i just got back from rome ani found out as soon as i got on msn that my friend is 2 months pregnant...
Her parents dont kno bout the bf ad the baby
she dont' want the baby cos she wants a career
also heres a major problem, her bfs gonna split up with her but remains friends with her if she has the abortion...if she have the baby he'll split up wiht her nyway but won't see him ever again...and she still loves him. she wants to get rid of the baby and stay with him as well as a relationship.
also answer her question plase...for a boys point of view why would he want to split up wiht ehr ater this
she says hes not selfish, hes nice, kind and quite shy
and tats it for now...sorry for it bein so long.
2007-11-07 04:44:00 · 19 answers · asked by :) 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
and uh..i'm a male i'm not the one pregnatnt its me m8
2007-11-07 04:53:01 · update #1
shes 14, and her parents don t know and she dont dare
2007-11-07 04:53:54 · update #2
He's probably scared of the commitment. But please do everything you can to keep her from having an abortion--tell her that it will leave her emotionally scarred. Also, the guy can't just leave because he will have to support her--there's DNA tests to prove he's the father. Good luck!
2007-11-07 04:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is in a pickle. Talk to your friend. Let them know that having a baby is a huge responsible and should not be taken lightly. Having a baby or aborting one on behalf of a relationship is childish. A baby is an 18+ year commitment. Relationships end everyday. On Monday morning everything could be perfect, by that afternoon that same relationship could end. So tell them to go away and come up with her own answer. Getting advice from individuals that could be very well temporary is not the best of answers. Tell your friend that whatever decision they makes they have to live with that decision for the rest of their life. I'm not just talking about keeping the baby; I'm talking about aborting the baby too. Just because a women has an abortion, doesn't mean her problems are 'solved'. One day this friend may want to have kids and find herself difficulty having them. Anything is possible in the future. We just never know. Tell your friend to really think about this decision.
Whatever decision they make, I wish the best for them.
2007-11-07 05:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by Joy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, her boyfriend is partly responsible for making this baby and if he really was that nice, responsible, etc... he would stick around for her. Any guy who helps create a baby, then threatens to split, is a jerk, and she shouldn't stay with him either way. I'm very much against abortion if its for the sake of convenience. I've had trouble conceiving for the past 8 years and I know what it takes to make a child, so for someone to get knocked up so easily and just abort due to inconvinience is shocking to me. She was irresponsible enough to get pregnant without getting married, so she should at least do the right think and give the baby up for adoption where it can have a nice two parent loving home.
2007-11-07 04:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tootiefrootie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs to be away from the boyfriend until she can clear her head. You didn't say how old she is. Tell her that her friends (and her family if you believe they will) will be there for her. Go over how she might feel if she were to end a pregnancy knowing the baby has a heartbeat at this point. Don't let him pressure her into doing something she will regret. He may change his mind later. At the very least she should go for childsupport from the father.
Good luck
2007-11-07 04:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you 2 are young. It may be in your friends best interest to discuss this with her parents and drop the guy. If he is willing to have sex with her but not stay around and care for the baby then he isn't worth her time. If she really doesn't want a child right now, she could consider giving it up for adoption.
2007-11-07 04:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all a REAL boyfriend would never treat a girl like that, so she needs to dump him and take care of herself. She shouldn't have an abortion so he will be her friend. If she doesn't want the baby tell her that there are so many people that would love to adopt. Good luck!!
2007-11-07 04:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by cbsncmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there =]
It was her own fault for getting pregnant. She's only, 14, that is a very tender age. It was her own mistake. She can learn from it.
It is her own responisibilty to bring it up. Her career will be on hold that's for sure. Tell her to go to her parents immediately. She will regret it if she doesn't.
He will split up with her, because he's acting selfish doesn't want to handle the consequences. He doesn't want any trouble he just wants to go dicking around probably.
Best of luck
Victoria
2007-11-07 06:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her boyfriend can't force her to have an abortion. If he can't man up and take responsibility for his child, that's his problem. If your friend has an abortion simply because her boyfriend tells her to, she will come to regret that decision very much. The least she could do is give this child up for adoption. So many couples are out there just praying for the opportunity to parent a child.
2007-11-07 04:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A man that will stay friends with you with conditions does not and will never truly love you. Tell her to keep the baby love the baby and take her time finding a man who will truly love her and her baby no matter what. And he may not be selfish but he is controlling and love does not control.
2007-11-07 04:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Aunt Tita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should break up with her boyfriend even though she loves him. He seems to be a selfish, arrogant *******. She also needs to talk to her family and decide what to do with the baby. Adoption is another option.... why have an abortion when she can adopt. I understand she might be very very young but she needs to be strong and not to think about herself right now.
2007-11-07 04:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Elsa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋