I want to grow up already!!Help?

Question

Sometimes I keep looking at the married couples in the streets and I just wanna be like them.I don't wanna have a boyfriend .I just wanna have relationship (marriage)

Answer 1

Marriage isn't about finding the right person. It's about being able to adapt your lifestyle so that the two of you can coexist.

If you marry someone for what they are upon the time of marriage, then you're in for a surprise. People usually change. If you are able to adapt your lifestyle to suit your partner's lifestyle from the very beginning, you should be able to continuously adapt to any other changes that your partner will most likely go through throughout the duration of your lives and marriage.

They key to a successful marriage is to adapt... and don't forget the large dose of patience!

EDIT:

You don't need a boyfriend. A "boyfriend" is a fairly new conception. For most of human history, people have married each other without dating AND had successful marriages. Today in America people date before marriage, but still end up divorcing and divorce rates are higher than ever (the projected divorce rate in America is as high as 50%)!

And concerning what people are saying on here about waiting until you're 25, etc.--age is meaningless (assuming you're not an adolescent). If you understand the purpose of life, you will see how simple a thing marriage is. Most of the people commenting on here do not understand the purpose of life so they simply follow life guessing this and that. If you want to be like them and follow none other than a guess, then know that you'll never be at peace. However, if you truly understand the purpose of life, there's no need to guess.

Marriage is one of the most simple things in life.

But of course for those that do not understand the purpose of life, just getting up in the morning can be difficult as they don't even know why they get up each morning.

Know your purpose in life and you'll know the rest.

Answer 2

Well honey its like walking you gotta crawl first and you need to have the boyfriend(s) first or how are you gonna find the right man to marry. Trust me you want to find the right one because the wrong one will make life a living hell. Slow down and take a deeper look. You see couples when they are out and happy to be together. That is not what marriage is all the time and there is a lot more to it than what you can see by watching couples as they pass by. Enjoy your life as it is now because once it changes for what ever reason, the life you have now will be gone forever. slow down dear don't move so fast take life as it comes one day at a time.

Answer 3

Your question proves you are too immature for marriage. You cannot hurry growing up which happens at the appropriate rate for each individual. The whole point of having boyfriends is practice for when you have a serious relationship/ get married. Not all marriages are happy and sometimes relationships are not how they seem to the onlooker.

Answer 4

Not knowing how old you are I would say that you need to really be ready for the responsibilities that go along with marriage. It's a lot more than just being with one person and waking next to the same person everyday. There is so much more to it that you can't know until you're actually married. It's a great thing, but it takes a lot of understanding, compromise and maturity.

Answer 5

is it really marriage that you want? or is it the idea of marriage? that safe environment, to feel wanted, loved...to trust them, etc. If your desire for marriage actually comes from some emptiness that you are trying to fill, then you need to take a good look at your feelings and reevaluate this. There are better ways to fill the gap. Marriage is complicated. It's stressful and brings with it a lot of other aspects. You don't marry someone then live with your parents, right? So that means a morgage and a job and bills and many other things. Then sex, and lots of emotions and maybe children? It's just so much! I think you really need to take your time with this.

Answer 6

You won't instantly get married without having a boyfriend, so you'll need to find one of those first. Marriage is very hard work; it involves a lot of compromise. I'm glad you're seeing happy married couples, but there are a lot of happy unmarried couples out there as well. Try being part of one of those first!

Answer 7

really you need to have a boyfriend to know this person. know if he really loves you, loves you for who you are, communcation open, tells you everyday that he loves you, support you the thing you needs, great in bed, knowing that you be able to talk about anything nothing holding or hiding about anything, ready for kids, what happen if he cheated on you what would you do? what if he told you lies all the time and you found out later. those things are imporant to know. If you want to be like them then that what you need to do. not just married someone from the street you don't even know this person... smling.

I met my wife 10 years ago and she and I talked about alot of things and knowing what we want in the future. 10 years now have 3 kids and we still love eachother so much even if we have bad time together and we talk about things and have so much to tell and you know that how you know. But if you want to jump and get married and it will not last long.

My mother got married 8 times you know why just know this person one week and got married or know this person for 1 month got married and it didn't last long. believe me and I see it my own eyes.

Answer 8

You sound young and immature. A real relationship and marriage takes time and you have to be patient.

Don't be in too much of a hurry, life is short and you want to take your time and pick the best person you can to spend your life with.

Good Luck

Answer 9

You can't have a successful marriage without the foundations of friendship and a relationship (with a boyfriend) in which you learn about one another.

Answer 10

Be patient. If you rush into something, you'll never be one of those old couple holding hands at the mall. You'll just be a angry divorcee. Wait. Get your education and cultivate a stable life first. When you finally meet the right person, you'll just know.