I have been on Yahoo answers and very shocked at the amount of cheaters that are out there. Do you not have morals? Are you that selfish that you do not care about the other persons feelings? If you want to cheat why don't you end your relationships first?
2007-11-07 05:01:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if a person is that unhappy in their relationship why not end it first and then go on with your life but some people have no morals
2007-11-07 05:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well - I have not cheated - but I certainly understand why some people do (as opposed to ending their relationship first).....
Yes, its a selfish act, but usually its a symptom of larger issues within the relationship.
If there is a lack of intimacy (not just sex - but intimacy in all forms) in the relationship, one partner has (or is) trying their best to remedy this fact, but the other could care less - this leads to cheating.....
They figure, "I don't get talked to, I don't get attention, I don't get any sex, and here's this other person willing to fill this void in my life....." Well it just happens.
Now - if you're dating, I see no reason for it. Just leave the person and start over.
If married - there are multiple reasons a person might cheat instead of getting divorced first. The most common is kids !! If everything else (besides the sex life) is good in your relationship, then WHY put the family through that?
As a man, why should I give up 1/2 (or more like 2/3) of my stuff I've worked my entire life to attain (via allimony and child support), just because my wife decides she doesn't want to put out anymore, yet I still have a strong sex drive?
As a woman (with or without kids), say you have a husband who provides financially better than you could have hoped for.... yet - he's emotionally unavailible. You meet the hot "starving artist" type that really lights your fire...... but could NEVER support you the way you are used to living..... you are more likely to stay in your marriage and just "commision" your artist friend.
For most cheaters - while it is a selfish act - it is also about filling a void in their otherwise fullfilled life. So, they figure why not have the best of both worlds?
Heck - there are women out there that KNOW their husbands cheat - yet they stay with him. There are men that KNOW their wives step out - yet stick around !!!
WHY ?!?!? - Because its only ONE aspect of the relationship. In many cases, its not worth throwing away multiple years of building up assests, circles of friends, and a life together.
For those that are so hell bent on their views - wait until you've been married for 10+ years with a couple kids and see how the relationship changes over time. You'll have gained some perspective by that time.
Again - I don't condone it - but I completely understand how it can happen.
2007-11-07 13:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Did you notice that the cheaters responded to your questions with a tone of anger and a few of the responses were not as nice. Poor babies I almost feel sorry for them. NOT.
2007-11-07 13:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by no 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you, there are people who cheat, but not as many that you are "shocked" about. you are in the marriage & divorce section. most of the people here had affairs....but they are not a good sample of every one else.
cheating is wrong. i think its a very selfish act.
2007-11-07 13:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, I think is very wrong to do, I have done it but when I was younger and didn't know better I am now 23 and I know is a wrong thing to do.
2007-11-07 13:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by schedar21 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because ending their relationship first would be something a normal person WITH moral values would do. A self-absorbed, immoral person can not answer a normal question.
2007-11-07 16:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋
....cheaters....seems that a lot of people are just wanting a temporary thing....but always someone gets hurt....not worth it for anyone....
2007-11-07 13:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by answergirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Amen!
2007-11-07 13:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone ended the relationship and then cheated, then it wouldn't be cheating now would it?
2007-11-07 13:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Avatar 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
People have been cheating for literally thousands of years, so this post won't make for some miraculous change.
2007-11-07 13:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋