he's okay with the sex as long as it doesn't overlap with the time I spend with him. But it's really more than just sex and the sex is often accompanied with champaign, candles and rose pedals. The whole thing was his idea when it started. He got a few threesomes out of it. Have I gone too far?
2007-11-07 07:26:33 · 30 answers · asked by Sharon S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-11-07 07:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Brightside 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is what happens when a couple doesn't fully discuss bringing in an extra person before doing it. You should have come up with rules for governing this situation.
Unfortunately, you did not, so now you have to make them up as you go along, which is always dangerous. It's time to have a discussion with your husband. He's not going to care about the champagne, candles, and rose peTals, but you are going to scare him with the "it's really more than just sex" part. You're having feelings for the woman, and it's only fair to inform your husband of this fact.
Bottome line, you're married. Therefore, your #1 loyalty must be to your husband. Listen to his concerns, and, for pete's sake, come up with some rules for going forward!
2007-11-07 07:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Funny how people think it is not cheating and is ok...as long as you and your hubby are ok with it....AND AS LONG AS IT IS WITH A WOMAN....but would think differently if you were talking about a man....You may think that things are fine now.....but you can't predict how this decision to become involved with a woman will affect your marriage in the near future...
2007-11-07 07:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have already gone too far and you know it, you just want someone on here to tell you it is okay.
Cheating on your husband is cheating, whether he approves or not. As for him setting it up and joining for a threesome, he has no love or respect for you.
You should think about how you want to spend the rest of your life. Do you want love and respect or do you want to have a roomate that pimps you out.
Good Luck
2007-11-07 07:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe it sounds like a love affair and not a sex thing.It's ok I guess if your husband is up for it but he is probably thinking more about the sex part and you sound like your maybe falling in love with her!
2007-11-07 07:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by notagain49 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will do what ever it takes to make my lady happy, if she wants a girl, then she get her, if she wants 2 men, she get us!! We are very loyal&in love, but their nothing we wouldn't do for/with each other!!! We like the swing clubs eceverytwo weeks, alot of flesh trading there!!
2007-11-07 15:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating, but it's not right either.
Sounds to me like your husband just wants to have sex with another woman. Sit him down and have a talk. Resolve this. It can't go on like this, even if you wanted it to.
2007-11-07 07:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep, you went too far. You defiled the marriage bed. You are both committing adultery. According to the Bible, fornicators and adulterers will go to hell. You might want to reconsider what you are doing.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce
2007-11-07 07:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is cheating. He might agree to it now but regret it later and throw it back in your face. The whole situation is wrong and weird.
2007-11-07 08:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by *Sharon* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think that as long as the two of you are ok with this arrangement, then it's good to go- Now once you fall in love with her, then it might become a problem.... be careful would be my advice. Tread lightly for a little while
2007-11-07 07:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Crooked Johnson 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The question is has this in any way diminished your love for your husband? If so then maybe you have, but if not then you haven't. As long as you are faithful to him with your love then you can do whatever you want to with your body. You may even find yourself having two loving relationships: one straight and one lesbian. Just so long as you two are okay with it and knowledgeable then everything should be fine.
2007-11-07 07:34:06 · answer #11 · answered by No one 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋