If your husband came to you and asked your permission to engage in an extramarital affair with another man (from time to time)?
and let me add this is just a hypothetical situation it is not my husband...I am just asking a what if?
thanks for your responses...
2007-11-07 08:08:28 · 36 answers · asked by Notagain 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Amelia I am not a teen but thank you for the smart a$$ response
2007-11-07 08:12:43 · update #1
Yes Sofilita I am sure...
2007-11-07 08:18:03 · update #2
What? I would be offended, hurt, bewildered and thinkinng that my husband was GAY! Any affair, no matter male or female, is hurtful to the spouse. It's especially hurtful if the man shows homosexual tendencies and didn't reveal that little nugget of honesty before they were married. Honestly, I don't understand these gay men who want so badly to be straight that they're willing to drag some poor woman into THEIR identity crisis and then ruin HER life too. It's just selfish to me! If you're not sure if you are gay or straight, then by all means, take the time to date, "find yourself" or whatever....but don't marry a freakin' woman so you can prove how straight you are!
2007-11-07 08:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would say no way. But it all depends on what type of relationship you have.
Some people have open relationships. Some people dont. Personally I couldnt deal with an open one. Anyway...but some people know their spouse is bi or likes to engage in sex with other people. Some married people are swingers. Some married people love the person they are with but one of the people just doesnt enjoy sex (that could be for any reason) and they let the other go and have sex with someone else.
Long story short I would say no way. But thats me. For your own situation or this other persons situation they may have a different type of marriage.
2007-11-07 08:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by sparkles_0604 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be cheating if he's asking for your permission. It would be more of an open marriage. Personally, I don't think I could handle something like this whether it's a male or female partner he would be seeking. I don't play well with others. I think that the idea and image I would have in my head of him being with someone else would bother me too badly. I wouldn't be able to overcome it.
Also, you would have other issues to be concerned with -- are you willing to put yourself and your health at risk when having sex with him while sharing him with someone else?
And emotionally, since it's a male partner he's seeking, it'd be an awful lot like a roller coaster. I would be constantly concerned with his commitment to me as a woman and his wife. Suppose these intermittent affairs bring up latent yet powerful emotions for him and he decides that life is the one he wants rather than the life he has with you (as a woman)? You might be able to fix a lot of things in a marriage, but you can't "fix" the fact that you're a woman (if what he truly wants is a man). Personally, I couldn't live with the uncertainty.
2007-11-07 08:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would ask him why? Is he not happy with the married life. I would not give him permission. If he likes to be other men then he has to leave his wife and his children(if any). But a marriage is a commitment of two people. He took vows to love the person and be with him/her for the rest of their life. Extra Marital affair is not going to make anyone happy. its just a happiness(lust) of few mins and thats all.
2007-11-07 08:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, and no. To me that is the same as having a fling with a woman on the side. Not only is he uping his chances of getting any kind of STD, if the wife is still having sex with him shes at risk too. And not to mention, even though he asked its still cheating. There must be something wrong with the marriage, or maybe he is just not finding what he really is attracted to.
2007-11-07 08:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! If my husband asked me that I would divorce him. Not only is he asking to have an affair but he is also telling me that he is no longer heterosexual which is a pretty big a*s problem when in a marriage. So I guess I would let him but we would never have sex again and we would definitely get a divorce.
2007-11-07 08:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if the woman was okay with it then it doesn't matter. Personally, I would not want to be with a man who preferes the other end of the spectrum strictly because I wouldn't be at all comfortable with the situation. But that's me, other couples are swingers, there's no way in he** I'd be a part of that either, but to each their own.
2007-11-07 08:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Honestly, I'd probably ask him to give me a few days to think about that, and then probably later that day slather him with my resulting insecurities. Goodness. That's an awful situation.
2007-11-07 08:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a standard reply for questions like this. It goes:
Eat sh*t, run rabbits and howl at the moon.
No way, no how, not ever in this lifetime. If that's what he wants, then he needs to get a divorce first!!!
2007-11-07 08:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.... I would laugh and ask him is he serious. I know my man is against "gay" stuff. He doesn't like anything that is "man on man" so I would definitely be shocked and decline it. I mean, I think if any man is straight then he wouldn't want to see his girl with another guy nor would he want to be with another guy. So, I would definitely question.
2007-11-07 08:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋