How do you convince your spouse to show you he's sorry by holding and comforting instead of them getting mad that you hurt when infidelty has entered your relationship?
2007-11-07 07:34:21 · 10 answers · asked by cbattles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people will never say they are sorry after cheating. And that is typical for them to beat you getting angry. Living with infidelity in a marriage is very hard. But you can overcome, but there's only one way to overcome and that is to invite GOD into the situation. The two of you must go to God as one, and let God handle it. Infidelity is too big for you to handle. Not many women, or men can handle that one. One thing about it is, God will make it less painful. See God know about the problem before we present to him so he is ready, willing, able, and waiting. We just need to go to him.
2007-11-07 07:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by MsBlue2U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to hold and comfort you unless he is really sorry and wants to make amends.
His getting angry seems more like he is really sorry he got caught and has no remorse.
Don't be in such a hurry for a hug, be more aware that he might do it again.
Good Luck
2007-11-07 07:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by mn lady 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You cant convince him. Because hes not that sorry about it.
Here you are wanting hugs and snuggling and putting yourself in the doormat category.
Prepare yourself for another episode.
If you have to make him feel remorse (which you cant do)
then your in serious marriage trouble. Sorry to be blunt but you need to hear it.
I'm assuming it was just your husband who did the cheating?
2007-11-07 07:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by rainydaze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if still want to stay together you have to listen to what he's saying and ask if there is any merit to it. If not, then head on out the door.
If there is, and you want to stay together, you have to figure out how to make sure you move forward together so that this doesn't happen again.
2007-11-07 07:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by MetalHeart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. His actions are indicative of his feelings toward the situation. It sounds to me like he isn't sorry, even though he may say he is, but is rather angry that he got caught.
2007-11-07 07:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You divorce him and go find someone who respects you. He cheated because he does not respect you and now he is blaming you for catching him.
He does not really care about you, but instead just about himself.
Take care and Good Luck,
Troy
2007-11-07 07:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's sorry alright-
SORRY HE GOT CAUGHT!
Why some of you women put up with that crap, is WAY beyond me!
2007-11-07 07:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
really he is transferring his hate onto you so that you think it is your fault he cheated.... get rid of him.... he is a big loser.....he does not care about you and your feelings....
2007-11-07 07:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to manipulate your husband. Love him unconditionally. That is what a marriage is about.
Good luck.
2007-11-07 07:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Infidelity hurts, he is probably angry at himself.
2007-11-07 07:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Brightside 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋