shouldn't have done it but don't regret anything you ever do in life
2007-11-09 09:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by gabrielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax as much as you can and if needed have lubricant such as KY handy. Make sure you make your partner aware of how you feel so he will be as gentle as possible. The key though is to relax. It probably won't hurt as much as you think it will.
2007-11-07 10:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you take your time before penetration, you can try different things before having sex like playing around have him stimulate you orally and with his fingers so when your ready to take the next step it wont be as painful.
2007-11-07 10:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jefferson R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant talk to him about it, then you are not ready, besides. your virginity is something totally special, save it for the one you will be madly in love with and with the one you can actually talk to about it. DONT REGRET IT!! what a huge decision to make, it shouldn't be taken lightly. use protection as well, think before you jump!!!
2007-11-07 11:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by select_fan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋