Is this slutty?

Question

A couple of times in the heat of passion I've told my husband to f**k me and said graphic stuff that I want to do to him. It feels right when I'm saying it but the next day I'm mortified about it. I feel really dirty and unfeminine and I don't want my husband to think less of me because I wasn't acting like a lady. He's never said anything about it but I'm too embarrassed to bring it up. I know it isn't but I just feel like its really slutty to say graphic stuff like that to him. Sex was very taboo in my family.

Is there anything wrong with that or is it acceptable? Will he still see me as that sweet girl that he loves or will it change the way he thinks of me? I want to spice things up a bit but I hold back because I don't want to come off like a whore.

Is it slutty to say/do dirty things like that?

Answer 1

Every man wants a complete angel who is a sllut in bed. You are being his ultimate fantasy. Trust me, if he doesn't like it, he'll say something.

Answer 2

That's cool, I had a girlfriend that was exactly the same. The first time I was freaked out, just because I didn't expected it. But latter I found it to be the most exciting thing was to get her all worked up into a frenzy.
He will probably not have a problem with the things that you say. But as a suggestion when all of the heavy passion stuff is over you may want to place a bit of closure on the episode, like saying some thing such as...thanks for the pounding.. I needed that, or Only you could bring out the beast in me.
That way he feels that it is him that is driving your hard charged response.

Answer 3

Trust me guys love it. I say a lot of stuff also in the moment and after words I think did I really say that. But everytime I do the guy loves it or the next time we do it he will tell me to say it again. And just there reaction is so hot. When you say something and they grab you even harder and pull you closer. Trust me there is nothing wrong with that. Specially if you are married. You can tell if he likes it or not because one if he did not he would avoid sex at times and also when u say it see how he reacts at that moment. Then you can tell. Or just don't be shy he is ur husband and just ask him. Do you like when I talk dirty to you or not. Do you want me to do it more often or no? But I bet he loves it.

Answer 4

Sex was taboo in your family?. Well you are married now and your husband is your family.==just understand that men are very visual and verbal and he is loving it. It is the two of you together and no one else can hear or see what goes on between you. Try asking him what he thinks his lady should act like and say in the bedroom. There is always a time and place for everything. And also ask/tell him what you want or would like your gentleman(him) to do or say. Keep comunicating together

Answer 5

OMG...I talk like that all of the time. When I am with my husband I am whoever he needs me to be at the time. It really turns him on and it lets him know that I am not ashamed to express myself or my love. I am still a mother, daughter, sister, friend, lover, professional, etc;

The bible says that the bed is "NOT" defiled when you are married so keep making your man happy. A lot of other people need to do that and maybe the divorce rate would not be so high.

Answer 6

NO. It isn't slutty at all, and in fact most men really enjoy this. Of course you always need to broach this subject with him to confirm his feelings on the subject, but believe me that men love it in general. If you are harboring other thoughts then you need to talk to him about them as well. I don't know why sex is such a hard subject for married people to talk about. My marriage is no different either. Just be honest with yourself in your actions and thoughts and let him know about them. Chances are that you two are probably on the same page and all of this internal suffering you are doing is for no good reason. Good luck.

Answer 7

Well first of all, does he respond? When you said,"_____" Did he? Did it arouse him? Did it arouse you?

You can be slutty with your husband all you want. It's only a bad thing if you're out looking to get laid elsewhere.

If he responds, then crank it up a bit. Meet him out for dinner, wearing a sexy dress and high heels, without panties. You look attractive to everyone else, but when you give him glimpse, he'll know how hot you are for him. You'll be his private slut--he'll love it-or should!

Answer 8

He will loves you more. Because every men likes their wife to be dirty. I do talk to my husband like that during sex. And he loves it. You are fine. Don't think you are slutty. If you are still confused talk to him and ask that is that ok with him if you says something like that. You are not slutty or dirty because you are not doing it with anyone else. It is ok to be dirty with your husband. So don't worry.

Answer 9

I would love to say this sort of word to my husband too. But i'm holding it back with the same reason as you. I dont want him to think that I'm a bad girl because I'm not but this sort of thing make you feel better , more sexual in bed.

I will try to do it one day when I'm brave enough.

Answer 10

What you're describing, using dirty language during sex but nowhere else, is far, far more common than you apparently realize. Unless your husband is rather oddly uptight, and it doesn't sound like he is, I can guarantee you that he has no problems at all separating the woman he has sex with from the person you are when you are not in the throes of passion. Take it from me, a man -- we all like a wh0re in the bedroom, lol.

Answer 11

WOW, you say or do anything you feel like, it is after all your sex life, get him tlking to you, you'll love that, think about making a video together, for your own personal use, but do keep the words,sex, and jusices flying!!! He's gotta be a happy camper!!!