Help, my ex left me 5 weeks ago for his new girlfriend?

Question

My ex changed his mailing address and this came today, it hurts like hell. I am miserable, he moved to a new place with his girlfriend and is happy go lucky. He told me he tried to love me again but it wasn't the same. He left me twice for her, they work together and been roommates for 1 year now. She was in a lesbian relationship when he moved in with her. He told me started to have feelings for her and i guess she kicked out her lesbian lover to be with him. So he dumped me to be with her. I am so miserable, lost 20 pounds and bearly make it to work. I thought of ending it all, i do see a therapist and he tells me to stay busy, i can hardly make it to work. I am a Rn they both work as cable guys. I have the hardest time to get over him.
Sorry to be so pathetic don't know what to do.

Answer 1

You're hurting right now and that's perfectly fine but now you have to do a little bit of soul searching and find out why you love you for you. He left you but in return he gave you a new life and it's up to you to make it the best one yet. Figure out who you are and be happy again.

Answer 2

Well the most important thing is that you DO NOT let HIM decide that the rest of your life will be unhappy.

This jerk left you. Cheated on you. And you're UPSET that he's gone? You should be throwing a party!!!!!!!!!

Get some counseling ASAP and maybe some antidepressants to help you through this rough patch. Then get on with your life and don't be surprised when a year or two from now he's leaving her for someone else. He's not a man...he's an adolescent.

The best revenge is living well.

Answer 3

Being dumped is the hardest
espically when you don't know why you are dumped.
it's a little extreme to want to suicide.. but those people who tells u to forget about it or find a new one have no idea what they are talking about.
I kind of agree to your therapist in that you should keep buzy. But appearantely he didnt tell u what to keep buzy on....i know going to work isn't going to help. If possible might as well take couple of days off. Call some friends over and stuff. thats always good.. or spend some time learn a new skill is always fun.. learn how to lock pick, and how to shoot a rifle :P
i learned those at about that stage aswell ~~ not that u are actually going to apply those skills but at least u got a certificate for it ^^

Answer 4

I'm assuming this is an exhusband and not an exboyfriend. If this is your exhusband, were you two covenant spouses. If so, you need to turn your life over to God and He will restore your marriage, but you have some work to do first.

Please check out Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp. They have a restored marriage after being divorced for about two years. They have a website and send devotionals everyday encouraging men and women to stand for their marriage and their spouse's salvation. Check out their archives.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php

I highly recommend that you sign up for Doreen's Devotionals called Doreen's Daily Delights.. These are awesome. http://marriagerestorationministries.org/

Here's another website for people standing for their marriages. They have a men's forum where you can talk to other men standing for their marriages. There is chat every Friday night. http://www.faithandmarriage.com/

Check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/

Also check out this link concerning divorce and remarriage. I think you will be surprised. Many churches are blinded to the truth and even encourage people to divorce. Satan is tearing the church and marriages apart.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce

Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 5

Take this opportunity to learn how to love yourself as much or more than you loved him. YOU COME FIRST always. Everyone else is second. You are absolutely going to be fine. The therapist is absolutely right. Put your foot down solid and say that this is your time to be great. Take up a hobby or work on one that you already have. Take a class-Yoga, dance, whatever is good for you. YOU ARE NUMERO UNO!!! Never forget that. You are going to be victorious, I hate to say it, but he has way too many negatives within his relationship that things may not work out. BUT IF HE COMES CRAWLING BACK TO YOU, DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. Be strong. You got all of us backing you. Move forward.

Answer 6

I'll advise you to pull yourself together so that one day your ex will see what he has lost.
An adeage said "One do not value something until he losses it". Turn a new leaf, change both facially and socially, morally and intellectually so that he'll see you and feel sorry for himself to have let you go.
Open your heart so that you can let someone better who will help you proof to him that you are better without him into you life. I know its hard but you have to let go of the past and live the present for the future is just a meter ahead.
I wish you get over him soon!!!

Answer 7

Please continue seeing your therapist. You have to remember that there is NEVER any good reason to end your life. Also, try calling a suicide hot line if you feel that desperate. I went through something similar years ago while in college. I stopped going to class for a few weeks and couldn't do anything without crying. I also couldn't' eat, sleep etc. It hurt so much, but it did pass. I hit a point of realization that nobody had the right to hurt me so badly, and that I wouldn't allow myself to feel this way. I got my butt out of bed, started going to classes, and really clung to friends and family. They were really there for me. I'm lucky that way; go to your loved ones, I'm sure they'd be happy to help you through this difficult time. Also, if this girl so easily ended her relationship to be with him, chances are she will do it again and leave him alone and hurt. It's so true that what goes around comes around. Take solace that he will get his someday, too, and you have no where to go but up right now! Take the opportunity to let go of your baggage and makeover your life! Good luck, keep your head up!

Answer 8

Consider yourself lucky he's gone. You sound like a wise and caring woman. He doesn't deserve you. Life is good ... get on with yours. Staying busy is also important. Join some singles organizations ... Parents Without Partners, singles group at large church or get to know singles where you work. Don't make mistake of getting involved with someone else too soon. Single is fun. Enjoy it.

Answer 9

You need to give yourself time. You're in 'mourning' right now, for the lost relationship. You will experience everything that people do when they lose something special. Sadness, despair, denial, anger. Work through all of it knowing there is always tomorrow for healing a little more. It'll all be far behind you soon enough. Hang in there. Blessings.

Answer 10

Sounds like they are perfect for each other. You deserve someone who knows they want to be with you. Not with you one week and someone else the next then wanting you back. I know it is very hard trying to find that happy medium. You really need to get in tune with yourself as I really think he will be wanting to come back again....they always do. You just have to be strong enough to stop the cycle.
I have found that when I was finally strong enough to walk away thats when they came a running.
I know it is hard trying to stay busy...but no one is worth dying for.