Don't get me wrong..i'm totally happy with the man i married...and I couldn't see myself with anyone else unless something were to ever happen to him..but do you ever ask yourself..did i make the right choice? Like with past ex's who deep down you still may feel something for..but will never know now..what might/could've been...?
2007-11-07 07:42:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you ever just wonder what it would've been like if you married that other person then the one you are with today?
2007-11-07 07:43:24 · update #1
Every once in a while sure I do. I love my husband, couldn't imagine life without him, but if I run into an ex that meant a lot to me and I feel that little tug in my heart I catch myself wondering what it would have been like, how my life would have been different. I also wonder if 20 years or more down the road we'll be walking down the same road one day and wake up and realize that it's time to move on. I'm happy in my marriage and in my life right now, but yes I do wonder sometimes.
2007-11-07 07:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a different between being racist and being biased when it comes to dating. Personally I think the dating game is one are where you should be allowed to be a little biased. You're possibly dealing with someone you might spend the rest of your life with so why go about it with politics and trying to be politically correct just for the sake of being politically correct. Both my sister and I have tried dating out but I think we both respectively came to the conclusion that the cultural differences tend to be more insurmountable than the phenotypic ones. The answer to the question is in the delivery. There are some people who say pointedly that they date everything but black as if its not obvious why. They say blacks all look the same, we all act the same etc, and we know that blacks are the most varied by appearance and all act different because we're the oldest race on the planet and have mixed with other races. So we know that to say those things is a matter of media brainwashing. I have a problem with that, but I don't have a problem with someone who dates their own because they like their own. Nonetheless, I'm try not to concern myself too much with people I'm not dating.
2016-04-03 00:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made a huge mistake in marrying my now exhusband... The ONLY good thing that came from that marriage are my 2 children. I recently found my first love after 20 yrs. We are both single & having a great time regetting to know each other. We look back at our high school days & wonder what might have happened had we stayed together... what's important is the fact that we found each other & the past no longer matters! We have 20 yrs of catching up to do!!!
2007-11-07 07:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has those feelings. Even if you married your first love, eventually you will wonder about what your life had been like otherwise. If you had prior loves and truly loved them then you will always "what if" the situation. The key is to not let it drive you and realize that this is the way things worked out so don't dwell on past lives and "could've beens." Just concentrate on what you have now and make the best of it.
2007-11-07 07:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really to be honest i though about that what you said and my wife was the only person in the world that I want to be with and she is the right person and I glad I married her and Yes there are other ex girlfriends i ahve in the past but She even better than all those girls. and Yes I see girls wondering if i want to be with this perosn not my wife?
I always compare my wife and other person my wife still the number one. she gave me 3 beauitful kids and I been married to her for 10 years was the best thing and still counting smiling.
truth is if i let it bother me with might or could've will really ruin my marriage and Like for example:
I want to cheat on my wife and I really want to try this girl one night stand. But then Thinking about it How would I feel if she did that to me, Ummm pissed off, hurts, speechless. That when i know it not worth to try that. smiling.
2007-11-07 07:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I ask myself this question sometimes; but I always come to the conclusion that I made the right choice. There's nobody in my past that I would rather be married to - of THAT I am certain.
2007-11-07 08:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that I got married at a very young age I really didn't get to meet other fish in the sea. Do I regret getting married at 16? My answer would me "No". I think we all make choices and learn and grow from them.
2007-11-07 07:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we all do. I sometimes wonder what my life would be like if I stayed with my first husband. I sometimes miss him very much.
I love my present husband so very much but he and my first husband were so different. There were many qualities that I miss from my first marriage.
Good Luck
2007-11-07 07:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I feel that everything happens for a reason... and I just go with the flow... but sometimes I do wonder... what if????
2007-11-07 07:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by ESP123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, when i was married I did, but that was toward the time when we were having issues. Of course, i also had "what ifs" but i guess that is normal.
2007-11-07 07:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋