my girlfriend is gaining weight too quick.....HELP!!?

Question

i been dating my girlfriend now for about a month now. everything is going smooth. i am very attracted to her. she started taking birth control pills about a month ago (irregular period reasons). yesterday i noticed that shes been gaining weight, her legs look thicker than usual. whats the best way to tell a girl that shes gaining weight? i like her how i met her. im afraid i'll lose attraction if she gains any more weight. what now? **serious answers only**

i bet most of these ladies that say im shallow are fat. ladies...come on! im not attracted to fatness! i look at interior and exterior. wanting to stay sexually attracted to my girlfriend is not being shallow. if you seriously think i am, go lose weight, and speak for a skinnier girls point of view!

Answer 1

It may be a reaction to the birth control pills. I would not suggest asking her about it, you do not want to hurt her feelings. You could ask her how she's feeling since taking the pills, ask her if she feels the same, or if she's experiencing any of the side effects. One of the pills called yazmin make my boobs super sore, i broke out in hives and gained 5 pounds in a month! I went back to the DR and he said I was allergic. You never know, this certain pill she's on may be making her retain water/bloating her. Like I said, let her know you're concerned but do not mention the weight (it's not like she doesn't know she's gaining) Good Luck hun

Answer 2

oh my Goodness thats why i'm not taking birth control pills i know that one of the side effects you can gain weight as some people say you can also lose weight but i'd rather not take my chances so i'm not on them thank you very much, now you can just simply do some research on the pills first and see what are some side effects and well if you and have that kind of relationship that you can talk about anything you should sit down with her and tell her the truth, you don't want to wait till she starts to notice she's gaining weight you should let her know that it's obvious that she's put on some pounds since she started the pill maybe you can tell her to stop for a month and see how that goes and if she continues to gain weight then you need to obviously tell her to stop eating junk and start some kind of exercise and diet.. i don't think that you are a shallow man i just think you would want your woman to be healthy and there is nothing wrong with that. JUST BE HONEST

Answer 3

Well unfortunately weight gain is one of the side effects of taking the pill. I believe I put on 20 pounds very quickly after starting the pill. And since the weight gain is hormonal chances are (assuming that she already eats healthy and gets some exercise) that the weight is here to stay. Chances are that she already realizes that she is gaining if her clothes don't fit the same and you reminding her wont help. maybe trying a different pill may be the answer. If not, I guess you can either accept her as she is or move on, she will probably be better off without you if you only like her for her looks.

Answer 4

I was going to say that perhaps she is pregnant, as this can cause sudden weight gain, but then you said about her taking the pill. Thing is though, has she been taking them every day, even if you're not making love? If not, if she misses a day, she could get pregnant as, like hay fever pills, they work on a basis of protection built up with continuous usage over a long time.

However, if you're sure this isn't a possibility, then hmmm...best way...depends if she's sensitive about her weight, of course. I find with asking potentially embarrassing or tactless questions that a good start is saying, laughingly "This may sound like a terrible question, but...?" and then laugh it off, and make sure to give plenty reassurance.

I'd say that if she likes you (and she should if you're making love and using birth control etc. - you're really early on in the relationship to be doing that anyway) she won't mind so long as you do it gently, non-accusingly, non-teasingly and seem concerned, rather than put off. Hopefully then, she'll look to you for reassurance and the whole thing will strengthen your trust in each other.

Answer 5

Okay, very sensitive subject here. The way I would approach it is by using the pills as a reference. Gaining weight is a known side effect of taking birth control pills. Fortunately there are many types and brands of birth control pills out there.

Approach her and tell her that you don't like the affect that the PILLS are having on her body. Tell her that they might no be agreeing with her or tell her you are worried about them affecting her health. Then make an appointment and go with her to get them changed. Basically show her you care about her health not how much she weighs.

Answer 6

suggest that you guys start taking walks a few times a week or start doing some sort of exercise with her. gaining weight on the pill unfortunately is a side effect of the pill. Once her body is on it for a few months she will spot gaining weight fast. But she really need to start watching what she eats. The pill makes the body think she is pregnant. You can politely ask her about the pill and how it makes her feel and suggest that the pill might be making her gain weight. Maybe there is a different brand of pill that will be better for her. Good luck that is a hard subject to talk about with a girl.

Answer 7

I had this same problem with bc... Her body is going through some crazy changes with the pill... However, most bc pills these days are formulated so that the weight gain problem isn't an issue? Maybe you should just ask her if she's feeling ok or if she's happy with the bc that she is taking... also you could try finding out with pill she is on and do a little research on it to find out the side affects...g'luck I hope everything works out:)

Answer 8

Birth control pills make a woman bloat up. But if you are worried about losing your attraction for her what you need to do is find yourself a real skinny, anorexic lady who will not put on so much weight when the inevitable hormonal changes happen.

Answer 9

Ask her if she would like to join you in an exercise program. Go bike riding, walking or jogging. The people that are telling you that you should love her no matter what is not being realistic. If you gain weight before you ever had children, it is a health risk to get pregnant over weight as you continue to gain weight while pregnant. Besides, if she is on the right birth control pill, she will not experience extreme weight gain. Her hormones are becoming imbalanced if she is gaining weight that quickly.

Answer 10

Suggest that the two of you go out for a walk or hit the gym together instead of staying home. Offer to make a healthy dinner instead of eating out or if you must eat out, get something healthy like a salad or a sandwich, or split the unhealthy food.

If you can't tell her directly that you're worried about her weight, then spin it off as YOU being the one that needs to lose weight, but you'd like to do it with her instead of doing it yourself. That way, you don't end up looking like a jerk.