Here's why I am asking all these questions?

Question

I love my husband and our kids and our family has been great for a long time. All of a sudden he started finding fault with it seems like everything i say or do and its really painful to be in a catch 22. I feel like I have done everything but bend over backwards to make it better but I just don't see the fault in myself as much as he seems to. It seems like he never misses a chance to take a stab at me ya know? No there is no physical abuse but I think it can hurt just the same. It just makes me wonder because he is so unhappy if he is staying because of the kids. We still have sex but the sex has always been great no matter what.

On the surface he is a really great person all the way around. It's lately that things have begun to change for the worse. Right now he is away on a business trip (and yes I know that is where he is) and has made 1 effort to contact me in 2 days. I know he's working but I thought he would at least check in with the kids.

Answer 1

Maybe he is struggling with himself and takes it out on you because you are close at hand. Regardless of why, you are right for wanting respect. How are you to stay motivated and positive if the one closest to you is bring you down? Your hubby may not realize what an a** he is being. Talk with him and let him know you deserve better treatment from him. What would happen if you started treating him and the kids this way yourself? Hubby probably wouldn't like it too much! Hang in there!

Answer 2

Physical abuse is a hell of a lot less painful and certainly doesn't do as much damage and heals much faster than emotional and verbal abuse.
Get help asap.

Answer 3

i suffered alot of verbal abuse in the 1st marriage...it was even worse than the hitting

Answer 4

hang in there, he is going through some stuff... it's times like these that will make your relationship strongest...