What exactly do women find complicated about men ?

Question

I do not see what women find so confusing about how men act.

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I found it odd in that thread how many women said men were the most confusing thing to them.

The male thought process is something of a checklist... but basically...

Sleep, Food, Sex, Entertainment.

So a man wakes up, Sleep is checked off, he then eats, checks off another item for the time being, goes to work to earn money to pay for his home to sleep in and for food to eat. Stops for lunch, goes back to work. Finishes work and eats dinner. He then spends the remainder of his day either trying to have sex with someone, or failing in that endeavour, settles for an alternate source of entertainment such as TV or drinking beer at the local bar/pub. Then he goes to sleep and the cycle begins anew.

The key problem I see in every single situation where a woman says she doesn't understand the man, is that she is thinking like a woman. With consequences and possibilities and other options...

I think a few mentioned not knowing why men cheat. In every case where I know one of my friends cheated on someone they were with, the reason they would offer, is basically that she was hot, and it seemed like a good idea at the time. Not one of them even thought for a second about the consequences...

Answer 1

Yeah; in the famous words of Jeff Foxworthy, "I want a beer & I want to see someone naked".

Or as Frank Zappa so eloquently put it, "Is there any beer in this place & when do I get paid?"

Answer 2

You would think that it would be the other way around. Just based upon biology - the fact that men do not have the same hormonal fluctuations that women do - they are more consistent (unless they are psychotic), than are women. What vinster82 said is essentially true about the male sex, in my experience.

I had 6 brothers and a bunch of uncles growing up, so maybe had an edge on it - if you can call it that - but men have always been much easier for me to figure out than women, who are still oftentimes an enigma to me - and I am one of them!

Answer 3

at first, when women are just started to be exposed to sexuality and men, we are confused. We are not only confused about men, but we are confused about ourselves. Most people seem to learn about themselves a bit faster than the opposite sex, therefore, they are befuddled.

I was confused. When I started dating I had no idea what men wanted. Granted I was 14 at the time, but still, you have to start sometime. After the few "boyfriends" I had, I finally grew up and started dating. I was ever more confused. Anyway, long story short, I've now found the one. I ask him all these questions about men, and it's true. Men are simple creatures and women overcomplicate everything. Plain and simple.

Answer 4

I'm with you there. I think men think in the most simplest form (and I mean that in a good way). I suppose some women feel that there should be more to how men act and it's not like that. I often see women try to dig deep for the reasons of men's actions and there really isn't anything more than what they are saying or showing.

Answer 5

Cloud think about it like this: What do you do when you are upset about something/have a problem?

Assuming you are a man i recon you either: distract yourself by playing games, reading the newspaper etc or you go and try and sit/wander/lie by yourself somewhere and work it out in your head. You are particularly satisfied when you solve the problem without any help.

When women have a problem the first thing they do is find someone else to tell about it, then (assuming that person is also a girl) the other person listens and tries to make them feel better by being there for them.

Can you see where the confusion starts coming in?

Girl sees guy upset, goes to offer comfort and make him talk about it.
Guy, needing to be alone to work out the problem, becomes annoyed because she is distracting him.

She thinks "why won't he tell me whats wrong? doesn't he like me? all my (girl) friends would tell me their problems. And why is he now angry with me? thats just plane rude i'm only trying to help him." = Men are extremely confusing to women

and visa versa because: "why is she always moaning at me about all her problems? is it because im not good enough?" etc etc.

similar problems arise elsewhere: Don't you just hate it when you are trying to do something and someone comes and tells you a "better" way to do it? kinds steals your thunder right?

So the girl decides to offer advise on map reading because you are obviously lost. For girls its an act of love to offer help, for men its an insult to their capabilities. More confusion insues because she can't understand why you are getting really stubborn and angry when she just was lovingly helping you.

And so on...

So as you can see we are just as confusing to women as they are to us :)

edit: Your additional details comment there was hilarious! one for the quote bank if ever i did see one!

Answer 6

i think a mans "aloofness" really confuses women.
i do not know a woman alive that has a well, this happened let's roll with it mentality, instead they have to analyze why it happened, what could have been done to prevent it from happening and how to punish not only the poor ******* that did it , but the poor bastards that allowed it to happen in the first place.

i see this in my wife and am starting to see it in my teenage daughter, when i tell them to just relax and calm down, that everything will work out okay, they freak and have to come up with all of these what if scenarios-- to which i ask them okay what if that doesn't happen?

Answer 7

Men don't express themselves like women do, so we never know what you're thinking.. you don't really tell us.
We also don't understand why you cheat, can sleep with a lot of girls without being labeled, and get away with more than we can. It's not that we think you're bad.. we just...don't really understand the way guys' minds work..

Answer 8

Well for one, most of the time they send mixed signals.
Two, they can't make up their mind.
Three, a good amount of them are very childish.
Four, they are very conceded.
And five, it's extremely hard to trust men most of the time because four out of five times, they're gonna cheat. Most of them(with a few exceptions) make they're so called "lover" feel needed or special and then end up tearing their heart to pieces.
Sadly, I know from experience...

Im not talking about all men either, so don't think im being a b****. Just most of them.

Answer 9

The fact that they seem to find it difficult to express how they feel. They won't cry if they hurt. It won't make them any less of a man. Only a more sensative one. They can't easily say how they feel about a girl. I love you is a very scary word for them. How do I know? I live with one. It has taken me 20 years to teach him that its' ok to cry and I do expect him to say I love you at least once a year. That is what is so confusing, why shouldn't they express how they feel. You never know where you are with them.

Answer 10

Women are complicated so they over complicate everything else as well. Men are some of THE simplest creatures on the planet. Feed us, give us sex, the rest is gravy...