My wife asked if I could make a better effort to wiping down the table after dinner and with cleaning out the sink. I agreed and made the request that she stop using the sink as a garbage bowl when she cooks.
The thing is she took offense to my request, which I thought was reasonable. I find it very disgusting to pile up egg shells, meat packaging and misc pieces of vegatables in the sink which will have to be removed by hand.
I just looked at her thinking "Wow she is acting like a spoiled brat."
So do you think she was right to act the was she did?
2007-11-07 03:53:55 · 28 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do have a garbage disposal, however we have a split sink. One side standard sink and the other side garbage disposal. (Now if she put this stuff on the side with a disposal, do you really think I would ask this question?)
2007-11-07 04:16:48 · update #1
BTW, I do cook. Very well even if I do say so myself. It seems odd to me that so many people are stuck in "his/her" role thinking.
2007-11-07 04:46:55 · update #2
Its just the opposite in my house, my husband does the same thing its so annoying.
2007-11-07 04:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by shorte716 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Peachpie. There is a garbage for a purpose. If she wants to clean up as she goes, she should put the food in there and not in the sink. Otherwise, maybe she is trying to tell you she needs a garbage disposal unit in the sink? Buy one at Home Depot as a gift and end the argument there...
2007-11-07 04:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds pretty petty to me. BUT I would ask her politely to use a small grocery or trash bag on the counter when she cooks instead of the sink. It makes it easier to clean up.
Is she spoiled? I don't know her and dont have enough information to give an opinion.
We all take offense to dumb things once in a while.
I get mad when my husband turns off a light right after I've just turned it on.
The key here I guess would be to pick your battles wisely, or just ignore the trivial stuff.
2007-11-07 04:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband argue about the same thing. He cooks, and refuses to clean his mess, rather its flour on the counter top, egg shells in sink, spilled milk, you name it. It pisses me off, but I talked to him about it and we agreed that one will cook and the other will clean, vice versa. You have to compromise. Purchase a small trash can for her, and put it in the kitchen or you can do what me and my hubby does. Take turns cooking and cleaning. It shouldnt be a big deal but its weird how the smallest things get to some people. I totally understand how you feel, been there .. done that.
Someone has to clean it ( kitchen) so dont make a big deal, do your share and talk to her. I dont think she is spoiled, if she was spoiled she wouldnt cook for you at all! This is a small misunderstanding that is being twisted into something major. Talk to her, and it will fall into place.
2007-11-07 07:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your wife does not sound spoiled at all, you sound resentful of helping out. Remember that garbage you found in the sink was from her working hard to cook you a meal. I always leave stuff like that in my sink and either I or my husband clean it up. It was a very small favor she asked of you, stop complaining.
2007-11-07 04:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she is acting like a spoiled brat.
The garbage belongs in the trash can, not in the sink.
Basically, she is trashing the sink and then she is not happy with your cleaning.
I would have made the same request as you did.
She needs to realize that this (a marriage) is not "I dirty and you clean", this is a cooperative effort.
If she throws the garbage in the trash can and you make a little more effort cleaning the sink, it would be a lot cleaner.
Good Luck.
2007-11-07 03:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she may have been thinking that it was a simple request..since she is the one cooking dinner for you. And she may have taken it as a sarcastic comment on your behalf. To suggest that she is using the sink as a "trash can" which i agree with you on that one...but she did make the dinner...and maybe it was poor timing on your behalf when all she was doing was asking for a little help from you whe she made the dinner. I don't think she is spoiled..If that were the case, you'd be the one making dinner ;)~ Heehee
2007-11-07 04:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by simplymel78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't really say spoiled, but I don't see why she can't throw all that crap away to begin with instead of piling it up. It's really an unnecessary mess. I wouldn't be cleaning out the sink when she's the one making the mess. All this could be avoided by simply putting a trashcan out while she cooks. At least you help a little, not everyone has a hubby who does that.
2007-11-07 04:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your request was perfectly reasonable. It's one thing to put things in there that are eventually going in the disposal, but I don't understand throwing things in the sink that are destined for the garbage can anyway. Maybe she was reacting to your tone?
2007-11-07 04:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if she expects you to clean out the sink then she shouldn't be using it as a garbage bowl so yeah, her reaction was a bit unreasonable. Buy her a big bowl that she can use for a garbage bowl and your problem will be solved.
2007-11-07 03:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by LB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to compromise. you were right in expecting her not to dirty the sink if you are willing to change something she does not like. I use a plastic bag when i am cooking and i put potato skins, egg shells etc into it. I then throw the bag into the bin. It saves allot of mess.
2007-11-07 04:00:14 · answer #11 · answered by fi fi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋