My husband has an exwife and 2 children from that marriage. They are divorced and one child lived with us and the other lived with her. No child support changed hands since we each had one. The other child wanted to live with us and she allowed it, saying she wanted him to be happy. He has been with us for almost two years and my husband won't take her to court b/c she says she won't sign paperwork and so husband is afraid child will be sent back. So no paperwork and she says she will pay child support to us since now we have both (an amnt she came up with) and medical help. No payments have come and I am frustrated b/c we have two other children. I try to stay out of things b/c we don't get along but have asked her once about money and she said it will come but not much. Anything would help - how do I get her to see it is her responsibility to her boys to help out, even a little bit. But I don't want to cause a fight and have her take boy away since she is Custodial parent still
2007-11-07 06:00:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She knows it's her responsibility. If she won't do this on her own, then you will have to get a court order. Can you document how long the child has been with you? The court probably won't give you back support, but being able to show that she let them live with you might help in your husband being allowed to keep physical custody. Good luck
2007-11-07 06:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me ask you a few questions....how long have the children live with you and your husband? do you have them enrolled in school at your address? do you have anything saying that the kids live with you? if you do, then i would take this woman to court and say that the kids wanted to live with you and your husband and that she agreed to pay support but has not done so. that you want the kids to be happy, and enjoy having them with you, but you need support from her....tell the judge (or show the judge) how long the children have lived with the two of you and take it from there. sounds like you and your husband have a case against the ex. she may be the custodial parent on paper, but she has not support the children in anyway shape or form from my understanding.....if you two can prove that you have had the children without support from her, then you two have a leg to stand on.
2007-11-07 14:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take her to court regarding paying child support. It took me 13 years to finally get child support from my ex-husband.
I am also paying child support for another child. It makes it easier if you have a court order instead of trusting her to do the right thing.
2007-11-07 14:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and take her to court. If the child is living with you (and has been for a while), the courts will generally order that the child should stay where they are. Good luck!
2007-11-07 14:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Chair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are overstepping your boundaries in this situation... it's up to your husband to talk to his ex.. they are their kids, not yours.
If your husband expects child support and medical help, then he needs to take action to receive that... it's not your issue.
The funds used to raise the kids need to come from his pocket, not yours.
Asking her about money is a little petty... again, overstepping your boundaries.
You can't get anyone to "see" anything, nor can you control others. Worry about yourself.
2007-11-07 14:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Petition the court.
2007-11-07 14:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by C>/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go back to court.. tell him it this way only.. as it will get worst for you if you dont.. good luck
2007-11-07 14:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋