ok, well, alot of things have happened to me lately, and i've done the research, and i think i might be depressed, i was talking to my boyfriend of 1+ years, and he says i need to get help and if i dont he is going to for me, but my freinds i've known for ever are telling me im fine and that theyre there and i will get through it, what should i do? who do i need to listne to, my boyfreind means the world to me but so do my friends, is my boyfreind being over protective?
2007-11-07 08:04:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Complicated; your friends may think they're reassuring you by telling you you're fine when you're not. Then again, if they ALL say you're fine, it could be your boyfriend being overprotective. I would ask him WHY do you need to get help?
If he knows you pretty well after one year, and has only being saying this recently, and not on off since you've started dating, perhaps it is worth looking for someone really honest (not him because, though he won't mean to be, since he is so concerned, he will be biased), and discussing what he has said to you, to see if others agree.
I don't think having your boyfriend tell you these things is going to boost your morale much, which isn't going to help, so tell him he mustn't worry, but do follow it up with at least something, to keep him reassured that you won't leave any potential problems to grow.
There is a small chance that by telling you this he is trying to employ a strategy that will keep you with him; If he makes sure you always feel he's the only one who knows you well enough to see that something is seriously wrong - nothing is wrong really; he just wants you to feel that.
But this doesn't sound likely, especially if he is wanting to go himself and seek help for you. I would say, get someone's opinion other than your friends, then you're looking into it which is good if it IS something wrong, and you're reassuring your boyfriend. If he changes tack after that, then take my previous paragraph more seriously. Good luck!
2007-11-07 08:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Catherine S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling somewhat depressed, The first thing I would look at is if you are living right. And I'm not saying that to be mean, i'm just saying, from my own experience, I've found that
when I've got depression, often it's cause I've done something wrong, and my conscious is bothering me. Than when I repent, things get better. I'm one of these guyz who believes that phycologists are used to often, and medicine is used to often. Are those things useful, Yes, do they have their place, yes, are there other alternitives, yes. Search your soul, see if there is something causing you to not be able to feel peace.
Good luck
2007-11-07 08:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by squishy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend might be the only one willing to speak the truth. Your friends want to be encouraging and supportive but that can also come across as denial.
Listen to your boyfriend-- it won't hurt you to get help. If you think you might be depressed, you need to take a step.
Good luck-- and you have great friends, too, to be supportive. Now ask them to support you through the help you get! Sometimes you need more than your friends to be there-- you need outside support.
2007-11-07 08:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by LJG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is just trying to look out for you. He wants to pretect you.Although, your friends might be right at the same time. You never know. Your friends maybe just want to deny that you are depressed for a certain reason. I would say, check out a doctor..seriously.
2007-11-07 08:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by Melixx28 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may see something that your friends don't see. It doesn't hurt to go to a counselor. A counselor will evaluate how badly your depression has gotten and then take the proper steps to help you. Just try one or two counseling sessions to pacify him and if it doesn't seem like something you want to stick with, then try your moral support from your friends.
2007-11-07 08:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think you should go to the doctors and be diagnosed if you think your depressed then something will be done about it professionally!
What sort of things have happened and what research have you done?
2007-11-07 08:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by smaxsx1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be over-protective, but his logic makes more sense: err on the side of caution. If he's wrong, all you've lost is a bit of time. If they're wrong, you may exacerbate your potential condition by going undiagnosed and allowing it to worsen. (Depression doesn't improve on its own.) Your boyfriend seems more insightful in this instance...good for him.
2007-11-07 08:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of things?
Help never hurts.
If you think you're getting overly depressed then definally: don't want to harm yourself.
If you just noticed this than try doing your favorite things skip a day of school, take off a few days of work and try to cheer up.. have your friends help you!
what do you think?
2007-11-07 08:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by gilmore94 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...maybe your boyfriend has something to do with you being depressed....because your friends say you are fine....so you are fine...with the people who really know you....or maybe your boyfriend.....doesn't understand you and wants you to be a certain way....be more cheerful or something and that's just not you....
...I try to be positive...but....sometimes...there are things in your life you have to deal with...and you can't be all happy all the time....normal to be sad sometimes too....
...if you want to talk with someone...then do it for you....but only if you want to...not because of what your boyfriend says...
2007-11-07 08:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you get on anti-depressants it's hard to get off. If you're not having thoughts of suicide I'd just deal with your problems yourself and accept the fact that life is hard. If you are having suicidal thoughts talk to your doctor.
2007-11-07 08:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by mandynjoseph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋