i just got a letter to do a DNA test because my ex is saying he is not the father when he knows exactly that he is, he told me that he knows that he is the father but now csa is envolved and he doesnt want to pay so is saying he is not the father, i wanna kinda get a little revenge and i would like to start with some nasty text provoking him, any ideas?
2007-11-07 03:35:46 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would put it behind you. He should pay the cost of the test. Living well is the best revenge.
Take care,
Dana
2007-11-07 03:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dana A 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ok for starters, he might say he's not the father and he goes through the process of the DNA testing,he's still going to have to pay, the csa charge him from the first day they contacted him and they still keep charging him no matter how long it takes to do the dna and get the results, also he has to pay about £250 - £300 for the DNA costs as well...so even though he's doing it (and unless he really isn't the father), he'll be paying out more than he would have in the first place..oh and he will pay, cuz they'll take it from his wages if he doesn't and if he leaves his job they'll set the bailiffs on him now.
Don't bother with revenge, what goes around comes around, he'll get it in the end and besides no matter what there is children involved, don't ruin it for them.... Good Luck
2007-11-07 03:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think again of revenge. Not only will you get nowhere, but you will be leaving behind a hole in your future case against him.
Also, you a parent now, and it's time to act like it. Keep it formal, and keep it respectful.
Proven a father, not only can he get visitation, he can corrupt the child or even take the child away. Do you really want to do something that stupid, just because he wants the DNA test.
Give him his test and focus on your child, not the father.
2007-11-07 03:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, revenge sounds good, BUT, thats what you do in the playground! So do the DNA test show him up, and live life to the full, you only get 1 chance at it, and then you can say you have enjoyed urself, and you have hit him were it hurts in his pocket!!!! That would be revenge too me, proving him wrong and him paying, and men dont like to part with there hard earned cash. Life is too short believe me I know, its the most precious thing, so you enjoy it.
2007-11-07 03:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by twiggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know about texting him, but something that would really piss him off would be if after the DNA test confirms he is the father get a really good lawyer and make him pay out of his behind until that child is 18, that will make him curse you for a very long time.
2007-11-07 03:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by skibm80 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm.
The saying is.. revenge is "a dish best served cold".
What does "texting" do for you -- except weaken your case, when he can prove you're crazy or obsessive or abusive yourself? (do you want that? then leave him alone, for NOW). What you should do, is do what you think is best -- in your case, concentrate on the delivery/health of the baby... just let him know (and everyone else around you) that sometime next year, he'll hear from your lawyers. By all means, get advice & consultation from 2-3 attorneys -- but don't dwell on it. After that, and next year, you may proceed.
Because really, now you don't need "revenge" (although your hormones are firing, telling you differently). You need Child Support -- down the line... and to establish that he's the bio-father. PS - Good luck.
2007-11-07 03:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As difficult as this situation must be for you - don't do anything. He's probably counting on the fact that you're going to try some stunt to get back at him. By doing nothing, and taking care of your child, it'll make him squirm a bit. I concur with the other folks when they said that you should get a lawyer and see what your options are. And take the test, because then he'll be shown to be a complete jerk when the test comes back positive. He's already messing up his life. Don't make it easier by playing the crazy ex bit - that's what he wants!
2007-11-07 03:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by KatieQ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't! This is serious business, and you need to think of the child...........not revenge. Just do the DNA test and be done with it. He is saying he is not the child's father, and the DNA test will prove that he is. Let the csa deal with his lies.
2007-11-07 03:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by laurel g 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting revenge would be childish and foolish, it will only bite you in the end. The best revenge is to live well. Don't stoop to a level of immaturity, just care for your child and do the test. It all comes out in the wash. Best wishes to you and your child.
2007-11-07 03:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mayapple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as cassapull.... said, Stay Calm. I know that people here love to blog and answer these questions and be funny. But, anyone that would give you ideas to do something negative is not right. If your story is true, stay calm, and talk to him to understand where he is coming from and vice versa. Ask urself, "Have i done anything to make him question the results?".. If not, then just communicate with him. You all have a child together. Make it work and stay positive for the childs sake. God bless and i hope all works out for you. :)
2007-11-07 03:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Gods Son 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not the answer it only makes things worse... The best is to just cut people that have no positve impact on you out of your life for good nothing will hurt that person more than knowing that they no longer have the power to get to you!!
2007-11-07 03:41:07 · answer #11 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋