how do you know when to call your marriage quits?

Answer 1

When there is no love, you don't want to be together, you do your own things all the time, the trust is gone, someone cheats, abuse

Answer 2

When there is NO other alternative.
Divorce should be absolutely the last resort because of infidelity, abuse, abandonment, addiction, or criminal behavior of a spouse.
You should exhaust all other possibilities, such as reconciliation, marriage counseling, etc.

That said, it take both spouses committed to the relationship to make it work. Sometimes it is the only solution.
Just be aware that some of the problems of the marriage will follow you even after the divorce. If money is tight now, just imagine what it will be like when all the assets, income, etc. are split & must support two households (plus pay the attorneys and court costs!) If you have children, get ready for continuing conflicts over custody, child support, visitation, differing morals/values, etc.

You didn't provide many details, but do some soul-searching based on this and the other responses you receive. It is not a decision to be made lightly.

Answer 3

It is time to call it quits when there is more hurt stemming from the marriage than happiness. When the focus of life becomes the misery of the relationship rather than the joy and success each person could attain. Finally, when children are adversly affected by the rotting relationship it is selfish to continue in the same old ways. If all else has been attempted to heal the marriage, then it is more healthy to walk away than to spend one's life fighting a losing battle.

Answer 4

When we have problems in relationships we are of the supposition that someplace else is better than where we are.

Anyplace else, and anyone else is probably just as full of problems as where you are, and who you are with.

Ideally, if two people could realize that a relationship needs to be refreshed with new ideas, new directions and goals then the relationship could be saved.

Unfortunately we see how easily people cast each other off and look for someone new. But notice after a while how often we hear of people getting back together after trying the grass on the other side.

Answer 5

When you've exhausted all of your options of resolving the problems in your marriage then you should consider counseling. Sometime an outside source can help both of you to see each other's point of view. Divorce is the cowards way out for some and the best option for others. Make sure you've done all you can and remember that what we want is not always what we need....

Answer 6

Well the answer should be never but I would say that living a life of complete unhappiness is not worth living so, after you have exhausted all of your resources and have agreed that you should part, but I will add that you should both agree, then you know, there's nothing left to do.

Answer 7

If you are being mentally or physically abused, when there is completely no sex involved, when you don't even look at eachother anymore, when you feel happier and more calm when the other person is not there, or/when you have been through at least 1 year of marraige counseling and it just didn't do anything.

Answer 8

I think you should call your marriage quits when you don't feel within yourself that you can fix whatever problem that you are having, but you need to at least try to fix it first, not just say "I'm unhappy he/she must be too, I', done"

Answer 9

depends on the situation and how long it has been going on. If it's something minor, then you both need to make an effort. If its something as far as physical abuse, then you need to call it quits already!! HOpe that was somewhat helpful

Answer 10

1. No love
2. No Sex
3. No Money
4. He beats you
5. Ask yourself, would I be happier sitting at my computer in the middle of the day asking strangers for advice and then eat dinner alone.
6. Are you better off w/o him

Answer yes to most of these, then leave.

Answer 11

When everything falls apart, and you don't see any way to help it. I think you should always be positive that nothing else will work before you call it quits, though.