Jessica and I got together with a friend of ours last night and she had all these CD's and she put a Best of George Michael CD in and played this song called Careless Whisper for us and I just loved the way it sounded because I loved the saxophone parts. Well, she said I could borrow it and I was a little uncomfortable because I knew my husband might not like me to listen to this music because of the lyrics but she kept saying go ahead and so I did. Well this afternoon I was on the computer and listening to the song and then my husband came home from lunch and saw me listening to it and ejected the CD and then broke it and I went to the bathroom and started crying and then he said i knew better than to listen to that and we would talk about it later. I know he is going to ask where I got it but if I tell him it was from my friend he might not let me hang out with her. :( What should I do? I know that was music but I don't want to lose my friend.
2007-11-07 07:39:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wait.. are you kidding with this?!
YOU SHOULD BE ALOUD to listen to whatever kind of music you want, whenever you want. As far as I'm concerned unless you were having sex with G. Michael then he is WAY out of line.
2007-11-07 07:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Blond&Tall 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your Husband sounds like he has many issues. He should not have taken out the CD and broke it, these are strange reactions and then to go and cry. You do need to ask him why this affects him so much.
You should be able to listen to any music that you want to without fear of your Husbands approval.
You should replace the CD and apologize to your friend, tell her that you had an accident.
Are you frightened of him? If you are then we are talking a whole different ball game.
Try and be strong and tell him that he was out of order and that strictly speaking He should replace the CD.
Stand up to him if you can, I would suggest that you both visit a marriage guidance councilor, they really can help.
Good Luck......xx
2007-11-07 07:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friend should be glad that your husband broke it! Can you imagine how HER husband would've reacted? You girls should have had one of your husbands supervising this playdate to stop this stuff from going on. Maybe next time a babysitter will be necessary. It's a good thing your husband broke it. I would suggest you talk to your friend about getting her music choices approved by both of your husbands together to stop this from happening in the future. He'll think you're a good girl, and you may even get your Furby back from the vault. Or your crayons! This will make you his favorite wife and make Jessica really jealous!
2007-11-07 09:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bertone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of husband do you have???? what the hell is try to do control your life? You have your own life and if he didn't like it and just leave him.
You know no matter what does my wife do, hang out friends or what ever reason she does I don't really care. I don't treat my wife like your husband did to you. I don't understand why in the world you be with him.
My question is i think your friend more imporant your husband you know why your husband is a conrtol freak!!!!! No Man or Woman should control one or other. It both even and no different. If you were my wife and you listen to the CD and I will not let it bother me and I would never tell you who your friend that gave or let you use this CD??? and keep you from your friends..
What kind of marriage is that? why are you with him? you need to get out and You shouldn't be going though like this and I think your friends are imporant because they are your true friend and they listen and care for you. Than your husband.
2007-11-07 07:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No husband should have that kind of control over his wife. You are an adult and not a child and you should not be treated like a child.
Tell you husband where you borrowed it from and tell him it is up to him to get a new one to replace it. As for listening to it you can follow his orders or not about what you listen to but if your husband dictates what kind of music you listen to then how much more of your life does he control
Good Luck
2007-11-07 07:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your crying over a broken CD. Lady you have more problems then that. First of all a controlling husband who goes berserk because the lyrics of a song. This is called an Abusive husband you married. Unless you both get marriage counseling your marriage will not work. From verbal abuse can change easily to physical abusive unless it hasnt happen already if so, get out of this marriage why you can.
2007-11-07 07:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by beliz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
is this your husband or a daddy from hell? are you a wife or are you some 6 year old child? are you husband and wife or jailer and prisoner? what kind of nut breaks someones CD? you cant listen to an old song from the 80's or see a friend because of the words of a song? what should you do? make sure he comes home to an empty house. and when he finds you tell him that episode was one too many times where he is acting like a possessive jerk. and you are not taking it. period. at least that is what i would do, but then i would have never dated or married such an unevolved ignorant creature as you seem to.
and next time listen to ricky martin.
2007-11-07 07:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
why are you not allowed to listen to George Michael and what is wrong with the lyrics to Careless whisper.this all sounds crazy to me . unless you know that there is something that really bothers him about George Michael and the song and you agreed not to listen to it .i dont just get why he would even cry over such a trivial matter.
2007-11-07 08:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by praise t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help, seriously, you do not have a healthy adult relationship, much less healthy marriage if this man is controlling your life to this extent. He does not respect you as an equal, you should get the hell out of there before he starts keeping you tied up in the basement since he sees he can't control your every thought and action. That is abuse, plain and simple. Please get away from him, life is too short to live in fear. He must have a small prick to be such a big prick to you!
2007-11-07 07:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by CJ SWEETNESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost: get the hell away from your husband. If he gets this worked up over a song - then there are deeper issues going on there.
Next: you tell your friend what happened, apologize, and insist on reimbursing her with a new CD or the money to replace it.
2007-11-07 07:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by Pask 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what does he have against George Michael music or any music? Are you sure this is not your dad treating you this way? Do you work? if not is best for you to get a job and be self dependent because I don't think this is health.
2007-11-07 09:11:09 · answer #11 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋