My ex sees our daughter maybe for 3 hours per week. Our daughter is 6 and all she wants is for him to pay attention to her. He is now starting to date his ex girlfriend who is married, but going through a seperation, not to mention, her oldest son is more than likely my ex's. Her husband has NO IDEA!!
I think this is just plain ridiculous, not to mention he still owes me 2500 is child support, but is helping her with an attorney to get the divorce.
I have gotten along with all of his ex girlfriends. I just feel that our daughter should not be pushed into a relationship with this girl. For the 3 hours he sees her per week, I think he could hang out with her alone, not with his girlfriend there. He wants to have his girlfriend and her two kids (remember one might be his) move in with him. Am I wrong for thinking this will CRUSH our daughter? What if she gets close or in the future has a crush on her son...HELLO, that could be her brother!! I feel like I am deceiving her!!!
2007-11-07 02:42:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I THINK THAT HE WANTS THE YOUR DAUGHTER AND HIS GF TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP, BUT HE DOES NOT HAVE TO BRING HER "EVERY" TIME.
2007-11-07 02:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by MISS TT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you don't have any control over who your ex chooses to date and/or remarry. So while you have legitimate reason to not want someone like this to be a step-mother to your child, the BEST thing for you to do is smile and NEVER say anything nasty about either of them in front of your child. Always watch out for opportunities to protect her from harm, but know that this is one of the results of divorce, and find a way to be the best mom you can be despite it.
As for the new girlfriend, quite frankly, I'd send her husband an anonymous note (or have a friend call him from a payphone) and let him know WHO she's cheating with and your suspicions about her oldest child.
I would also petition the court for him to have supervised visitation ONLY, citing the fact that you believe there will serious emotional harm to your child to live in an environment where the moral standards are so low that your ex would be living with a woman who is already married, etc. It's worth a try.
If he's only seeing her 3 hours a week, thank goodness....and find a steady man to be in her life. A grandfather, uncle...someone who can give her attention and love.
2007-11-07 02:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I truly relate and understand. Secondly, you are right to see that your daughter comes first...take action and get that 'delayed' child support. It only takes a few minutes to print, write and send out a small application check, then that would ease one thing on your mind. Be strong about it, you strike me in your words to be as I am, we try to be the nice ones in all the array of frustration. Take the steps necessary to make sure he takes care of his responsibilities to your daughter- child support first, then call him about his actions. Being open about it gives credibility for you in the long run; explain how the visits with company make you uncomfortable and you would rather he spend time with your daughter only....it seems that he is playing the control card, and he will shed light upon how you remarried I am sure. Rebuttal, women are usually much more particular with whom their children are around and you should portray that at all times. Oh my, now I seem to be swaying a little more on strength and falling off target....all you can do is make your opinion known, if he respects that he should comply or try a compromise. God Bless and good luck!
2007-11-07 02:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making up problems that are not there yet. This is your exs time and he should be able to do what ever he thinks is best even if it is totally ridiculious. He has to make his own mistakes and then learn from them. Your daughter will be alright, she will soon learn how stupid her dad is. If you know for a fact he is helping this woman with lawyers and such then you need to drag his bu** back to court.
2007-11-07 02:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you...the time that your ex spends with his daughter should be time just for the two of them. Perhaps your could tell you ex that your daughter needs some alone time with him.
2007-11-07 02:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your ex does with other people is none-of-your-business. You shouldn't even know about his life... You should only be worried about getting child support and making sure he spends his time with her. You sound ridiculous.
2007-11-07 02:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's more like you are trying to control him. Your daughter will be fine. But he should be up to date on his child support before he starts helping anyone else out.
2007-11-07 02:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dave G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋