Ok here's my dilema: My BF and I live together and split the bills 50/50 except credit cards and car payments. Well we both have checking accounts but HE doesn't have checks which he needs for his one credit card payment online. Well last month I told him I'll pay it and he paid me back, but yesterday I was balancing my account and noticed he made a payment but it came out of my account and he didn't tell me or give me the money. He couldn't have said he didn't know because you have to verify the info. on the account before submitting payment and he also needs a check # before processing. So my question is how upset should I be about this and what do I say to him?
2007-11-07 03:28:34 · 12 answers · asked by mickey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok maybe there was some cofussion we pay our own credit cards and car payments ourselves he has his own checking account but no checks his credit card has to be paid by check I paid it last month but he gave me the money but this month it was paid and the only way I knew that w as by checking my account online.
2007-11-07 03:44:04 · update #1
One time, it may have slipped his mind. Don't be too concerned unless it repeats.
If he needs checks, bark at him to get off his duff and get checks. There are plenty of check-supply companies; he does NOT have to buy them through his bank.
2007-11-07 03:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, so, he STOLE money from you, and you want to know "how upset" you should be?? Ideally, you wouldn't need advice on how upset you should be that someone with whom you are supposed to be intimate is STEALING from you, but since you apparently do, here it is - you should be VERY upset!
The fact that he is using YOUR financial and personal banking information without your knowledge or consent is a big warning sign. If you can't trust someone with your financial information, you shouldn't be living with them.
This is just another reason that I always tell people that living together and combining finances without a serious commitment (ie - marriage) is a BAD IDEA!
For all the people saying "it's not a big deal," "it just slipped his mind"... what if she'd said "My roommate used my account information to pay her bills?" Everyone would be throwing a fit and insisting that she call the cops. This is the SAME THING! If someone is not your spouse and does not have your permission to take money from YOUR checking account, then they are commiting a crime if they do so.
2007-11-07 11:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just calmly ask him about it. Chances are he just forgot about it. Tell him to call his bank and have them order him more checks because his payments won't be coming out of your account again, no matter the circumstances. Oh, and make sure since it was his credit card payment, that he pays you back.
2007-11-07 11:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by terribrooke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well don't be to made maybve he is going to give you the money tell him nicly hey I was balancing my checkbook and I noticed that you took money out of my account what is going on and tell him it was a purchase that he made tell him that you need that money for other bills and have him give it to you then and there end of story and tell him if next time he can tell you before talking any money out of your account.
2007-11-07 11:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be upset yet. Ask him about it first. He could have forgotten that he did it or he just forgot to tell you. Ask him about it. Then decide how mad to get. Make sure he understands your boundaries. His lack of checks shouldn't be your problem. He needs to find another way to pay that card unless you're willing to keep doing that for him.
2007-11-07 11:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first you are only bf and gf...I would NOT start that crap now ...do not start paying his bills...that car payment is his bill not yours...
I would have a big discussion on this...in fact, I would go so far as to change my checking account number so this could not happen again...and I would NOT put his name on the account
2007-11-07 11:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my eyes that is stealing. I would definately confront him about it, I would tell him all he had to do was ask. That is totally not acceptable for him to just go ahead and take money from you.
2007-11-07 11:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He owes you the money fair and square, or you just deafult to that amount and tell him he needs to pay in the balance. Fair's fair.
2007-11-07 12:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be a little upset cause he is lying and stealing money from you.
2007-11-07 11:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of asking him? He might have an honest answer.
Change your bank password for now w/o telling him.
2007-11-07 12:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by C>/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋