!!!!!!!!Help!!!!!!!?

Question

im a 15 and pregnant
what do i do

please help me

i didn't mean to i ean he wore a condom but i guess it broke
but it wasn't y fault

i don't want to tell my parents

Answer 1

hey i am 15 and i am 21 weeks or well something around there i think more like 22 or 23 well anyways i was so scared i waited 3 months to tell my family but all my friends knew anyways i think you should tell whoever you are living with now or maybe tomorrow when you are more calm it will be very hard but what you need to do it sit down and tell them... i wrote a note and put it on the table where they would read it then went to school... they had time to read it and think about it while i was at school then we talked about it talk about emotional... and then i took a nice hot shower to calm down... it will be hard... i am not trying to tell you what to do but if you need help im here to talk to heres my email... [e-mail] i am willing to talk well anyways i am giving it up for adoption to a wonderful family that can handle a kid... well i hope this helps a little bit but you should know that all these people will tell you to tell whoever you are living with... but most of them will be mean or say something about your age trust me i know but see you and me are alike and i wont judge like some people im not really like that... well anyways hope this helps...

Answer 2

keep it, abortion, adoption... these are all questions that will be answered when you have sorted out what you are going to do in the short term.
I am a teacher in a school where some parents are not very understanding if their children get pregnant. Now I am not for one second saying that your parents may not be suportive - only you know that.

In your school there will be a designated child protection officer. Ask your form tutor or a trusted teacher who it is. If you like the teacher then speak to them about the issue.

If you think your parents will be suportive - once they get past the initial shock then tell them, if not then speak to school and explain your fears about not telling your parents.

If you are going to opt for abortion - and I can't stress this enough - THAT IS YOUR CHOICE AND NO-ONE ELSES - then time is of the essence.

Sometimes I advise my students to make a pros and cons list when they are struggling to make a decision.

Also the Brook advisory service is an exceptional place for young people to get support with issues such as these. You can call them in confidence on 0800 0185 023 and they will put you in tougch with a councellor who can help you work through your options. If you do keep the baby and you get the right support put in place then going back to education after the little nipper arrives will be easier and smoother for you.

There are people who are there for you.

I really REALLY hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 3

As much as you don't want to, you need to tell your mom -- for your health and the baby's. She can help you get in to see a doctor and get medical care during your pregnancy.

PLease, whatever you do, don't kill the baby by getting an abortion! Please give the child you created a life! You are so young, so I would recommend considering adoption. There are so many couples out there that want children and would make wonderful parents, but can't have children of their own. They would love to adopt your baby and give it a good home.

For more info visit www.itsaboutlove.org. THere is an 800# on that site that you can call for free to get some help from a professional. It is confidential and free for you. They can even help you figure out how to tell your mom.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I would suggest an abortion or adoption.

Raising a child is a LOT of work. Unless you have lots of help you probably are going to be stuck. You don't have a job. Didn't the daddy just dump you according to your previous post? Will your parents do the babysitting and pay for everything the baby needs?

So if not, do you realize how much work it will be?

Can you grow something for 9 months then just give it up?

It's your decision. It's a difficult decision to make at such a young age, but you got yourself into it, only you can decide what to do next.

Good luck.

Answer 5

First tell your parents, they will be able to get you in to see a doctor that can check if everything is ok with you and the baby. Second I would talk to the school councelor, she will be able to get you set up with additional community resouces such as adoption agencies, parenting classes and state aide. I hope everything works out for you. This is a very scary time for you, just hang in there and your life will eventually get better.

Answer 6

Tell your mom and DON'T GET AN ABORTION. it causes physiological problems in adults, not to mention teens. Talk to your parents, though. though they may be disappointed, don't hide it from them. it will only make it worse. I'm going to pray for you, hope everything turns out OK. My mom was 16 when she had me, and gave me up for adoptian. i would reccomend doing an open adoptian so you can still see the kid after it is born

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Also, if you can't tell your parents, is there a counsler at school or a friend's mom who you can talk to? you really do need to talk to someone about this- it is not good for you or your baby to not have anyone know.

Answer 7

You need to tell your parents and decide from there want to do. Is the best thing right now and see a doctor too. Don't hide it from your parents. They be there support you. If you afraid to tell them tell a consular at your school and they could tell your parents. You need to tell your parents and see a doctor that the best thing you can do..

Answer 8

you should put it up for adoption...i was thinking FAR too selfish...but THAT said...understand that you DO NEED to consider adoption and NOT keeping the baby...

OR... I can call my cousin and ask her ..they are considering adoption at the moment ...and i'd have to see..

her husband is a doctor and your child would be in excellent care for the rest of his/her life..

either way...DON'T ABORT...it is not the fault of the child that you got pregnant..

assume the responsibility and you will never do this again...I am sure..

Answer 9

YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR PARENTS AND THE FATHER. YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST. I GOT PREGNANT WHEN I WAS 19 AND I HEARD IT ALL FROM MY PARENTS, SOME VERY BAD THINGS. I MADE IT THROUGH OK, THAT WAS TWO YEARS AGO. THEY LOVE MY DAUGHTER!!!

BEFORE YOU TELL THEM, THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO. YOU HAVE TO PLAN ON GETTING THROUGH THIS BY YOURSELF, BECAUSE IF THEY DON'T END UP HELPING YOU, YOU NEED TO HAVE A PLAN. IF THEY DO HELP YOU, THEN YOU JUST HAVE TO COOPERATE WITH THEM. REMEMBER THAT NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY TO YOU, THEY STILL LOVE YOU!

Answer 10

You definately need to speak to your parents. But remember no one can make a decision for you. What ever you do, it is your choice. Good Luck and best wishes!