well if you ever read any of my post you know i been going through some really tough times right now , with my husband. well as of today I decided that yes he may be cheating and maybe not so I think the best thing I can do even though he is disrespecting me is to just keep loving him and let him know Iam here, not saying its okay to betray me but he's obviously feeling guilty just dont want to admit it out of fear, he must love me or he wouldnt be here.because what else can you do about it any ways, may as well just love him and except his love when he gives it and be thank full , no ones perfect and bitching will only make him really leave any ways, i think he is hurting just as bad, so do you think iam right, lifes to short and hes been here this long so i just got to try to except hes not perfect, and maybe thats all we can do right. if hes doing wrong its probally not going to last anyways , and truely i have nothing to fear,when we let fear take over it runs your life.
2007-11-07 05:54:01 · 24 answers · asked by dontcha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow. You would rather love a man who is possiblely cheating on you and completely disrepecting you because why? If he is cheating, it may not last long this time but what about the next time. And by letting his disrepecting you and you still loving him you ARE telling him it is okay.
I am sorry to hear about your bad times but now maybe the time to pull your head out of your *** and find someone who will love you without all the cheating and disrespect.
2007-11-07 06:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being ridiculous. If he is cheating on you he does NOT love you. He doesn't have a fear, he just thinks your stupid for not knowing and believing every word he says. Believe me he's not hurting honey. You are. You are a damn fool to stay with this man. nobody's perfect, you're right on that one. But you can find someone thats far more perfect than what your with now. And another thing your right about... life is short, so why stay with a man who plays head games and disrespects you rather than getting away and being happy for once. I think you have a fear of being alone. you need to get over it and move on. nobody deserves this.
2007-11-07 06:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he has cheated or cheating on you, you got every right to know. I am going to tell you why. A brother of a friend of mine cheated on his wife, contracted AIDS and never told her about it. He kept having unprotected sex with her while he was taking his cocktail. All the while because he was afraid she will leave him. Well, she got AIDS too and died from it. Now, you can sit there and say all of this and in the meantime, your husband maybe feeling sad or bitter about something else other than feeling guilty over cheating on you. Oh, by the way, when the wife died she left 3 kids behind for him to raise all by himself. He is a nurse. You would have thought he would do better than that.
2007-11-07 06:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's hurting in simple terms as undesirable? He has a spouse who is going to stay, cook dinner and have intercourse with him and he or she shall we him have a woman buddy!! whilst your excepting that he isn't perfect he's excepting that he has a doormat for a spouse. Why justify this habit?. If a guy gets caught and the spouse believes he's sorry, it somewhat is okay. frequently the difficulty is the the AFFAIR end. do no longer enable your self be used this form. Take a deep breath and look deep for your self admire. i'm no longer being recommend to you, regardless of if a woman alongside with your self merits to be enjoyed with the aid of no longer a pefect guy, yet a minimum of a standard one. you may Love him, yet nevertheless no longer enable your self to be disrespected. Please get up for your self.
2016-10-15 09:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by federica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being dumb.
You are trying to be positive.
You have a good outlook on several things.
You seem to be willing to be realistic rather than demand perfection.
You also will not let someone take advantage of your kindness and walk all over you.
I think you are headed in the right direction.
It may not be the 100% best choice, but that doesn't make it bad either.
It may be good enough for you, and that's what's important.
Good luck!!
2007-11-07 06:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're running your own life based on fear. If you don't already have one, get an education, do something for yourself and realize your worth. You, as a person, are worth more than he is letting you believe. Don't let him empower you. Stand up for yourself and either suggest he stop sheating and seek psychiatric help, or pack your bags. If you don't, you will always wonder and it will end up tearing you apart anyway. There is someone out there who will love you just as much and more without cheating.
2007-11-07 06:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Panda Bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you'll eventually get mad enough and change your mind about this. just because he's with you does NOT mean he loves you...sorry. there could be MANY reasons he's staying, one comes to mind that you don't care if he cheats and he's not getting in any trouble so why not stay? you're in despair right now and not thinking clearly...you'll wake up one day and realize that you deserve better, it'll take time but it will happen. life IS too short so why waste the time and love youhave on someone that has no respect for himself or you? good luck, i hope you wake up sooner than later and leave.
2007-11-07 06:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it will eventually stop, that is not true. If you are going to stay with him then you need to talk to him about what he is doing and tell him how much pain he has caused you and that he is going to have to stop if he still wants or loves you. He may not be man enough to stop himself and if he doesn't want to stop then he is not man enough to tell you or leave you. If he is going to be hurting you and is not going to stop then you need to get out of the relationship and find a better one. You don't deserve that; You deserve better, someone who will treat you like you need, someone who looks at you and thinks to himself "man I can't believe I got so luck, to be with her!" If this man is continually hurting you then he doesn't really love you, if he does then when you have a talk with him about it he should stop what he is doing and stick by your side. If he doesn't then your best bet is to find something better because you definitely deserve it. Hope this Helps You and Good luck to You!!!
2007-11-07 06:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Leslie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dontcha, Dear you are making a mistake by accepting less than you deserve. Cheating is not only satanic but it may turn deadly for you both ! People are not perfect your right but cheating is a deliberate choice that we can control ! May the lord protect you and keep you !
2007-11-07 06:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hope you'll be that understanding when you are dying from AIDS. What gave you the right to feel so low about yourself. You sit and LET that man walk all over you, for the sake of keeping him. Gosh! give me a break.
2007-11-07 16:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋