We´ve only been married for nine months and he wants to go party til all hours of the morning, without me! His friends are also married but their wives don´t mind the partying so now my hubby thinks I am trying to control him and put him in a cage. I don´t mind him having his "man time" I just don´t my husband out in a bar at 3am...period!
2007-11-07 07:24:02 · 15 answers · asked by mamaria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You knew he was going to act like this before the marriage... or were you living in denial?
Well then it is time to get yourself out of denial regarding the facts of your husband and marriage.
You cannot change or control him, no matter what you do. So now you need to decide if you are going to stick with your wedding vows until he grows up, or are you going to change the only thing in life that you can change... Yourself!
Good luck.
2007-11-07 07:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's understandable. He probably just doesn't want to be accused of being whipped in front of his friends, you know? Is there any chance that you would want to get together with the other wives sometimes?
I wonder if it's just getting out of the house that they like for a little while or being together. Because if you could work it out so that they were to spend some time at each person's house now and again, you'd know he was safe, he would get his guy-alone time, and you would be able to have some outside interest as well.
2007-11-07 18:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! He should be at home with you. He made a commitment when he said "I Do". Going out once a month is fine, but not till 3 am maybe 12a or even 1a. If he isn't willing to change, you might want to think about whether or not he is the right one for you.
2007-11-07 15:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Loving Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should not be out partying till all hours of the night. The occasional boys night out is ok, but all the time is a red flag. He needs to grow up and realize that he has a wife and it's time he grew up and acted like a big boy.
2007-11-07 15:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by KitKat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he respected you he wouldn't want to be hanging out at the bar until 3 am with his married friends.....As for the wife's of his friends....I don't believe for a second that they don't mind....they just accept that their husbands are going to do whatever they want to do....without any regard to their feelings....If your husband wants to live the life of a single guy...then he shouldn't have gotten married.....
2007-11-07 15:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should have gotten all of his partying days over while he was single, if he can't come home at a decent hour than he had no business getting married in the first place!....That is not how a grown married man behaves.
2007-11-07 15:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he's going to do it wether you like it or not. Maybe he will keep it from you and you'll find out and feel betrayed that he lied, or he'll do it against your will and you will argue that he doesn't care about your feelings. You cant tell him what to do with his "man time". or rather, you can tell him all you want but hes going to do what he wants in the end. I say just let him go so you can get use to the idea.
2007-11-07 15:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree but in order to keep your marriage going you might have to let him. It is wrong at all cost but the men dont look at it that way. Best thing talk about it and hopefully come to an agreement of reasonable time or let him and if you see anything going wrong with the marriage look into it and stop it before its to late. Good luck!!
2007-11-07 15:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by hershey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing wrong w/ wanting hubby home! just because his buds wive's let them, does that mean you should? heck no! if they all jumped off the bridge, would he do that too? basically, he is disrespecting you and the marraige if he's putting his buds first... you need him home, they don't need him out w/ them... he needs to grow up! good luck...! be firm...
2007-11-07 15:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong. Nothing good ever happens after dark, so if he doesn't want to come home at whatever curfew you set, tell him he can find somewhere else to live.
Don't let him disrespect your feelings - you need to come to a compromise here.
2007-11-07 15:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋