I'm in the doghouse, can someone help?

Question

I need to know what to do. Here is how it started.

I walked into school and my girlfriend was talking to her friends. I have her a hug and said, wow you look pretty today, and she said "So i'm ugly the other days?" and left.

We met back up, and talked for sometime, and then I said. Oops gotta go to class, love you. And she said, "What am i not important enough for you to be late?"

She then started ignoring me when I tried to talk to her, and her friends were around and so we all started talking, and she got mad saying i was flirting with her best friends...

I wrote her a poem, about how beautiful, smart and talented she was and how much she means to me, and she said "Is this the best you got?"

What is wrong? I mean, this is not like her, she has had some rough spots in the past 2 years, but I mean come on, she is still mad at me for some reason, so what do i do?

God Bless.

Her Period was two weeks ago though

Answer 1

You sound so sweet and nice Chris!
If you honestly feel that you havent done anything wrong, then leave her alone until she gets over whatever it is that she's going through. Don't be a doormat (you have your whole life in front of you and you sound like a great guy.)
If she isn't trying to pull something or give you the heave-ho, then she'll probably come around.
In the meantime concentrate on other things. Hang with your friends and get into your schoolwork.
Take care.

Answer 2

Here's the best advice I can offer -

You can not hope to micromanage a relationship. Some days are good days, some days are bad. No matter how much you love someone, always remember that the other person is an individual too - there are always going to be moods that you don't understand, emotions that you're not privy to, happy occasions and sad occasions that you can't hope to understand.

Pressuring your girlfriend to explain every one of her moods to you is not productive - I'm sure you've had days when you were in an exceptionally good or bad mood, and for the life of you, you might not have been able to explain why. Also - don't always assume it's about you - no matter how much she loves you, you'll always be only a part of her life - there's so much to life that there will always be things that you're just not a part of.

When you encounter your girlfriend (or anyone else for that matter) who is having a miserable day, the first temptation is to try to help. There's nothing wrong with that, but you have to be sensitive to the response when you do. If the other person makes it clear that they'd prefer to work it out on their own, you have to be the kind of thoughtful person who will stand back and give them the space that they're asking for.

It could be that your girlfriend's bad mood is the (first?) sign of a serious schism between the 2 of you, but if this is really out of character for her, you probably just caught her having a really, really bad day. Remember - don't pressure - let her know that you're there for her, and if she wants to talk, she will.

If you've wracked your brain and you can't think of anything you might have done - or something that maybe you didn't do - something perhaps she misinterpreted, then don't work yourself up - give her some space - let her know you're there - and let her find whatever peace she's seeking.

Good luck to you - you seem like a sensitive guy, and I hope it works out soon.

Answer 3

Ok it doesn't sound like you're really doing anything wrong - how old are you? Maybe if you're a teenager she could be coming to that certain time in her life where she goes from a girl into an adult... that's a pretty stressful time and hormones always go flying everywhere then. Maybe it could be that she feels you're smothering her a bit, do you have your mates as well as her? I think when i've been like that to guys before, and then they back off slightly I soon start to miss their "always there-ness" and I soon start madly texting and calling! Good luck xx

Answer 4

Sorry, but she sounds like a *itch. I'm sure you really like her, but she is disrespecting you both to your face and in front of other people. Sorry to sound like some of the pre-teens on here, but you need to tell her that she is making you feel bad, and if she doesn't take you seriously (and start respecting you both alone and in front of others), dump her for someone who will treat you nice. Maybe it's because she "likes you", and also because she has self-esteem issues, but she is twisting your kindness around by reading incorrectly into the things you say. You are being very nice to her, and she is not being nice to you. Help her realize it, and if she doesn't change, know that when you dump her that not every beautiful girl is a *itch. I swear.

Answer 5

Well first off why don't you just ask her?If y'all are really close then she should tell you,she's might be having a family prob. or something. Maybe her mom or Dad is mad at her for something and she's taking her anger out on you. You could also plan something really special for just the two of you,maybe a picnic,or dinner,just do something just the two of and she'll prob. end up telling her what's really bothering her.Hope you both work it out,and I'll be praying.God Bless and Good luck

Answer 6

i'd be so pissed at her...but i'd probably ask whats wrong..even though she'd probably find something to make that sound bad. So im not really sure what you would do. Sounds like she is being a you know what. Just talk to her, ask how things are goin....i dont know whats wrong with her though.

God Bless you too! Hope everything works out.

Answer 7

Your girlfriend was trying to start a fight, who knows why? Maybe she's having her period. The first time she was an idiot, I would have walked away. I certainly wouldn't stand there and say "I love you" like she's not being a jerk. next time she smarts off, don't say anything, just walk away...I bet she runs back to you, begging forgiveness! She just knows she can walk all over you, and you'll take it!

Answer 8

I think that she's just so irritated by something. There's something that's bothering her for sure. You need to ask her. She'll tell you, and if she doesn't it's because it's something that's happening in her family, usually.
Another tip, when she says "so I'm ugly other days" don't walk away, just say, "No, you're gorgeous all other days, I just wanted to remind you."

tell her that she's the ONLY one for you. Mean it. Make something that's so special for her, that she can't be mean to you. Like, a whole night. hers. something like that.

I don't think she's mad at you, just jealousy, or that she's irritated by something else...

good luck. :]

Answer 9

shes either guilty of something and trying to make you the bad person in the relationship or either she has some real serious issues and is wanting to be alone.


I would give her a taste of her own medicine....

give her space...dont hug her...dont kiss her...dont write her poems.....back off a little bit and see if she don't come running

if she doesn't however...i think its time for you to move on...you sound like a headstrong person...it shouldnt be easy for you to find someone

goodluck!

Answer 10

Sound like your g/f is insecure. Nothing you can really do but stick around through it. Maybe she got her period? Maybe something happened at home? Could be lots of things you have nothing to do with but you are closest to her therefor the one who gets the blunt of it. Not fair but it happens.
Just think at least you two are not pregnant......