I have a hard time geting my husband to give back in terms of affection what I give. Is that normal
2007-11-07 03:16:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It never works out that way. You must love the person without any thought of getting back . In other words unconditional love. That is what i do. What you get is what you get back. If you are happy or not that depends on the quality of what you get back too.
Very good question
2007-11-07 03:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by 747pilot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks but its probably normal. I get what I give. I've noticed that if all you do is expect it you wont get anything. When I'm sweet and do things for him he does it back and when he does do something I go out of my way to say thank you and tell him what exactly I am appreciative of. I hope this doesnt stop when we get married. Right now I get what I give. If my husband was having a problem giving back what I give I would talk to him about it and find help with this. I hope he wasnt like this before marriage cuz then I would say you made a mistake. Also, maybe you dont give that much so he doesnt notice it. (I obviously dont know how much affection you give but try other stuff like watching the game with him or doing things he likes rather than just kissing him or being sweet guys need ACTION not just emotion. ) Good luck.
2007-11-07 12:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by LilybearPDP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see people complain about things not being fair between what they give and get in a relationship. The interesting thing is that its how the see it.
People will itemize every single thing they do, but discount EVERYTHING their spouse does do.
She makes dinner - one point for her
He mows the lawn - NO THAT DOES NOT COUNT
She drops the kids off at school- one point for her
He changes the oil on the car - NO THAT DOES NOT COUNT
It seems that unless the spouse does exactly what the person wants and at the time they want it done EVERYTHING THEY DO DOES NOT MATTER.
I suspect you have to open your eyes before you say things aren't fair.
2007-11-07 11:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But it's just not husbands, it's individuals. Some people are comfortable showing affection, others aren't. Does your husband show you his love by treating you with respect? Is he kind, loyal and loving? If he is, be grateful for what you have. We have to recognize what we have, not what we don't have.
2007-11-07 11:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men and women feel that same way far as giving and taking. Maybe they aren't as affectionate as you may want them to be but I'm sure he kiss you and hugs you right? If not then there needs to be conversation and if not fixed though talking then positive actions need to be made.
2007-11-07 11:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by carolinafame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like that before you got married. If not, you need to remind him of that and tell him that your affection may get less if he does not show you more affection. Always prepare for the worse.
2007-11-07 11:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yea and I bet you get tons of responses on the same answer. Men have well most men don't do the affection thing. they love ya but thats where it stops. affection to him is that he works and helps support you...lol
2007-11-07 11:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men show love in a different way for instance you say it words and he migth show you with actions show he how you want to love.
2007-11-07 11:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you're an English singer
2007-11-07 11:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend don't give back what I give her
2007-11-07 11:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋